Guest eating snack straight from bag

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Anonymous wrote:Man, the things I learn on DCUM. Pooping at someone else’s house is rude and popcorn tongs.

Anyway, carry on. Me and my diverse gut microbiota will be here with 🍿.

Don’t forget you’re supposed to put your kids diapers in your purse, and also if you change a tampon or pad it’s a pack it in park it out as well. I don’t think you’re supposed to use tongs with those though. I could be wrong. Positive someone will tell me.

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Anonymous wrote:Um, this is a super weird practice. Your visitor was normal, your family practice is not.

NP. Disagree. We also don't eat out of the bag in our house, just as we don't eat out of the serving bowl at meals. You portion out what you want onto your own/plate bowl and can go back for more. If a guest did this at my home, I'd do what a PP said and buy an extra bag for us/the kids. It would never occur to me to walk into someone's house and start sticking my hand into their snacks. Gross.

So you use a spoon to put the chips/popcorn in your bowl?

I'm the PP you're quoting. No, I don't put out a spoon and have not seen that done for chips/popcorn. You tip the bag and shake a portion out onto your plate/bowl, not reach inside the bag to grab your portion.

Interesting...I would never just put a bag out to serve. I would serve in a bowl.

OK, well you're changing OP's scenario in which a guest took a bag of snacks and stuck hand into it. For everyone who says eating out of the communal bag is fine, does that apply to other snacks? What about ice cream? Where do you draw the line? Just dry snacks?

No, OP here. This is what happened. The guest grabbed the bag from the kitchen and started eating (without asking, which is also rude, IMO). I came into the room shortly after and offered a bowl.

They're a guest. Are they expected to bring their own food? Are you Swedish?

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Anonymous wrote:So if touching anyone else's food is a problem, what would be the protocal for fruit. It I hand you an apple, should I be gloved? Do you need to wash it when you get it? After all those same hands should never touch your potato chip, right?

NP. I will grant you that maybe reaching into a bag of chips to get some onto your plate ONE TIME is OK. Here’s what’s not OK about the guest eating out of the bag: fingers go to mouth, then back to the bag, then back to the mouth, then back to the bag—and you KNOW a little piggy like that is licking his fingers.

I stick the chip in my mouth, not my fingers. How do you eat things at your house?

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Anonymous wrote:So if touching anyone else's food is a problem, what would be the protocal for fruit. It I hand you an apple, should I be gloved? Do you need to wash it when you get it? After all those same hands should never touch your potato chip, right?

Why do you need to “hand” anyone the apple? Set out a bowl of fruit. Guest decides if they want to wash it or not.

Host had to put it in the bowl...maybe a warning post-it about them being touched.

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Anonymous wrote:Um, this is a super weird practice. Your visitor was normal, your family practice is not.

NP. Disagree. We also don't eat out of the bag in our house, just as we don't eat out of the serving bowl at meals. You portion out what you want onto your own/plate bowl and can go back for more. If a guest did this at my home, I'd do what a PP said and buy an extra bag for us/the kids. It would never occur to me to walk into someone's house and start sticking my hand into their snacks. Gross.

So you use a spoon to put the chips/popcorn in your bowl?

I'm the PP you're quoting. No, I don't put out a spoon and have not seen that done for chips/popcorn. You tip the bag and shake a portion out onto your plate/bowl, not reach inside the bag to grab your portion.

Interesting...I would never just put a bag out to serve. I would serve in a bowl.

OK, well you're changing OP's scenario in which a guest took a bag of snacks and stuck hand into it. For everyone who says eating out of the communal bag is fine, does that apply to other snacks? What about ice cream? Where do you draw the line? Just dry snacks?

No, OP here. This is what happened. The guest grabbed the bag from the kitchen and started eating (without asking, which is also rude, IMO). I came into the room shortly after and offered a bowl.

They're a guest. Are they expected to bring their own food? Are you Swedish?

Do you actually go into your host's kitchen and just take food? That's rude no matter where you live.

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Anonymous wrote:Um, this is a super weird practice. Your visitor was normal, your family practice is not.

NP. Disagree. We also don't eat out of the bag in our house, just as we don't eat out of the serving bowl at meals. You portion out what you want onto your own/plate bowl and can go back for more. If a guest did this at my home, I'd do what a PP said and buy an extra bag for us/the kids. It would never occur to me to walk into someone's house and start sticking my hand into their snacks. Gross.

So you use a spoon to put the chips/popcorn in your bowl?

I'm the PP you're quoting. No, I don't put out a spoon and have not seen that done for chips/popcorn. You tip the bag and shake a portion out onto your plate/bowl, not reach inside the bag to grab your portion.

Interesting...I would never just put a bag out to serve. I would serve in a bowl.

OK, well you're changing OP's scenario in which a guest took a bag of snacks and stuck hand into it. For everyone who says eating out of the communal bag is fine, does that apply to other snacks? What about ice cream? Where do you draw the line? Just dry snacks?

No, OP here. This is what happened. The guest grabbed the bag from the kitchen and started eating (without asking, which is also rude, IMO). I came into the room shortly after and offered a bowl.

They're a guest. Are they expected to bring their own food? Are you Swedish?

Do you actually go into your host's kitchen and just take food? That's rude no matter where you live.

Don't have guests.

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We’re talking s as bout one if your kids’ guests here, so a child. They’re under-socialized as guests in people’s homes. Regardless, treat this child the way you would want your own to be treated if they made a gaffe in someone else’s home.
“Here, let me get you bowl”.
If this is the first and only time a play date has gotten under your skin, you’re lucky.

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Anonymous wrote:So if touching anyone else's food is a problem, what would be the protocal for fruit. It I hand you an apple, should I be gloved? Do you need to wash it when you get it? After all those same hands should never touch your potato chip, right?

NP. I will grant you that maybe reaching into a bag of chips to get some onto your plate ONE TIME is OK. Here’s what’s not OK about the guest eating out of the bag: fingers go to mouth, then back to the bag, then back to the mouth, then back to the bag—and you KNOW a little piggy like that is licking his fingers.

I stick the chip in my mouth, not my fingers. How do you eat things at your house?

I pour a serving of chips into a bowl. Because we are not animals.

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Anonymous wrote:Um, this is a super weird practice. Your visitor was normal, your family practice is not.

NP. Disagree. We also don't eat out of the bag in our house, just as we don't eat out of the serving bowl at meals. You portion out what you want onto your own/plate bowl and can go back for more. If a guest did this at my home, I'd do what a PP said and buy an extra bag for us/the kids. It would never occur to me to walk into someone's house and start sticking my hand into their snacks. Gross.

So you use a spoon to put the chips/popcorn in your bowl?

NP. Yes. When we serve food at gatherings or parties, we provide serving utensils like tongs and big spoons. At the very, very least, people in my extended family would pour from a bag of chips onto plates at a BBQ. People don’t reach in and grab. That’s disgusting.

You’re weird. Not once in my entire 50 years of existing seen a serving spoon for chips or popcorn

No need to mention your age…Boomers have notoriously bad kitchen habits and table manners.

Someone who’s 50 years old is gen x not a boomer. The youngest boomers are 57.

Nah a 50 year old with gross kitchen habits and horrible table manners is a Boomer. Old and gross.

I would rather have a guest who puts her hands in the bag, than one who is an ageist @ss spewing alternative facts.

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We are struggling through a pandemic. That is so gross. I would not eat or have my kids eat out of that bag again.

That said, I was in my 20s the first time i saw someone put potato chips into an individual bowl. We just never did that in my household growing up. We ate out of the bag. You learn something new every day.

I would have taken the bag, gotten a bowl out of the cupboard, filled it and handed it to the guest and said, "Help yourself to refills whenever you like -- we keep the snacks in XYZ cupboard."

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Anonymous wrote:So if touching anyone else's food is a problem, what would be the protocal for fruit. It I hand you an apple, should I be gloved? Do you need to wash it when you get it? After all those same hands should never touch your potato chip, right?

NP. I will grant you that maybe reaching into a bag of chips to get some onto your plate ONE TIME is OK. Here’s what’s not OK about the guest eating out of the bag: fingers go to mouth, then back to the bag, then back to the mouth, then back to the bag—and you KNOW a little piggy like that is licking his fingers.

I stick the chip in my mouth, not my fingers. How do you eat things at your house?

You're the poster who thinks their penis is clean so they don't have to wash their hands after using a bathroom, right?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m with you, OP. It’s gross and my kids know better than to do that. I’ve seen people that stick their hand in the chip bowl at parties and I just won’t eat any. Amongst my family and friends when we host we either have tongs out or we’ll use a napkin to grab some chips, never bare hands.

OMG. Where are you from? My husband goes this napkins thing. Grabbing food with napkins, covering food with napkins, holding a sandwich with napkins, opening public doors with a napkin… the amount of paper waste they go through is crazy.

That’s called OCD - fear of contamination.

We're in a pandemic. These are the golden years for OCD germaphobes. People can be as neurotic as they want to be about germs now as far as I'm concerned -- they're doing their part to protect this from spreading. Thank you.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m with you, OP. It’s gross and my kids know better than to do that. I’ve seen people that stick their hand in the chip bowl at parties and I just won’t eat any. Amongst my family and friends when we host we either have tongs out or we’ll use a napkin to grab some chips, never bare hands.

OMG. Where are you from? My husband goes this napkins thing. Grabbing food with napkins, covering food with napkins, holding a sandwich with napkins, opening public doors with a napkin… the amount of paper waste they go through is crazy.

That’s called OCD - fear of contamination.

We're in a pandemic. These are the golden years for OCD germaphobes. People can be as neurotic as they want to be about germs now as far as I'm concerned -- they're doing their part to protect this from spreading. Thank you.

Went to MILs during the height of the pandemic and stayed firm about socializing outside. She brought out a tub of popcorn and reached in with her hands that I know she never washes. I handed everyone bowls "just to make it easier". MIL and FIL whispering about how uptight I was, and that the other grandkids are always in the house. Guess who called the next day, with Covid? Grandma AND those other grandkids. Call me OCD all you want. I kept my family healthy.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m with you, OP. It’s gross and my kids know better than to do that. I’ve seen people that stick their hand in the chip bowl at parties and I just won’t eat any. Amongst my family and friends when we host we either have tongs out or we’ll use a napkin to grab some chips, never bare hands.

OMG. Where are you from? My husband goes this napkins thing. Grabbing food with napkins, covering food with napkins, holding a sandwich with napkins, opening public doors with a napkin… the amount of paper waste they go through is crazy.

That’s called OCD - fear of contamination.

We're in a pandemic. These are the golden years for OCD germaphobes. People can be as neurotic as they want to be about germs now as far as I'm concerned -- they're doing their part to protect this from spreading. Thank you.

Went to MILs during the height of the pandemic and stayed firm about socializing outside. She brought out a tub of popcorn and reached in with her hands that I know she never washes. I handed everyone bowls "just to make it easier". MIL and FIL whispering about how uptight I was, and that the other grandkids are always in the house. Guess who called the next day, with Covid? Grandma AND those other grandkids. Call me OCD all you want. I kept my family healthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are struggling through a pandemic. That is so gross. I would not eat or have my kids eat out of that bag again.

That said, I was in my 20s the first time i saw someone put potato chips into an individual bowl. We just never did that in my household growing up. We ate out of the bag. You learn something new every day.

I would have taken the bag, gotten a bowl out of the cupboard, filled it and handed it to the guest and said, "Help yourself to refills whenever you like -- we keep the snacks in XYZ cupboard."

Unless the adult is 18-20, they aren’t going to care and will eat of the bag. Only a teen or a child would feel
Obligated to correct their gross manners. Grown adult- nope. They clearly already think their ways are totally
Fine and normal