How old were you when you met your spouse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow to the other posts. This is DC, where it is a rite of passage for every woman to marry in her 30s and have kids in 30s and 40s. Maybe the pps are from out of the area?

As for me, I met my DH at 34 and was married at 35. He was 36/37. Married over 20 years.

I think it might be something of selection bias. If you meet very young, you are more likely to contribute than if you think I'm just like everyone else.

This. Women ( primary contributors to DCUM) have a tendency to think meeting and marrying young is an accomplishment they got chose so they are more likely to answer at the same time, women tend to think marring late is something to be ashamed of do less likely to answer.

[Anonymous]

35 when we met. Married a year and a half later. Been together 13 years now.

Love the guy and glad I had enough previous experiences to know how precious this relationship is - makes me much less intolerant of the imperfections that all humans bring to being alive together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow to the other posts. This is DC, where it is a rite of passage for every woman to marry in her 30s and have kids in 30s and 40s. Maybe the pps are from out of the area?

As for me, I met my DH at 34 and was married at 35. He was 36/37. Married over 20 years.

I think it might be something of selection bias. If you meet very young, you are more likely to contribute than if you think I'm just like everyone else.

This. Women ( primary contributors to DCUM) have a tendency to think meeting and marrying young is an accomplishment they got chose so they are more likely to answer at the same time, women tend to think marring late is something to be ashamed of do less likely to answer.

Why would anyone be ashamed of being single? It’s bad luck, not a personal flaw.

[Anonymous]

If you inherit good looks, good health, good money and good IQ and EQ, you are pretty much set in life from day one. Lots of people would want to marry you. All you have to do in life is to not go out of your way to mess it up.

[Anonymous]

Yup, getting married isn’t some accomplishment, staying married is but even their luck plays it’s part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow to the other posts. This is DC, where it is a rite of passage for every woman to marry in her 30s and have kids in 30s and 40s. Maybe the pps are from out of the area?

As for me, I met my DH at 34 and was married at 35. He was 36/37. Married over 20 years.

I think it might be something of selection bias. If you meet very young, you are more likely to contribute than if you think I'm just like everyone else.

This. Women ( primary contributors to DCUM) have a tendency to think meeting and marrying young is an accomplishment they got chose so they are more likely to answer at the same time, women tend to think marring late is something to be ashamed of do less likely to answer.

Why would anyone be ashamed of being single? It’s bad luck, not a personal flaw.

I don't disagree. But you must admit in society there's this idea that people who are still single at a certain age or don't marry until later are defective in some way. Fortunately I think these attitudes are changing and value especially for women isn't do attached to relationship status.

[Anonymous]

Met: 15
Dating: 17 - 21
Engaged: 21
Married: 22
DC1: 27
DC2: 28
DC3: 30
Now: 38

He's still got a really hot body...I wish I looked better after three kids.

[Anonymous]

Met: both 23
Engaged : 26
Married: 27
Kids: 30, 32, 40
Now: both 53

[Anonymous]

Met. I was 36 he was 33
Married. 36 & 34
DC 1 39
DC 2 40

Married 20 years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:16, I felt like I already belonged to them but we didn’t actually put the whole thing together until we were around 23; together 26 years so far.

Sometimes dreams come true, isn’t it beautiful.

That doesn’t sound nice.

[Anonymous]

Met: me 22 spouse 29
Married: me 22 spouse 30
Kid 1: 24 and 32
Kid 2: 26 and 34
Kid 3 : 30 and 38
Kid 4 : 33 and 41
Kid 5: 37 and 45

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Met in college: 18 (birthdays very close)
Engaged: 26
Married: 27
First child: 31
Second child: 33
Now: 52

Wow! Nearly the same. Kids on slightly later timeline.

[Anonymous]

Met: me 24, him 26
Married: me 26, him 28
DS: me 40, him 41

Now: me 60, him 62

[Anonymous]

Met: 25 (in law school)
Married: 27
Kids at 28, 32, and 36. (We are the same age.)

[Anonymous]

I was 24 dh 27. MRried at 27/30, children at 29/32 for me and 32/35 for him. Undecided about having another.