Tell me about redshirting your late summer/fall birthday son before Kindergarten

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Every redshirter parent will say that it was “the best decision.” What else are they going to say?

Why would you not expect those who didn’t redshirt to also say that it’s the best decision, if you think it is entirely driven by the need to justify a choice already made? I hear far more parents regretting not redshirting than redshirting.

But I think it does depend on both the child and the environment. Where we are it’s extremely common and there is zero social stigma. That may not be the case everywhere. We also knew that the school our kid would be attending had instruction that was sufficiently differentiated so that he would not be bored in class. Again, not the case everywhere.

Kid is going into 7th grade and we couldn’t ask for a better experience for him, so no regrets!

You don’t hear far more parents saying they regretted not redshirting. I’ve never heard anyone say that and it’s just a convenient thing for you to say. Did you put out a survey or something?

OP here. I know two people who have regretted not redshirting. One is a friend of mine who is very bright but suffered socially being the near youngest in the grade (a guy.) he was socially immature when I knew him growing up and didn’t catch up until we were in our twenties. Another is a parent in my area who’s son is a July birthday. Schools cutoff was in September and she wishes she could have justified holding him back. Conversely everyone I know who has redshirted hasn’t regretted it- but i just don’t personally know anyone at my sons school, his age doing it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't do it. You want your kid to be 19 at graduation? Since you asked.

Kid would only be 19 at graduation if he was born before June. That is not "late summer/fall."

[Anonymous]

I was always the youngest kid in my class, hated it, started college at 17, and promptly flunked three courses because boys / beer / no parents. Even in high school and college, I wished I'd been redshirted. I was too immature for college and I knew it.

Turned out okay, though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Redshirted my July bday son now in seventh grade. I haven’t regretted it once! One of our best parenting decisions made based on the teacher’s recommendations.

Hahahhahahahaaahhah! “Best decision” and “teacher recommendation”. On repeat! Hahahhahahahahahah!

Seek help. It is disturbing how instantly you melt down when parents simply state that they’re happy with a decision they made, and that they feel it turned out well. Why does this statement cause a shower of sparks to come out of your head? It may not be right for every kid, but it clearly works out extremely well for some kids. Your insistence that these posters’ experiences are somehow false is deeply weird.

- parent who feels very positively about the outcome of having redshirted her August son

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was always the youngest kid in my class, hated it, started college at 17, and promptly flunked three courses because boys / beer / no parents. Even in high school and college, I wished I'd been redshirted. I was too immature for college and I knew it.

Turned out okay, though.

Me too - I started Kindergarten at 4. Maybe I would have been an awkward social misfit anyway, but bring the youngest in any crowd did not help! My academics were fine but my social deficits affected my entire schooling experience.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was always the youngest kid in my class, hated it, started college at 17, and promptly flunked three courses because boys / beer / no parents. Even in high school and college, I wished I'd been redshirted. I was too immature for college and I knew it.

Turned out okay, though.

Me too - I started Kindergarten at 4. Maybe I would have been an awkward social misfit anyway, but bring the youngest in any crowd did not help! My academics were fine but my social deficits affected my entire schooling experience.

Same here. I wish I had been redshirted. Academically it was fine, socially it was very challenging.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every redshirter parent will say that it was “the best decision.” What else are they going to say?

Why would you not expect those who didn’t redshirt to also say that it’s the best decision, if you think it is entirely driven by the need to justify a choice already made? I hear far more parents regretting not redshirting than redshirting.

But I think it does depend on both the child and the environment. Where we are it’s extremely common and there is zero social stigma. That may not be the case everywhere. We also knew that the school our kid would be attending had instruction that was sufficiently differentiated so that he would not be bored in class. Again, not the case everywhere.

Kid is going into 7th grade and we couldn’t ask for a better experience for him, so no regrets!

You don’t hear far more parents saying they regretted not redshirting. I’ve never heard anyone say that and it’s just a convenient thing for you to say. Did you put out a survey or something?

OP here. I know two people who have regretted not redshirting. One is a friend of mine who is very bright but suffered socially being the near youngest in the grade (a guy.) he was socially immature when I knew him growing up and didn’t catch up until we were in our twenties. Another is a parent in my area who’s son is a July birthday. Schools cutoff was in September and she wishes she could have justified holding him back. Conversely everyone I know who has redshirted hasn’t regretted it- but i just don’t personally know anyone at my sons school, his age doing it.

He probably wasn't immature, but age appropriate. You need to compare him to same age kids, not kids a year or two older.

I regretted holding back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was always the youngest kid in my class, hated it, started college at 17, and promptly flunked three courses because boys / beer / no parents. Even in high school and college, I wished I'd been redshirted. I was too immature for college and I knew it.

Turned out okay, though.

You probably would have done the same thing a year older as you were just an irresponsible kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every redshirter parent will say that it was “the best decision.” What else are they going to say?

Why would you not expect those who didn’t redshirt to also say that it’s the best decision, if you think it is entirely driven by the need to justify a choice already made? I hear far more parents regretting not redshirting than redshirting.

But I think it does depend on both the child and the environment. Where we are it’s extremely common and there is zero social stigma. That may not be the case everywhere. We also knew that the school our kid would be attending had instruction that was sufficiently differentiated so that he would not be bored in class. Again, not the case everywhere.

Kid is going into 7th grade and we couldn’t ask for a better experience for him, so no regrets!

You don’t hear far more parents saying they regretted not redshirting. I’ve never heard anyone say that and it’s just a convenient thing for you to say. Did you put out a survey or something?

OP here. I know two people who have regretted not redshirting. One is a friend of mine who is very bright but suffered socially being the near youngest in the grade (a guy.) he was socially immature when I knew him growing up and didn’t catch up until we were in our twenties. Another is a parent in my area who’s son is a July birthday. Schools cutoff was in September and she wishes she could have justified holding him back. Conversely everyone I know who has redshirted hasn’t regretted it- but i just don’t personally know anyone at my sons school, his age doing it.

Your argument is no good. You know someone who was socially immature till they were in their 20’s, thereby, holding back would not have done nothing. Except if he/her were held back till that age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every redshirter parent will say that it was “the best decision.” What else are they going to say?

Why would you not expect those who didn’t redshirt to also say that it’s the best decision, if you think it is entirely driven by the need to justify a choice already made? I hear far more parents regretting not redshirting than redshirting.

But I think it does depend on both the child and the environment. Where we are it’s extremely common and there is zero social stigma. That may not be the case everywhere. We also knew that the school our kid would be attending had instruction that was sufficiently differentiated so that he would not be bored in class. Again, not the case everywhere.

Kid is going into 7th grade and we couldn’t ask for a better experience for him, so no regrets!

You don’t hear far more parents saying they regretted not redshirting. I’ve never heard anyone say that and it’s just a convenient thing for you to say. Did you put out a survey or something?

OP here. I know two people who have regretted not redshirting. One is a friend of mine who is very bright but suffered socially being the near youngest in the grade (a guy.) he was socially immature when I knew him growing up and didn’t catch up until we were in our twenties. Another is a parent in my area who’s son is a July birthday. Schools cutoff was in September and she wishes she could have justified holding him back. Conversely everyone I know who has redshirted hasn’t regretted it- but i just don’t personally know anyone at my sons school, his age doing it.

Your argument is no good. You know someone who was socially immature till they were in their 20’s, thereby, holding back would not have done nothing. Except if he/her were held back till that age.

Are you really going to reply to each person’s experience and tell them why you know more about it than they do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Redshirted my July bday son now in seventh grade. I haven’t regretted it once! One of our best parenting decisions made based on the teacher’s recommendations.

Hahahhahahahaaahhah! “Best decision” and “teacher recommendation”. On repeat! Hahahhahahahahahah!

Seek help. It is disturbing how instantly you melt down when parents simply state that they’re happy with a decision they made, and that they feel it turned out well. Why does this statement cause a shower of sparks to come out of your head? It may not be right for every kid, but it clearly works out extremely well for some kids. Your insistence that these posters’ experiences are somehow false is deeply weird.

- parent who feels very positively about the outcome of having redshirted her August son

Your platitudes of “seek help,” “melt-down,” “disturbing,” and “sparks out of your head” spark entirely of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every redshirter parent will say that it was “the best decision.” What else are they going to say?

Why would you not expect those who didn’t redshirt to also say that it’s the best decision, if you think it is entirely driven by the need to justify a choice already made? I hear far more parents regretting not redshirting than redshirting.

But I think it does depend on both the child and the environment. Where we are it’s extremely common and there is zero social stigma. That may not be the case everywhere. We also knew that the school our kid would be attending had instruction that was sufficiently differentiated so that he would not be bored in class. Again, not the case everywhere.

Kid is going into 7th grade and we couldn’t ask for a better experience for him, so no regrets!

You don’t hear far more parents saying they regretted not redshirting. I’ve never heard anyone say that and it’s just a convenient thing for you to say. Did you put out a survey or something?

OP here. I know two people who have regretted not redshirting. One is a friend of mine who is very bright but suffered socially being the near youngest in the grade (a guy.) he was socially immature when I knew him growing up and didn’t catch up until we were in our twenties. Another is a parent in my area who’s son is a July birthday. Schools cutoff was in September and she wishes she could have justified holding him bac?k. Conversely everyone I know who has redshirted hasn’t regretted it- but i just don’t personally know anyone at my sons school, his age doing it.

Your argument is no good. You know someone who was socially immature till they were in their 20’s, thereby, holding back would not have done nothing. Except if he/her were held back till that age.

Are you really going to reply to each person’s experience and tell them why you know more about it than they do?

Are you going to reply to each person’s post who you disagree with because it invalidates you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every redshirter parent will say that it was “the best decision.” What else are they going to say?

Why would you not expect those who didn’t redshirt to also say that it’s the best decision, if you think it is entirely driven by the need to justify a choice already made? I hear far more parents regretting not redshirting than redshirting.

But I think it does depend on both the child and the environment. Where we are it’s extremely common and there is zero social stigma. That may not be the case everywhere. We also knew that the school our kid would be attending had instruction that was sufficiently differentiated so that he would not be bored in class. Again, not the case everywhere.

Kid is going into 7th grade and we couldn’t ask for a better experience for him, so no regrets!

You don’t hear far more parents saying they regretted not redshirting. I’ve never heard anyone say that and it’s just a convenient thing for you to say. Did you put out a survey or something?

OP here. I know two people who have regretted not redshirting. One is a friend of mine who is very bright but suffered socially being the near youngest in the grade (a guy.) he was socially immature when I knew him growing up and didn’t catch up until we were in our twenties. Another is a parent in my area who’s son is a July birthday. Schools cutoff was in September and she wishes she could have justified holding him back. Conversely everyone I know who has redshirted hasn’t regretted it- but i just don’t personally know anyone at my sons school, his age doing it.

Your argument is no good. You know someone who was socially immature till they were in their 20’s, thereby, holding back would not have done nothing. Except if he/her were held back till that age.

Are you really going to reply to each person’s experience and tell them why you know more about it than they do?

NP. Evidently you missed the socially immature part that went into their twenties.

[Anonymous]

Late sept isn’t even redshirting. Send him when he is 5 turning six.

[Anonymous]

Unless he has a severe learning disability or illness, redshirting should not be considered.