Divorcing - what to do with all the marital stuff?

[Anonymous]

I sold the valuable stuff and donated the money to a charity that meant something to me. It was a win-win.

[Anonymous]

I have a plastic bin that I put wedding stuff/pics in for it my kids want them. Other stuff I sold or gave away.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I am dating someone who lives in the house he lived in with his ex and he has all that stuff still and it totally sucks for me. I hate it. So if you keep it I recommend boxing it up, it really why not just start afresh and move on. Do you really want to eat Christmas dinner on your wedding China?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Donate or throw out. YOu get very little money for china and crystal. No one wants it.

Yes. Sometimes you can sell things, but be prepared for more hassle than you might expect. Often it isn't worth what you think it is, and even if it is, people will try to lowball you. Fine to go that route if you want, but walk into it ready for that to happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I sold my Waterford goblets. It was excruciating only because my mother picked them out and sent a few every anniversary and I could just envision the love and hope that went into every year, that we would have “something” together.

If your mother picked them out and you liked them, why not keep them???

[Anonymous]

My mom bought a China set for 5yo DD and I just cannot imagine DD wanting it or caring about it.

How old do you have to be to actually want China - 50?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would make a box for your kids of the pictures, wedding invite or anything else.

Didn't you pick out your wedding china? I love mine and see it as a part of myself not just my marriage. If you don't like it, sell it.

There's no market for China. No one wants it.

My mil told me not to register for it because she has China abd I’d eventually get it. I’d love some China but don’t currently have the space for it. Don’t get rid of it so easily.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would make a box for your kids of the pictures, wedding invite or anything else.

Didn't you pick out your wedding china? I love mine and see it as a part of myself not just my marriage. If you don't like it, sell it.

There's no market for China. No one wants it.

Not true. Tons pf.buyers on the second hand market. just bot close to the value that you paid for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you don't feel like dealing with it now, then don't. Put it all in boxes and store until you are ready.

This.

I just divorced. I have no issue with the "stuff" whatsoever. Just put it in a box.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Keep your stuff and he can have the rest. Coming from a guy that went through a divorce and didn’t want anything from my old house. Not even a toothpick. I took my clothes and vehicles. I wasn’t mad, I just didn’t want to deal with you get this and I get that, plus having to haul and store it. Also the hassle of selling anything.

[Anonymous]

I’ve dealt in the antiques market for years. It’s not true that you don’t get anything for your China. It’s still worth selling even if it only brings $100. Also it really depends on the style. Some is timeless

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I sold my Waterford goblets. It was excruciating only because my mother picked them out and sent a few every anniversary and I could just envision the love and hope that went into every year, that we would have “something” together.

If your mother picked them out and you liked them, why not keep them???

Because my 2nd wife, likely STBXW, didn't want a single reminder of my previous relationship and I was too stupid and cowed to do the smart thing, like hand them back to the ex for my kids to have someday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can guarantee that your kids don't want your junk. Sell it or get rid of it if you don't want it.

What are you talking about?
Do you even have children??
You sound resentful and far removed from your feelings... kid aren't generally like that though.

All children LOVE to go through their parents wedding albums and pictures, even more so if their parents are divorced, as they don't get to see you two together anymore and they miss that or some kids have never seen their parents together because they divorced when the children were too young. Those are the kids that get the biggest kick out of seeing their parents together.

There's a theory among therapists that kids have a hard time remembering how life was before their parents divorce, because of the trauma associated with it. They usually try to compartmentalize as a way to protect and preserve their memories, but it doesn't work.

Keep the album's, your kids will love looking through them.

[Anonymous]

I am dating someone who still has his wedding albums and video in his den. On the bookcase. He also has his China from his wedding in his China cabinet on full display. He never wants to move from this house he lived in with his ex wife. And he expects me to be fine with that. To just live in this house he bought with his ex with all their stuff lying around. Won’t budge. It may end our relationship. The ghost of his ex wife permeates this house. So, something to consider.

[Anonymous]

Full disclosure, I didn't take my own advice here, but SELL IT. If it's nothing but painful memories and worth something, turn it into cash you can spend on you, the kids, a college fund, a pony, good weed, whatever.