Do you think he can be faithful?

[Anonymous]

Oh—but you are right when I watched my dad whom I was extremely close to ware away from cancer and then die over 18 months...it was less during that time. So much for “in sickness and in health”. The time 20 years in a marriage your spouse is supposed to be there for you. But his married whore also had a father she hated so they would never understand intense grief.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Americans are so morose. Men have high sex drives. So do many women. Sexuality is a natural course in human nature. Sometimes people are less attracted to their spouse. Sometimes they harbor feelings of youthful sexual vigor for the spouse or in fantasy of another. Sometimes they act on it outside marriage. That doesn’t mean they end their union and separate their family. Flings (flirting, fantasy or physical) could happen on occasion. It’s love and commitment to sharing a life that matters. Not to control every thought and desire of sexual curiosity in your spouse. It’s unnatural and suffocating to live in this Puritan way. And no open marriages that’s a recipe to end your union. Be considerate of your spouse. A mistress is a rare thing but it happens.

I read these posts about women and men who think their spouse has a “vibe” with someone, or flirting. ? Have some confidence in yourself and your spouse. Long term commitments have varying degrees of sex, love, passion in various seasons of the marriage...seeking something on a rare occasion outside the marriage doesn’t end the commitment to one another and your family.

To the lady who wrote this: be ashamed of wondering and judging what’s in another mans heart.

I can’t focus on the rest of the post because the first sentence is so distracting. What does “morose” have to do with the rest of it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If his low drive wife isn’t keeping up with his high sex drive, there is a 0% chance he would be faithful.

I'm so tired of this old rhetoric. My ex was all the things you listed except probably a few extra red flags involving family trauma and I have a very high drive. He still cheated on me like it was his PT job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If his low drive wife isn’t keeping up with his high sex drive, there is a 0% chance he would be faithful.

I'm so tired of this old rhetoric. My ex was all the things you listed except probably a few extra red flags involving family trauma and I have a very high drive. He still cheated on me like it was his PT job.

Same with mine.

All the 69-ing, bjs, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, doggy, and a few 3-somes spattered throughout the marriage didn’t stop the cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If his low drive wife isn’t keeping up with his high sex drive, there is a 0% chance he would be faithful.

I'm so tired of this old rhetoric. My ex was all the things you listed except probably a few extra red flags involving family trauma and I have a very high drive. He still cheated on me like it was his PT job.

Same with mine.

All the 69-ing, bjs, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, doggy, and a few 3-somes spattered throughout the marriage didn’t stop the cheating.

+1. No sex in a marriage is a serious problem IMO, but it is not the problem typically driving infidelity.

As a society, we have to stop blaming victims for their abuses of their perpetrators. The only person responsible for infidelity is the person who perpetrates it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If his low drive wife isn’t keeping up with his high sex drive, there is a 0% chance he would be faithful.

I'm so tired of this old rhetoric. My ex was all the things you listed except probably a few extra red flags involving family trauma and I have a very high drive. He still cheated on me like it was his PT job.

Same with mine.

All the 69-ing, bjs, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, doggy, and a few 3-somes spattered throughout the marriage didn’t stop the cheating.

+1. No sex in a marriage is a serious problem IMO, but it is not the problem typically driving infidelity.

As a society, we have to stop blaming victims for their abuses of their perpetrators. The only person responsible for infidelity is the person who perpetrates it.

No one is saying that the only reason men cheat is sexual deprivation, but some men and women who would be faithful cheat because of this. Sexual mismatch was one of the red flags here

Also, if you are single, whatcha doing later?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If his low drive wife isn’t keeping up with his high sex drive, there is a 0% chance he would be faithful.

I'm so tired of this old rhetoric. My ex was all the things you listed except probably a few extra red flags involving family trauma and I have a very high drive. He still cheated on me like it was his PT job.

https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2020/07/dear-therapist-im-cheating-on-my-husband/614032/

It's also ok to acknowledge that many people cheat only because they are deprived. Like this person whom I am sure you see as a monster, but whose therapist recommend cheating to as everyone surely would