“He didn’t do this the whole time you were gone”: is it me???
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Anonymous
My best friend was visiting and we already decided what to do when he tested us. He was Actually a good child and he’s a doctor now, but he would test her in front of friends. We decided to ignore him. He literally stood on my coffee table for 10 minutes waiting for us to do something. He said “are you going to say something “ she said “no you know you are wrong your punishment will come but you won’t stop me from talking to my friend now” Then I pretended I needed to get something in the kitchen and she could deal with him without me there. |
Anonymous
I try to do consequences that don't cross the line of punishing us (the adults) as well as the child. For example, for food throwing, we take away the food in question immediately, but will offer more food when she calms down. Sending her to bed hungry would punish the whole family bc she won't sleep. She largely doesn't throw food anymore, so it has worked. For tantrums in public, one parent will remove her (for basically a "time out") and then return her to the situation when she's calm. That's probably what I would've done with the friend gift situation -- remove child, talk to child sternly, have him apologize to friend. |
Anonymous
+ 1. The better thing to do would be to take the kid to another room until he calmed down (but still deny him dessert etc.) |