She wants constant texting banter and it’s driving me nuts

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is kind of a radical idea but ... have you tried being direct and saying what YOU want in terms of texting?

+1. I wish more people were just direct with their thoughts. Save everyone time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dump her. She is a headache. It will only get worse.

+100 She sounds very high maintenance and you are not into it. Time to move on.

[Anonymous]

I also wondered if she thinks of you as her boyfriend, not just fwb

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Newish thing from online dating. It’s more a FWB situation since we live a fair distance from one another and just get together every couple of weeks for dinner and sex.

I have noticed that she wants like a sustained banter via text during the day, starting into the morning and continuing into the night. I sort of shut it down during the work day but once it’s 5, boom, texting.

If I fail to respond for any reason for any length of time, I get a text “are you ok?” Happens maybe 2, 3 times a day.

I am staring to understand why people ghost.

Just tell her you don't like texting that much. I'm that way--was never into long phone conversations or texting back in forth with anyone, my Mom, best friends, romantic interests, etc. Every once in a while I can have a long conversation, but definitely not a daily thing.

[Anonymous]

Let's use a jogging analogy. Suppose you both like to jog, but you like 2-3 mile jaunts while she likes to run 15-20 miles. You guys decide to run together. Would you struggle to keep up with her for 15 miles, or would you tell her you're not into long runs? If after mile 7 she asked "are you ok?" Would you say yes and silently suffer in pain for 8 more miles? When you got home would you ask people on the internet if everyone is expect to run 15 miles every time they run? WOuld you consider dumping her because she runs 15 miles while you like 2-3 miles?

[Anonymous]

I just started chatting with a guy, and I'm realizing he likes to text ALL DAMN DAY. Jesus, I am already done with this. If I don't respond for a few hours, he's like "hi. Are you thinking about me." JFC, NO!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just started chatting with a guy, and I'm realizing he likes to text ALL DAMN DAY. Jesus, I am already done with this. If I don't respond for a few hours, he's like "hi. Are you thinking about me." JFC, NO!

Op here. This is what it is like. Maybe we should date.

[Anonymous]

Apparently you are stringing her along for sex. Are you being honest about your intentions? Women are fine with NSA relationships as long as you are honest.

If she knew you were her sex partner only, would d she still choose you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just started chatting with a guy, and I'm realizing he likes to text ALL DAMN DAY. Jesus, I am already done with this. If I don't respond for a few hours, he's like "hi. Are you thinking about me." JFC, NO!

Sounds like he might have an insecure attachment style, so if that doesn't work for you, run...

[Anonymous]

Sounds EXACTLY like the girl I just broke up with. If she has the same name as the Amazon lady, run away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^^ a fair amount of it is her complaining about her ex and asking for advice which is also a bit weird.

Woman here. She sounds really, really needy. If someone texted me constantly and expected a reply I'd move on.

I'm okay with texting to make plans or to say I'm running late but just texting to text, no way.

I don't want a "texting relationship" I want a real person relationship.

[Anonymous]

She sounds needy, desperate and rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd definitely go with no texting during the work day. Simple reason, makes sense. Then text for a bit and end it with going to work out, text later. Text some more and then say watching movie, I'll let you know what I think. So basically just let her know why you are going silent. Then next time you are together physically, talk to her about it. Some people do not like texting - doesn't mean they don't like the person.

No way am I texting someone I'm dating all evening. ...signed a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not a tester. Just tell her you aren’t really a tester. I check my texts at night when the day is pretty much over, text for 15 minutes, and that is it. My friends leave me off the constant text chains as they know it isn’t my thing.

This. Tell her you are not allowed to text at work. Tell her yOu have a 15 minute window in the evening when you will respond. Just let her texts pile up and don't respond until your window.

[Anonymous]

You aren't a match. Be warned there are a lot of people who text like this, so next time it's really not that hard to say you prefer calls to texts. I've said this and people get it, everyone has there style. If you do this, you'll have to call a couple times a week though.