Divorcing - what to do with all the marital stuff?

[Anonymous]

I should preface this with saying this divorce is not by choice. Serial cheating situation.

I keep looking around our house at all the stuff we have acquired during our marriage that I can't stomach looking at. Pictures, wedding gifts (china, crystal, etc), jewelry he bought me for anniversaries/birthdays, even a framed copy of our wedding invitation. What do people DO with all this stuff? Do I save some for our young kids who might want to see it? Do I sell it all and say good riddance? Divorce itself is overwhelming enough. Thinking about getting rid of all the stuff that just brings me pain is flat out exhausting.

Ideas?

[Anonymous]

It's a personal decision. The valuable stuff I would sell, the sentimental stuff (i.e. framed wedding invite) I would get rid of.

[Anonymous]

If you don't feel like dealing with it now, then don't. Put it all in boxes and store until you are ready.

[Anonymous]

I can guarantee that your kids don't want your junk. Sell it or get rid of it if you don't want it.

[Anonymous]

Personal decision. I have a bunch of those frames/pics. I put them in one small bin and stored it in the crawl space. They are intended for our kids in the future...

[Anonymous]

I would make a box for your kids of the pictures, wedding invite or anything else.

Didn't you pick out your wedding china? I love mine and see it as a part of myself not just my marriage. If you don't like it, sell it.

[Anonymous]

Donate or throw out. YOu get very little money for china and crystal. No one wants it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you don't feel like dealing with it now, then don't. Put it all in boxes and store until you are ready.

This.

I just divorced. I have no issue with the "stuff" whatsoever. Just put it in a box.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can guarantee that your kids don't want your junk. Sell it or get rid of it if you don't want it.

I disagree. I hate stuff personally but would not mind seeing my parents old items someday to go through them (not a ton but a few boxes is fine).

[Anonymous]

I saved some stuff for my kids. The young adult wants nothing to do with my XH. The younger one just started displaying our formal wedding portrait in her room. It was jarring to see at first, but I haven’t said a peep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would make a box for your kids of the pictures, wedding invite or anything else.

Didn't you pick out your wedding china? I love mine and see it as a part of myself not just my marriage. If you don't like it, sell it.

There's no market for China. No one wants it.

[Anonymous]

I sold my Waterford goblets. It was excruciating only because my mother picked them out and sent a few every anniversary and I could just envision the love and hope that went into every year, that we would have “something” together.

[Anonymous]

Take pictures of everything you think your kids might like to see someday (the framed invite, maybe?0, and then donate or throw away.

[Anonymous]

Box it up and wait five or ten years. Then you will either have no use for it and throw it away, or you will appreciate some utility and/or sentimental value and hang on to it. Right now, there's too much negativity and emotion attached to it all to be able to make rational decisions.

[Anonymous]

There should be a web site for jewelry swapping for all the people that need to get rid of tainted jewels.