Pregnant with third during covid

[Anonymous]

Hi everyone,

I’m just looking for reassurance and to learn from your experiences. I found out I was pregnant two days ago. We weren’t planning it so I’m finding it very difficult to process. A bit of background. I have a 4 year old and a 5 and a half year old. They are twenty months apart. I had my first when I was 32 and my second just before I turned 34. We are at a stage where things are finally getting easier. I am freaked out for so many different reasons:

1) Have no idea what it’s like to be pregnant during covid. What are doctor visits like and will my husband be able to be with me during delivery?
2) the age difference between my second and third will be huge. Not sure if this is a good or bad thing.
3) I have a diastasis from second delivery and mild urinary incontinence. I have done physically therapy but it only has marginally improved. I still pee when coughing hard but otherwise fine. As for my diastasis, it got much better (I’ve been doing physical therapy for a year and a half... only started two years post partum) and I stopped shortly with covid. Because of the stress from work and having my kids at home, I haven’t been doing my exercises and my diastasis is back. Worried that I will have pelvic floor issues again
4) I know so many women have children in their late 30s but I feel so much older.
5) I had post partum anxiety with both kids until maybe 6-7 months post partum. It got dramatically better after but honestly I still had anxiety until about a year ago. My first needed surgery at 2 months and had a breathing issue until she was one years old. My second had major acid reflux and had to be on two different medications to get it under control. We finally got to the right dosage when she was 5 months but until then she was screaming in pain all the time.
6) Really stressed out on how I will cope with pregnancy, having kids at home cuz of covid and working all at the same time. Mt husband does a lot but it’s still tiring. I had major nausea during both pregnancies that lasted for maybe 5 months and then i was so tired I would go to sleep at 8 pm

[Anonymous]

I am also pregnant with my third. Yes, all hospitals are allowing one support person (GWU just announced two) but they have to have a COVID test.

Doctors appts- many are virtual except the ones where they have to do u/s or blood draws. The doctors offices are very clean, social distanced, contactless and everyone in masks. I’ve felt very reassured.

I am in my late 30s and I feel good during this pregnancy. I have so many friends who gave birth in their 40s.

It’s not ideal but it is what it is. I’ve enjoyed spending more time with my older kids before new baby comes.

[Anonymous]

Op - first its ok to be anxious and kind of dread this. It was unexpected and there are many unknowns in the world right now. You wouldn’t be human if you didn’t have those feelings. No guilt.

I recently had #4 who was a big surprise. After wrapping my head around it and getting excited, Covid turned the world ups wide down my 7th month of pregnancy and I had no idea how it was going to go.

The hospital was so okay - they are doing it all to keep everyone safe. No maternity ward breakouts yet. Dr visits are also okay. Pediatricians are taking utmost care. My of my end of pregnancy OB appts were virtual. I got a BP cuff and scale and reported weekly to my dr. No complications tho so it was easy.

I’m half positive I had Covid in January when it wasn’t known in US. All the symptoms and I ended up hospitalized twice to check my breathing and blood clots, and I was 5mos pregnant. All okay tho, just never been sicker.

But many moms have been totally ok even when diagnosed with Covid. Thousands of babies born over the last 6+ months and okay.

He’s now 10wks and so chill. My age gap is 7 years and my oldest just turned 12 and I’m 41. I felt a little old to be pregnant but age is just a number

I have to believe I got pregnant at this time for a reason and he’s going to be so a beautiful bonus for our kids.
It’s not easy tho. I even got pregnant in northern Italy where Covid hit so hard, so it’s a little full circle to me and I think there is a reason for it all.

I also had DR and went to PT for it. I’m sure at some point I will go back to PT. My body is hurting more this recovery, but I’m trying to make my mental state stronger.

Get some online therapy if you need, or meds if you need. Know what you need to stay strong for this one. It could be a long pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Do you want to have this baby? If not, you don’t have to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op - first its ok to be anxious and kind of dread this. It was unexpected and there are many unknowns in the world right now. You wouldn’t be human if you didn’t have those feelings. No guilt.

I recently had #4 who was a big surprise. After wrapping my head around it and getting excited, Covid turned the world ups wide down my 7th month of pregnancy and I had no idea how it was going to go.

The hospital was so okay - they are doing it all to keep everyone safe. No maternity ward breakouts yet. Dr visits are also okay. Pediatricians are taking utmost care. My of my end of pregnancy OB appts were virtual. I got a BP cuff and scale and reported weekly to my dr. No complications tho so it was easy.

I’m half positive I had Covid in January when it wasn’t known in US. All the symptoms and I ended up hospitalized twice to check my breathing and blood clots, and I was 5mos pregnant. All okay tho, just never been sicker.

But many moms have been totally ok even when diagnosed with Covid. Thousands of babies born over the last 6+ months and okay.

He’s now 10wks and so chill. My age gap is 7 years and my oldest just turned 12 and I’m 41. I felt a little old to be pregnant but age is just a number

I have to believe I got pregnant at this time for a reason and he’s going to be so a beautiful bonus for our kids.
It’s not easy tho. I even got pregnant in northern Italy where Covid hit so hard, so it’s a little full circle to me and I think there is a reason for it all.

I also had DR and went to PT for it. I’m sure at some point I will go back to PT. My body is hurting more this recovery, but I’m trying to make my mental state stronger.

Get some online therapy if you need, or meds if you need. Know what you need to stay strong for this one. It could be a long pregnancy.

OP here. Thank you so much PP 💜💜 I’m starting to get excited

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you want to have this baby? If not, you don’t have to.

I’m just stressed and trying to wrap my head around it. I’m not planning on having an abortion and it never even crossed my mind.