Guest eating snack straight from bag

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you have truly terrible manners. The very worst is when the host HAS provided plates, bowls and serving utensils and they are ignored.

People tend to ignore hyper-odd quirks of others. It's just polite to do so.

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Anonymous wrote:I was raised in a poor household and the idea that someone would judge me for not knowing this rule is the kind of thing that has made life so difficult. I can’t even imagine what other rules I have broken and been judged on. I really struggle to fit into our UMC neighborhood because I am always so nervous that I will say the wrong thing or serve the wrong snack or serve it the wrong way etc. so many rules! So much judgment!

Relax; it's jut the OP. No one does what she is describing except for her own family in the midwest.

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Anonymous wrote:Um, this is a super weird practice. Your visitor was normal, your family practice is not.

NP. Disagree. We also don't eat out of the bag in our house, just as we don't eat out of the serving bowl at meals. You portion out what you want onto your own/plate bowl and can go back for more. If a guest did this at my home, I'd do what a PP said and buy an extra bag for us/the kids. It would never occur to me to walk into someone's house and start sticking my hand into their snacks. Gross.

So you use a spoon to put the chips/popcorn in your bowl?

NP. Yes. When we serve food at gatherings or parties, we provide serving utensils like tongs and big spoons. At the very, very least, people in my extended family would pour from a bag of chips onto plates at a BBQ. People don’t reach in and grab. That’s disgusting.

You’re weird. Not once in my entire 50 years of existing seen a serving spoon for chips or popcorn

No need to mention your age…Boomers have notoriously bad kitchen habits and table manners.

Someone who’s 50 years old is gen x not a boomer. The youngest boomers are 57.

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We use bowls to be aware of portion sizes. I eat a lot more chips if my hand is in the bag.

Seems like OP’s guest found bag on own. Rudeness starts there.

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Anonymous wrote:This is gross, right? We have a big bag of a snack that I bought for the kids to take for their camp snack. In our family if someone wants pretzels or veggie straws or whatever, they put them in a bowl and eat them. We don't bring the bag into the living room or to the table, I think repeatedly sticking your hand inside is gross, especially if you're not a member of our immediate family. I saw this and asked our guest if they wanted to use a bowl and they just stuck their hand back in and said "nope, I'm good!" and kept eating. Shouldn't they have taken the hint? I'm annoyed.

No, they should not have taken the hint, you should have had direct communication if this bothers you so much. "Larla, in out house we don't put our hand back in the bag repeatedly, please put however much you want in a bowl for your personal use," as you hand Larla a bowl.

That is what adults do - they don't play games, they aren't passive aggressive, they communicate clearly.

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Anonymous wrote:Um, this is a super weird practice. Your visitor was normal, your family practice is not.

NP. Disagree. We also don't eat out of the bag in our house, just as we don't eat out of the serving bowl at meals. You portion out what you want onto your own/plate bowl and can go back for more. If a guest did this at my home, I'd do what a PP said and buy an extra bag for us/the kids. It would never occur to me to walk into someone's house and start sticking my hand into their snacks. Gross.

So you use a spoon to put the chips/popcorn in your bowl?

NP. Yes. When we serve food at gatherings or parties, we provide serving utensils like tongs and big spoons. At the very, very least, people in my extended family would pour from a bag of chips onto plates at a BBQ. People don’t reach in and grab. That’s disgusting.

You’re weird. Not once in my entire 50 years of existing seen a serving spoon for chips or popcorn

No need to mention your age…Boomers have notoriously bad kitchen habits and table manners.

Someone who’s 50 years old is gen x not a boomer. The youngest boomers are 57.

Nah a 50 year old with gross kitchen habits and horrible table manners is a Boomer. Old and gross.

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Anonymous wrote:Um, this is a super weird practice. Your visitor was normal, your family practice is not.

NP. Disagree. We also don't eat out of the bag in our house, just as we don't eat out of the serving bowl at meals. You portion out what you want onto your own/plate bowl and can go back for more. If a guest did this at my home, I'd do what a PP said and buy an extra bag for us/the kids. It would never occur to me to walk into someone's house and start sticking my hand into their snacks. Gross.

So you use a spoon to put the chips/popcorn in your bowl?

NP. Yes. When we serve food at gatherings or parties, we provide serving utensils like tongs and big spoons. At the very, very least, people in my extended family would pour from a bag of chips onto plates at a BBQ. People don’t reach in and grab. That’s disgusting.

You’re weird. Not once in my entire 50 years of existing seen a serving spoon for chips or popcorn

No need to mention your age…Boomers have notoriously bad kitchen habits and table manners.

Someone who’s 50 years old is gen x not a boomer. The youngest boomers are 57.

Nah a 50 year old with gross kitchen habits and horrible table manners is a Boomer. Old and gross.

Ok but they’re actually not a boomer so…boomers are born between 1946-1964 making them 57-75 years old. People from any generation can have bad manners…

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Anonymous wrote:Its their giant bag of snacks now. Try to be a good host. People don't know all your family rules

It’s not a matter of knowing the host family rules. It’s a matter of education and critical thinking. Try to be a good guest.

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Anonymous wrote:Um, this is a super weird practice. Your visitor was normal, your family practice is not.

NP. Disagree. We also don't eat out of the bag in our house, just as we don't eat out of the serving bowl at meals. You portion out what you want onto your own/plate bowl and can go back for more. If a guest did this at my home, I'd do what a PP said and buy an extra bag for us/the kids. It would never occur to me to walk into someone's house and start sticking my hand into their snacks. Gross.

So you use a spoon to put the chips/popcorn in your bowl?

NP. Yes. When we serve food at gatherings or parties, we provide serving utensils like tongs and big spoons. At the very, very least, people in my extended family would pour from a bag of chips onto plates at a BBQ. People don’t reach in and grab. That’s disgusting.

You’re weird. Not once in my entire 50 years of existing seen a serving spoon for chips or popcorn

No need to mention your age…Boomers have notoriously bad kitchen habits and table manners.

Someone who’s 50 years old is gen x not a boomer. The youngest boomers are 57.

Nah a 50 year old with gross kitchen habits and horrible table manners is a Boomer. Old and gross.

Ok but they’re actually not a boomer so…boomers are born between 1946-1964 making them 57-75 years old. People from any generation can have bad manners…

You can earn a Boomer title by being disgusting when it comes to food habits. They’re notorious for it. So yeah, even if you are 30 and acting like a Boomer, you’re a Boomer.

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Anonymous wrote:Um, this is a super weird practice. Your visitor was normal, your family practice is not.

NP. Disagree. We also don't eat out of the bag in our house, just as we don't eat out of the serving bowl at meals. You portion out what you want onto your own/plate bowl and can go back for more. If a guest did this at my home, I'd do what a PP said and buy an extra bag for us/the kids. It would never occur to me to walk into someone's house and start sticking my hand into their snacks. Gross.

So you use a spoon to put the chips/popcorn in your bowl?

NP. Yes. When we serve food at gatherings or parties, we provide serving utensils like tongs and big spoons. At the very, very least, people in my extended family would pour from a bag of chips onto plates at a BBQ. People don’t reach in and grab. That’s disgusting.

You’re weird. Not once in my entire 50 years of existing seen a serving spoon for chips or popcorn

No need to mention your age…Boomers have notoriously bad kitchen habits and table manners.

Someone who’s 50 years old is gen x not a boomer. The youngest boomers are 57.

Nah a 50 year old with gross kitchen habits and horrible table manners is a Boomer. Old and gross.

Ok but they’re actually not a boomer so…boomers are born between 1946-1964 making them 57-75 years old. People from any generation can have bad manners…

You can earn a Boomer title by being disgusting when it comes to food habits. They’re notorious for it. So yeah, even if you are 30 and acting like a Boomer, you’re a Boomer.

You really have a grudge against boomers, huh? Lol

-a millennial without a dog in this fight really but think it’s unfair to categorize every rude person as a “boomer”

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Anonymous wrote:Um, this is a super weird practice. Your visitor was normal, your family practice is not.

NP. Disagree. We also don't eat out of the bag in our house, just as we don't eat out of the serving bowl at meals. You portion out what you want onto your own/plate bowl and can go back for more. If a guest did this at my home, I'd do what a PP said and buy an extra bag for us/the kids. It would never occur to me to walk into someone's house and start sticking my hand into their snacks. Gross.

So you use a spoon to put the chips/popcorn in your bowl?

NP. Yes. When we serve food at gatherings or parties, we provide serving utensils like tongs and big spoons. At the very, very least, people in my extended family would pour from a bag of chips onto plates at a BBQ. People don’t reach in and grab. That’s disgusting.

You’re weird. Not once in my entire 50 years of existing seen a serving spoon for chips or popcorn

No need to mention your age…Boomers have notoriously bad kitchen habits and table manners.

Someone who’s 50 years old is gen x not a boomer. The youngest boomers are 57.

Nah a 50 year old with gross kitchen habits and horrible table manners is a Boomer. Old and gross.

Ok but they’re actually not a boomer so…boomers are born between 1946-1964 making them 57-75 years old. People from any generation can have bad manners…

You can earn a Boomer title by being disgusting when it comes to food habits. They’re notorious for it. So yeah, even if you are 30 and acting like a Boomer, you’re a Boomer.

That’s not how it works.

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Anonymous wrote:Um, this is a super weird practice. Your visitor was normal, your family practice is not.

NP. Disagree. We also don't eat out of the bag in our house, just as we don't eat out of the serving bowl at meals. You portion out what you want onto your own/plate bowl and can go back for more. If a guest did this at my home, I'd do what a PP said and buy an extra bag for us/the kids. It would never occur to me to walk into someone's house and start sticking my hand into their snacks. Gross.

So you use a spoon to put the chips/popcorn in your bowl?

I'm the PP you're quoting. No, I don't put out a spoon and have not seen that done for chips/popcorn. You tip the bag and shake a portion out onto your plate/bowl, not reach inside the bag to grab your portion.

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't have hinted. You should have been direct and said "In this house, we put things like this in a bowl. Let me get one for you; here you go!" [/quote

A child sure. But I can’t imagine saying that to another adult.

Agree with you OP and this would bother me too. We have adult extended relatives that ignore serving utensils and just spear with their own (used) utensil or their hands. Drives me nuts- but I will only Correct children not other adults

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't have hinted. You should have been direct and said "In this house, we put things like this in a bowl. Let me get one for you; here you go!"

This. People don't need passive aggressive hints.

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Of all the things I've learned from DCUM over the years, the most flabbergasting is how many people lack basic communication skills. If people could just use their words, 50% of DCUM threads would disappear. Geesh.

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Anonymous wrote:Um, this is a super weird practice. Your visitor was normal, your family practice is not.

Nope. You are weird, PP. The visitor was not normal and OP's family practice is.