A guy told me I look like Shrek

[amandbaac]

Anonymous wrote:Someone told me I had dirty hair in 2nd grade and I still remember it 30 years later. Comments can hurt, people can be assholes. We can only control what we put out into the world. Give a stranger a compliment, it will make both of your days!

Thank you <3

[Anonymous]

Hey amandbaac, I haven't read the replies but I bet you got some good advice.

Here is some more - join a martial arts group or something like that and stick to it! That's something I wish I had done at your age, or even in my twenties. I bet I wouldn't be so out of shape now!

Martial arts could totally make you feel 100% better, give you confidence, give you discipline for other areas in life and exercise lifts you up when you are feeling down. You'll meet some interesting people too. The bonus is you'll look better as well!

So my advice, as a 50 yr old woman, is make the best of what you've got!! You can do a lot with what you have!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm brunette. My husband's brother prefers blondes. Ugly blondes. Like faces of his blonde women are a 5. He looks like a 10/10. When he looks at me, I'm invisible. I'm just not his type. My face is an 8 or 9.

So the point is, everybody has different taste. Don't let 1 boy get to you. Plus, you could be a late bloomer like me. I was only a 7 tops in high school.

This is an insane comment. The last thing OP should care about in the wake of this or in her entire life is what type of man she’s desirable to. Toxic thinking PP.

plus 1. I thought it was an odd comment too

[Anonymous]

I just love this thread so much! ❤️

[amandbaac]

Anonymous wrote:Hey amandbaac, I haven't read the replies but I bet you got some good advice.

Here is some more - join a martial arts group or something like that and stick to it! That's something I wish I had done at your age, or even in my twenties. I bet I wouldn't be so out of shape now!

Martial arts could totally make you feel 100% better, give you confidence, give you discipline for other areas in life and exercise lifts you up when you are feeling down. You'll meet some interesting people too. The bonus is you'll look better as well!

So my advice, as a 50 yr old woman, is make the best of what you've got!! You can do a lot with what you have!

wow thank you so much❤️

[Anonymous]

I wish I were 17 again. You sound like a friend I would love!

[Anonymous]

PP here, you have something that a lot of people now don’t: a beautiful and gentle soul❤️. Too many people put too much emphasis on looks. Treasure your wonderful personality and rise above it all. You’ve got a start already!

[Anonymous]

My daughter, several years younger than you, was was playing competitive soccer at a private DC school. On both occasions boys from the home team made very, cruel disparaging comments to her. The comments were in no way accurate. They really shook her. But there was no way they described her. It said a lot about the guy. I say this because when someone says you look like Shrek, there is no way that is accurate. His most distinguishing feature is that he is green! You really need to move away from any thoughts this guy was doing anything more than saying he is miserable person and makes himself feel better by putting down people who thinks they won’t push back. So, agree with comments on things to enhance your self esteem. How you carry yourself, how much you speak up, etc is something to become aware of. I would learn how to laugh at someone who throws comments like this to people. They will feel ridiculed and won’t choose to repeat that in the future.

[amandbaac]

Anonymous wrote:I wish I were 17 again. You sound like a friend I would love!

thank you ❤️

[amandbaac]

Anonymous wrote:PP here, you have something that a lot of people now don’t: a beautiful and gentle soul❤️. Too many people put too much emphasis on looks. Treasure your wonderful personality and rise above it all. You’ve got a start already!

that means alot Thank you for your kindness❤️

[amandbaac]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter, several years younger than you, was was playing competitive soccer at a private DC school. On both occasions boys from the home team made very, cruel disparaging comments to her. The comments were in no way accurate. They really shook her. But there was no way they described her. It said a lot about the guy. I say this because when someone says you look like Shrek, there is no way that is accurate. His most distinguishing feature is that he is green! You really need to move away from any thoughts this guy was doing anything more than saying he is miserable person and makes himself feel better by putting down people who thinks they won’t push back. So, agree with comments on things to enhance your self esteem. How you carry yourself, how much you speak up, etc is something to become aware of. I would learn how to laugh at someone who throws comments like this to people. They will feel ridiculed and won’t choose to repeat that in the future.

Thank you for taking the time to reply. Your words helped me❤️

[Anonymous]

DCUM is not always a kind space. A lot of trolls and haters here. I am glad you got a lot of positive feedback.

That said, my response would have been to ignore his comment. Roll my eyes. And maybe comeback with "I am sorry you have a small penis and are trying to compensate."

My daughter is 9 and I have spent so much time helping her deal with bullying. I was bullied in school. Girls who didn't shave yet made fun of me for not shaving different parts of my body. I didn't realize that 1. They weren't shaving, and 2. Some of those parts don't get shaved. I forever have to deal with arm hair because I was bullied into shaving my arms. My parents were not helpful at all.

The point is that no one is allowed to tell you about you -- except you. No one thinks you look like Shrek. That kid is an a**hole dealing with problems in his life and taking it out on you.

Go be the amazing person you are. Ignore haters. Hugs.

[Anonymous]

amandbaac wrote:Hi

Im in high school (17, girl) and this happened to me and I have noone to talk to about this. This has made me so sad because my self esteem doesn’t exist and that comment really made me feel horrible.

There is a guy in my class who came up to me from nowhere and said ”wow, you really look like shrek”. And I didn’t reply and he went away.
I am always quiet, and I have never done/said anything mean to him or anyone else. I really just mind my own business everyday and show to school for class, that’s it. I have a few friends but I am not popular at all.

We have been in the same class now for 2 years and I swear I did not have this coming.
He has alot of confidence and walks with so much esteem and is talkative. I guess you could say he’s popular but not the QB, homecoming king or anything like that.

Please help me, I don’t want to post pictures but I feel like the most hideous waste of space now.

I am unkempt and in terrible shape btw. But still he said it to me from nowhere.

How do i feel better now?

He should have much worse self esteem than you. He is a bully, and will not have a happy life.

You sound sensitive and thoughtful. High school can be very rough, even for those who appear confident on the outside. But, it goes by fast.

When you are older, you will realize your many gifts and talents. Social media makes that hard right now. Is there a nice person, like you, that you could talk to? Another quiet kid who can relate to how you are feeling? A school counsellor? A caring teacher or relative?

You need a hug. I bet if you ask anyone who knows you well, they will share a long list of positive qualities about you. Please don't sit by yourself with this and be sad. Reach out to a kind person.

Before too long, that loser guy will be a blip in your rearview mirror. You will be zooming ahead to the exciting future that is out there waiting for you.

[Anonymous]

Are you a senior in HS or a rising senior? You're probably a stellar student. Shoot for valedictorian or salutorian, no pressure though lol. Then come back here and we'll help you write an incredible speech. In it you will recognize a particular student and ask him to rise... stay tuned for the rest. 😘

[amandbaac]

Anonymous wrote:DCUM is not always a kind space. A lot of trolls and haters here. I am glad you got a lot of positive feedback.

That said, my response would have been to ignore his comment. Roll my eyes. And maybe comeback with "I am sorry you have a small penis and are trying to compensate."

My daughter is 9 and I have spent so much time helping her deal with bullying. I was bullied in school. Girls who didn't shave yet made fun of me for not shaving different parts of my body. I didn't realize that 1. They weren't shaving, and 2. Some of those parts don't get shaved. I forever have to deal with arm hair because I was bullied into shaving my arms. My parents were not helpful at all.

The point is that no one is allowed to tell you about you -- except you. No one thinks you look like Shrek. That kid is an a**hole dealing with problems in his life and taking it out on you.

Go be the amazing person you are. Ignore haters. Hugs.

I’m so thankful I got positive feedback too. And I’m sorry you went through that as a child and that your daughter got bullied. You’re an awesome mom I can tell. Thank you❤️