people without kids just don’t get it

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We don’t want to get it.

+1 lol. Or, we get it well enough, and we said hell to the no!

This. I always think it’s weird when people say child free children don’t understand how much work children are. Him, yes, maybe we do, and maybe that’s why we don’t have kids! Now if you’re talking about a 25-year-old who doesn’t have kids and wants them, maybe that’s a different story. But someone who is 40 inches and not have kids? Yeah, actually, maybe we do know how much work it is. To me it looks indescribably exhausting and I don’t think I could do it

Some fascinating typos, autocorrects or whatever these are

What's Saturday night without drunk posts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does it matter, OP? Unless they are providing unhelpful advice to you (which honestly other parents are probably even better at), why should they or you care if they "get it"?

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We don’t want to get it.

+1 lol. Or, we get it well enough, and we said hell to the no!

Exactly this. And to the extent that I make suggestions or remarks about child-rearing, I always start with “you can take this info as you wish given that I don’t have kids….”

[Anonymous]

My husband is the oldest of four. He got it. I didn’t until we had our own. He tried to warn me! 😂

[Anonymous]

I didn't fully get it until I had kids. I thought I was sooo busy. Parenting is no joke. And I don't expect non parents to understand the extent of it.

Yes, it's frustrating to hear my relative without kids talk about how she doesn't know how she'll even have time to pack for this trip or whatever, when I'm sitting here packing for multiple people, including tiny people who need all kinds of extra "stuff" to function away from home. But life isn't a competition, and I did make this life choice. So I smile and nod when she complains, and then I'll go make a bunch of pb&js that someone will whine about.

[Anonymous]

Kids are the easy part for me. I find all aspects of parenting enjoyable and relatively stress free.

It’s freaking MARRIAGE that I hate. I had no idea a grown man would be so much work. No matter how self-sufficient they seem, once kids arrive, it’s like the revert back to adolescence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't fully get it until I had kids. I thought I was sooo busy. Parenting is no joke. And I don't expect non parents to understand the extent of it.

Yes, it's frustrating to hear my relative without kids talk about how she doesn't know how she'll even have time to pack for this trip or whatever, when I'm sitting here packing for multiple people, including tiny people who need all kinds of extra "stuff" to function away from home. But life isn't a competition, and I did make this life choice. So I smile and nod when she complains, and then I'll go make a bunch of pb&js that someone will whine about.

Huh! Try packing for 2 golden retrievers. One with special needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids are the easy part for me. I find all aspects of parenting enjoyable and relatively stress free.

It’s freaking MARRIAGE that I hate. I had no idea a grown man would be so much work. No matter how self-sufficient they seem, once kids arrive, it’s like the revert back to adolescence.

Men are not like this. You reproduced with a manchild.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We don’t want to get it.

+1 lol. Or, we get it well enough, and we said hell to the no!

Exactly this. And to the extent that I make suggestions or remarks about child-rearing, I always start with “you can take this info as you wish given that I don’t have kids….”

when asked or unsolicited?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis.

No, nannies get it. I had no surprises going from being a nanny to being a mother.

+1. Same. I got it when I was a nanny and knew what to expect in motherhood. Motherhood is actually easier than being a nanny.

[Anonymous]

I have two and both are SN. I find that some people get it and some don’t. It doesn’t really fall along a has children/doesn't have children dichotomy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis.

And so what? What it is to you that childfree people don't 'know how much work it is' to raise children? It's almost as if you want to feel superior to us and use our childfree status against us. But in fact, it makes you look bitter about your own lifestyle choice to spawn.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They think they do but unless you’ve had kids, not babysat or nannies, you will never know how much work it is on a daily basis.

No, nannies get it. I had no surprises going from being a nanny to being a mother.

+1. Same. I got it when I was a nanny and knew what to expect in motherhood. Motherhood is actually easier than being a nanny.

My nanny who is excellent said her professional experience put her off having kids LOL

[Anonymous]

Why should they get it?

There are plenty of things I haven’t experienced and wouldn’t get.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought I knew everything there was to know about having kids. And then I had them and I realized I knew nothing.

Could you share some things that you learned?