Tell me about redshirting your late summer/fall birthday son before Kindergarten

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Anonymous wrote:Every redshirter parent will say that it was “the best decision.” What else are they going to say?

Why would you not expect those who didn’t redshirt to also say that it’s the best decision, if you think it is entirely driven by the need to justify a choice already made? I hear far more parents regretting not redshirting than redshirting.

But I think it does depend on both the child and the environment. Where we are it’s extremely common and there is zero social stigma. That may not be the case everywhere. We also knew that the school our kid would be attending had instruction that was sufficiently differentiated so that he would not be bored in class. Again, not the case everywhere.

Kid is going into 7th grade and we couldn’t ask for a better experience for him, so no regrets!

You don’t hear far more parents saying they regretted not redshirting. I’ve never heard anyone say that and it’s just a convenient thing for you to say. Did you put out a survey or something?

OP here. I know two people who have regretted not redshirting. One is a friend of mine who is very bright but suffered socially being the near youngest in the grade (a guy.) he was socially immature when I knew him growing up and didn’t catch up until we were in our twenties. Another is a parent in my area who’s son is a July birthday. Schools cutoff was in September and she wishes she could have justified holding him back. Conversely everyone I know who has redshirted hasn’t regretted it- but i just don’t personally know anyone at my sons school, his age doing it.

Your argument is no good. You know someone who was socially immature till they were in their 20’s, thereby, holding back would not have done nothing. Except if he/her were held back till that age.

Are you really going to reply to each person’s experience and tell them why you know more about it than they do?

NP. Evidently you missed the socially immature part that went into their twenties.

So, how does holding back help? It doesn’t. They’d be what you consider immature either way. Parents need to help their kids and get them help if they have delays, learning disabilities or behind. Clearly leaving it to nature does not work.

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Anonymous wrote:Every redshirter parent will say that it was “the best decision.” What else are they going to say?

Why would you not expect those who didn’t redshirt to also say that it’s the best decision, if you think it is entirely driven by the need to justify a choice already made? I hear far more parents regretting not redshirting than redshirting.

But I think it does depend on both the child and the environment. Where we are it’s extremely common and there is zero social stigma. That may not be the case everywhere. We also knew that the school our kid would be attending had instruction that was sufficiently differentiated so that he would not be bored in class. Again, not the case everywhere.

Kid is going into 7th grade and we couldn’t ask for a better experience for him, so no regrets!

You don’t hear far more parents saying they regretted not redshirting. I’ve never heard anyone say that and it’s just a convenient thing for you to say. Did you put out a survey or something?

OP here. I know two people who have regretted not redshirting. One is a

friend of mine who is very bright but suffered socially being the near youngest in the grade (a guy.) he was socially immature when I knew him growing up and didn’t catch up until we were in our twenties. Another is a parent in my area who’s son is a July birthday. Schools cutoff was in September and she wishes she could have justified holding him back. Conversely everyone I know who has redshirted hasn’t regretted it- but i just don’t personally know anyone at my sons school, his age doing it.

Your argument is no good. You know someone who was socially immature till they were in their 20’s, thereby, holding back would not have done nothing. Except if he/her were held back till that age.

Are you really going to reply to each person’s experience and tell them why you know more about it than they do?

NP. Evidently you missed the socially immature part that went into their twenties.

So, how does holding back help? It doesn’t. They’d be what you consider immature either way. Parents need to help their kids and get them help if they have delays, learning disabilities or behind. Clearly leaving it to nature does not work.

Correct, I was responding back to poster who didn’t like what someone wrote essentially saying the same as what you said. They missed that the person was immature into their twenties so holding back in school years would do nothing.

[Anonymous]

My late November son started Kindergarten at 4 y.o. In NYC public, there is no option to redshirt.
He entered Stuy as a 13 year old freshman with a very high SHSAT score last fall.
He's never fallen behind academically.
Given his age, he has the luxury of taking a gap year after high school without feeling like he's on the older side when he starts college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My late November son started Kindergarten at 4 y.o. In NYC public, there is no option to redshirt.
He entered Stuy as a 13 year old freshman with a very high SHSAT score last fall.
He's never fallen behind academically.
Given his age, he has the luxury of taking a gap year after high school without feeling like he's on the older side when he starts college.

That is correct that redshirting in not allowed in New York. Rightfully so.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My late November son started Kindergarten at 4 y.o. In NYC public, there is no option to redshirt.
He entered Stuy as a 13 year old freshman with a very high SHSAT score last fall.
He's never fallen behind academically.
Given his age, he has the luxury of taking a gap year after high school without feeling like he's on the older side when he starts college.

That is correct that redshirting in not allowed in New York. Rightfully so.

But it is around here, so weep harder and gnash your teeth more. A thousand DCUM sockpuppeted posts aren’t going to stop people from sending their kids to school when they believe it’s optimal for their kids’ education. Even if it violates your kooky idea of natural law.

P.S. Look at the forum before you launch into your routine. In New York private schools redshirt as much as anywhere else, which is to say, frequently.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My late November son started Kindergarten at 4 y.o. In NYC public, there is no option to redshirt.
He entered Stuy as a 13 year old freshman with a very high SHSAT score last fall.
He's never fallen behind academically.
Given his age, he has the luxury of taking a gap year after high school without feeling like he's on the older side when he starts college.

That is correct that redshirting in not allowed in New York. Rightfully so.

Only in public schools and even then it’s not as strict as you make out. Also, when the rest of the country allows it and NY doesn’t, maybe NY is wrong. God knows they are hardly a paradigm of exceptional education in other respects.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My late November son started Kindergarten at 4 y.o. In NYC public, there is no option to redshirt.
He entered Stuy as a 13 year old freshman with a very high SHSAT score last fall.
He's never fallen behind academically.
Given his age, he has the luxury of taking a gap year after high school without feeling like he's on the older side when he starts college.

That is correct that redshirting in not allowed in New York. Rightfully so.

Only in public schools and even then it’s not as strict as you make out. Also, when the rest of the country allows it and NY doesn’t, maybe NY is wrong. God knows they are hardly a paradigm of exceptional education in other respects.

Allowing redshirting is a paradigm of exceptional education?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My late November son started Kindergarten at 4 y.o. In NYC public, there is no option to redshirt.
He entered Stuy as a 13 year old freshman with a very high SHSAT score last fall.
He's never fallen behind academically.
Given his age, he has the luxury of taking a gap year after high school without feeling like he's on the older side when he starts college.

That is correct that redshirting in not allowed in New York. Rightfully so.

But it is around here, so weep harder and gnash your teeth more. A thousand DCUM sockpuppeted posts aren’t going to stop people from sending their kids to school when they believe it’s optimal for their kids’ education. Even if it violates your kooky idea of natural law.

P.S. Look at the forum before you launch into your routine. In New York private schools redshirt as much as anywhere else, which is to say, frequently.

Weep harder and gnash your teeth on trying to justify redshirting as “optimal for their kid’s education.” Having kids go with their peers is “kooky of natural law?” Bless your heart!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My late November son started Kindergarten at 4 y.o. In NYC public, there is no option to redshirt.
He entered Stuy as a 13 year old freshman with a very high SHSAT score last fall.
He's never fallen behind academically.
Given his age, he has the luxury of taking a gap year after high school without feeling like he's on the older side when he starts college.

That is correct that redshirting in not allowed in New York. Rightfully so.

But it is around here, so weep harder and gnash your teeth more. A thousand DCUM sockpuppeted posts aren’t going to stop people from sending their kids to school when they believe it’s optimal for their kids’ education. Even if it violates your kooky idea of natural law.

P.S. Look at the forum before you launch into your routine. In New York private schools redshirt as much as anywhere else, which is to say, frequently.

Ironically that you yourself are sockpuppeting.

[Anonymous]

Sorry to all the slow and below average kids whose parents need to delay them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My late November son started Kindergarten at 4 y.o. In NYC public, there is no option to redshirt.
He entered Stuy as a 13 year old freshman with a very high SHSAT score last fall.
He's never fallen behind academically.
Given his age, he has the luxury of taking a gap year after high school without feeling like he's on the older side when he starts college.

That is correct that redshirting in not allowed in New York. Rightfully so.

But it is around here, so weep harder and gnash your teeth more. A thousand DCUM sockpuppeted posts aren’t going to stop people from sending their kids to school when they believe it’s optimal for their kids’ education. Even if it violates your kooky idea of natural law.

P.S. Look at the forum before you launch into your routine. In New York private schools redshirt as much as anywhere else, which is to say, frequently.

NP. Do you weep hard and gnash your teeth if your child doesn’t get a head-start in track,
swim team, or anything of the like?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My late November son started Kindergarten at 4 y.o. In NYC public, there is no option to redshirt.
He entered Stuy as a 13 year old freshman with a very high SHSAT score last fall.
He's never fallen behind academically.
Given his age, he has the luxury of taking a gap year after high school without feeling like he's on the older side when he starts college.

That is correct that redshirting in not allowed in New York. Rightfully so.

But it is around here, so weep harder and gnash your teeth more. A thousand DCUM sockpuppeted posts aren’t going to stop people from sending their kids to school when they believe it’s optimal for their kids’ education. Even if it violates your kooky idea of natural law.

P.S. Look at the forum before you launch into your routine. In New York private schools redshirt as much as anywhere else, which is to say, frequently.

NP. Do you weep hard and gnash your teeth if your child doesn’t get a head-start in track,
swim team, or anything of the like?

Swim goes by age not grade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My late November son started Kindergarten at 4 y.o. In NYC public, there is no option to redshirt.
He entered Stuy as a 13 year old freshman with a very high SHSAT score last fall.
He's never fallen behind academically.
Given his age, he has the luxury of taking a gap year after high school without feeling like he's on the older side when he starts college.

That is correct that redshirting in not allowed in New York. Rightfully so.

But it is around here, so weep harder and gnash your teeth more. A thousand DCUM sockpuppeted posts aren’t going to stop people from sending their kids to school when they believe it’s optimal for their kids’ education. Even if it violates your kooky idea of natural law.

P.S. Look at the forum before you launch into your routine. In New York private schools redshirt as much as anywhere else, which is to say, frequently.

NP. Do you weep hard and gnash your teeth if your child doesn’t get a head-start in track,
swim team, or anything of the like?

Swim goes by age not grade.

As it should.
Red-shirt parents definitely don’t like this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My late November son started Kindergarten at 4 y.o. In NYC public, there is no option to redshirt.
He entered Stuy as a 13 year old freshman with a very high SHSAT score last fall.
He's never fallen behind academically.
Given his age, he has the luxury of taking a gap year after high school without feeling like he's on the older side when he starts college.

That is correct that redshirting in not allowed in New York. Rightfully so.

But it is around here, so weep harder and gnash your teeth more. A thousand DCUM sockpuppeted posts aren’t going to stop people from sending their kids to school when they believe it’s optimal for their kids’ education. Even if it violates your kooky idea of natural law.

P.S. Look at the forum before you launch into your routine. In New York private schools redshirt as much as anywhere else, which is to say, frequently.

NP. Do you weep hard and gnash your teeth if your child doesn’t get a head-start in track,
swim team, or anything of the like?

Swim goes by age not grade.

As it should.
Red-shirt parents definitely don’t like this.

Probably because then the school redshirting is obvious, they have a 5 grader swimming with 3rd graders.

[Anonymous]

Ha, meant vice versa!

My kids are the opposite and play up and summer bdays on time.

Maybe we’ll have them repeat 10th grade at boarding school. But not right out do the gate . They’re quite tall as well.