She wants constant texting banter and it’s driving me nuts

[Anonymous]

Newish thing from online dating. It’s more a FWB situation since we live a fair distance from one another and just get together every couple of weeks for dinner and sex.

I have noticed that she wants like a sustained banter via text during the day, starting into the morning and continuing into the night. I sort of shut it down during the work day but once it’s 5, boom, texting.

If I fail to respond for any reason for any length of time, I get a text “are you ok?” Happens maybe 2, 3 times a day.

I am staring to understand why people ghost.

[Anonymous]

^^^ a fair amount of it is her complaining about her ex and asking for advice which is also a bit weird.

[Anonymous]

Dating is to find the best match for you
Do you think this is it?
No
Is this the woman you want for the Mother of your children?
I didn't think so
Stop being so soulless. To be deserving of a better person, you've got to become a better person.

[Anonymous]

Doesn’t sound like you are compatible. If you were really into her, you would chat back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dating is to find the best match for you
Do you think this is it?
No
Is this the woman you want for the Mother of your children?
I didn't think so
Stop being so soulless. To be deserving of a better person, you've got to become a better person.

I am not looking for my ex-wife’s lesbian lover, pp. I just want to get laid from time to time.

[Anonymous]

This is kind of a radical idea but ... have you tried being direct and saying what YOU want in terms of texting?

[Anonymous]

She thinks you are her “boyfriend” and you think she is FWB. Not going to work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She thinks you are her “boyfriend” and you think she is FWB. Not going to work.

But do even boyfriend girlfriend couples text banalities all day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She thinks you are her “boyfriend” and you think she is FWB. Not going to work.

But do even boyfriend girlfriend couples text banalities all day?

I am guessing they do, for affirmation. when you text back you might as well be saying "Yes I am into you, yes you have my full attention"

Personally I wouldn't be able to tolerate this, even from a loved one. Its a waste of time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is kind of a radical idea but ... have you tried being direct and saying what YOU want in terms of texting?

Yes, just text her and say you can’t text during the workday, but after 5 it’s game on. She should understand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Newish thing from online dating. It’s more a FWB situation since we live a fair distance from one another and just get together every couple of weeks for dinner and sex.

I have noticed that she wants like a sustained banter via text during the day, starting into the morning and continuing into the night. I sort of shut it down during the work day but once it’s 5, boom, texting.

If I fail to respond for any reason for any length of time, I get a text “are you ok?” Happens maybe 2, 3 times a day.

I am staring to understand why people ghost.

Instead of taking the easy way out why not break up with her. You would be doing her a big favor.

[Anonymous]

Dude here. I’ll text with her if we had some guaranteed sex every couple weeks. If she were hot to me. Y

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She thinks you are her “boyfriend” and you think she is FWB. Not going to work.

But do even boyfriend girlfriend couples text banalities all day?

Woman here. I truly detest people who text all day. Especially people I'm banging.

She is not the one for you.

[Anonymous]

Op here. I mean, it’s three separate times now since 7 and none of it is actually necessary. There’s nothing really to say but I feel obligated to respond. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dude here. I’ll text with her if we had some guaranteed sex every couple weeks. If she were hot to me.

I came here to say this.

Constant texting in exchange for sex, I’ll take that deal any day of the week.