Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When we met our daughter's fiance's father and mother for the first time, we met in a sort of grill type lunch place in Bethesda. Not expensive, just pleasant. We all shook hands , and the six of us were seated and engaged in a couple minutes of pleasantries and small talk, smiley smiley. The waiter came over to start orders, and this Dad **immediately** says to him " Uh, separate checks, please."
I could feel my husband tense up next to me and and after we all ordered, got up to go to restroom and told the waiter that he would pick up check...quietly. He was mortified at this guy's comment. They weren't financially unable, btw. There were so many ways to deal with this, but this guy went nuclear first thing.
When it was clear, after the meal, that the check was paid, he just shrugged and said,
"Well, Ok..." This was our preview into this whole dysfunctional family, even though it was a small thing-and unfortunately we weren't wrong about our first impression. We really wanted to be wrong...10 years later, we weren't.
I wouldn't call that "going nuclear first thing." You sound kind of dramatic.
Sure he turned out to be cheap, but a lot of families operate that way. They think split bills are the easiest and least complicated way of handling bills.
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