Is one parent remarrying sufficient to trigger "change in circumstance" so as to change custody ?

Anonymous
I have primary custody and my ex is getting remarried. Does this trigger a change in circumstance sufficient to warrant a change in custody?
Anonymous
Nope, not even close.

If the marriage somehow altered the parents' living situation in a relevant way, like caused them to move from one state to another, that could potentially cause a change. But just the fact of marriage alone, no way.
Anonymous
It absolutely can. And it happened to my ex wife when she married me. We were able to increase custody due to her being home more as a result of being able to work part time after our marriage and getting pregnant. The person saying not even close doesn’t know anything.
Anonymous
There have been a number of cases with very young children. Typically, the parents were never married and the child is in daycare or perhaps being watched by a variety of caregivers while the mother works. When the father marries, his wife wants to SAH. Their “solution” is to get 50/50 or full custody on the grounds that the stepmom is better than daycare.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:It absolutely can. And it happened to my ex wife when she married me. We were able to increase custody due to her being home more as a result of being able to work part time after our marriage and getting pregnant. The person saying not even close doesn’t know anything.


The marriage is not "sufficient" to trigger the change. In your situation, you got married AND you had an adult available to provide more childcare. That's two changes. The marriage alone is not enough.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:It absolutely can. And it happened to my ex wife when she married me. We were able to increase custody due to her being home more as a result of being able to work part time after our marriage and getting pregnant. The person saying not even close doesn’t know anything.


That's really crappy to take time away from Dad and not best for the kids.

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:It absolutely can. And it happened to my ex wife when she married me. We were able to increase custody due to her being home more as a result of being able to work part time after our marriage and getting pregnant. The person saying not even close doesn’t know anything.


And, when she divorces you, given she'd do that to her ex, she'll do it to you. Enjoy your every other weekend.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It absolutely can. And it happened to my ex wife when she married me. We were able to increase custody due to her being home more as a result of being able to work part time after our marriage and getting pregnant. The person saying not even close doesn’t know anything.


And, when she divorces you, given she'd do that to her ex, she'll do it to you. Enjoy your every other weekend.


Sounds like they are already divorced.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It absolutely can. And it happened to my ex wife when she married me. We were able to increase custody due to her being home more as a result of being able to work part time after our marriage and getting pregnant. The person saying not even close doesn’t know anything.


And, when she divorces you, given she'd do that to her ex, she'll do it to you. Enjoy your every other weekend.


Read the post - she’s his ex-wife so she already divorced him!

How many times are these people getting married?? SMH
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It absolutely can. And it happened to my ex wife when she married me. We were able to increase custody due to her being home more as a result of being able to work part time after our marriage and getting pregnant. The person saying not even close doesn’t know anything.


And, when she divorces you, given she'd do that to her ex, she'll do it to you. Enjoy your every other weekend.


Read the post - she’s his ex-wife so she already divorced him!

How many times are these people getting married?? SMH


Maybe she wasn’t married before. People do have babies without being married.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It absolutely can. And it happened to my ex wife when she married me. We were able to increase custody due to her being home more as a result of being able to work part time after our marriage and getting pregnant. The person saying not even close doesn’t know anything.


And, when she divorces you, given she'd do that to her ex, she'll do it to you. Enjoy your every other weekend.


Read the post - she’s his ex-wife so she already divorced him!

How many times are these people getting married?? SMH


Both of them are winners. She probably did it for the child support. Its a lousy thing to do. Really lousy. Obviously if they are divorced he wasn't a good replacement father.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It absolutely can. And it happened to my ex wife when she married me. We were able to increase custody due to her being home more as a result of being able to work part time after our marriage and getting pregnant. The person saying not even close doesn’t know anything.


And, when she divorces you, given she'd do that to her ex, she'll do it to you. Enjoy your every other weekend.


Read the post - she’s his ex-wife so she already divorced him!

How many times are these people getting married?? SMH


Both of them are winners. She probably did it for the child support. Its a lousy thing to do. Really lousy. Obviously if they are divorced he wasn't a good replacement father.


We know you think women only want custody for CS. You post it on every thread. Is that why your mom wanted you?
Anonymous
Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.


I gave up all child support so I could have custody. Please provide links to the peer reviewed research you reference. I do not know I single instance of this.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.


My XH pays $100/mo (when he pays) and I have the child 80% of the time. Trust me, it costs many hundreds a month to raise a child. Financially, I’d be much better off with 50/50 and no CS. I’m not in it for CS. I want my child to be safe and have a stable home. Her father values buying weed over buying school supplies.
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