Do you think he can be faithful?
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Anonymous
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My DH and I were debating about if his best friend could be a faithful husband. I say no, he says yes, what do you think?
Parents are divorced because his dad got caught cheating. He was the ultimate ladies' man when he was single and still likes to flirt. He cheated on her before they were married (they got married 5 years ago). He and his wife have different sex drives: his high, hers low (I only know this through my husband). He travels a lot for business. He is objectively attractive in that DC bro kind of way. I wish them the best, but he seems to have a lot of red flags to me. If the wife had been a girlfriend of mine, I probably would have warned her before they got married. |
Anonymous
| How could we possibly know? And why do you care? |
Anonymous
| Yea, I think he's ripe for cheating. |
Anonymous
| no way in hell. There's no way he's faithful. Too many factors contributing to him being a cheater. |
Anonymous
| If his low drive wife isn’t keeping up with his high sex drive, there is a 0% chance he would be faithful. |
Anonymous
| Birds of a feather . . . |
Anonymous
| He can, but does he want to? |
Anonymous
| My husband would say the same and about his 2 friends. They cheated pretty soon after they were married. It took my husband until year 18 of marriage. I agree with birds of a feather. The friends they hang around mean something. |
Anonymous
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No chance. The three big red flags are, in order: Sex drive disparity (he will be sex starved), business travel (opportunities) and he's handsome (women will be available).
In general, men are as faithful as their options, although some men who are satisfied at home can resist temptation. |
Anonymous
His father cheating is HUGE and his parents divorcing because of it . Read the statistics on sons subjected to that trauma. It becomes a multigenerational problem, passed right down the line. |
Anonymous
| MYOB |
Anonymous
| You realize that your DH is influenced by his best friend. If you believe the best friend can cheat, particularly getting away with it then in all likelihood your DH will as well. He remains best friends with a cheater means he doesn’t see it as a character flaw. |
Anonymous
Oh please, half of men cheat in marriages and if you count cheating on girlfriends, it's higher. Men with 3 best friends have one that cheated. It's common. It doesn't mean her DH will. I swear, women like to make this some fatalistic thing they can't control - his dad cheated! His friend cheated! - rather than putting an effort into keeping your man from wandering. |
Anonymous
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Americans are so morose. Men have high sex drives. So do many women. Sexuality is a natural course in human nature. Sometimes people are less attracted to their spouse. Sometimes they harbor feelings of youthful sexual vigor for the spouse or in fantasy of another. Sometimes they act on it outside marriage. That doesn’t mean they end their union and separate their family. Flings (flirting, fantasy or physical) could happen on occasion. It’s love and commitment to sharing a life that matters. Not to control every thought and desire of sexual curiosity in your spouse. It’s unnatural and suffocating to live in this Puritan way. And no open marriages that’s a recipe to end your union. Be considerate of your spouse. A mistress is a rare thing but it happens.
I read these posts about women and men who think their spouse has a “vibe” with someone, or flirting. ? Have some confidence in yourself and your spouse. Long term commitments have varying degrees of sex, love, passion in various seasons of the marriage...seeking something on a rare occasion outside the marriage doesn’t end the commitment to one another and your family. To the lady who wrote this: be ashamed of wondering and judging what’s in another mans heart. |
Anonymous
| No most likely he won't be faithful and as he has already cheated on her the question is already answered. |