Is one parent remarrying sufficient to trigger "change in circumstance" so as to change custody ?

[Anonymous]

Absolutely. Unless there are any specific medical or other needs, anyone who thinks that they can't raise kids on $2k/month is looking at their kid as an income source. Horrible

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.

The average child support payment in this country is $430. So, you are saying that most women receiving child support are spending less than $215 a month on food, housing, clothing, childcare and all of the other expenses you have with a kid?

The average for the country is incorrect way of looking at it. If someone is paying $430 then they would only be making $30-40K and imagine paying CS on that. In DC area, it's pretty common to see $2K+ as CS which is not even deductible in anyway. You also forgot the spousal support some spouses get and according to facts, it's mostly from men to women.

I remember, my poor handyman in a small town in SW VA was $1300 for his 2 kids. He had difficulty making ends meet but his wife with minimum paying job got her 3rd new car in 5th year. I wonder how much of that is going towards the kids.

Why should it be deductible? I can’t deduct the expense of raising kids either.

The person receiving the money should pay taxes on it.

Why? The taxes have already been paid, presumably at a higher rate, by the payor.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.

The average child support payment in this country is $430. So, you are saying that most women receiving child support are spending less than $215 a month on food, housing, clothing, childcare and all of the other expenses you have with a kid?

The women who think in the manner asserted here (have a baby to extort CS) are not the sharpest knives in the drawer and don’t do this thing called math. They just think it’s a gravy train. The impulse to behave this way isn’t rational.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.

The average child support payment in this country is $430. So, you are saying that most women receiving child support are spending less than $215 a month on food, housing, clothing, childcare and all of the other expenses you have with a kid?

The average for the country is incorrect way of looking at it. If someone is paying $430 then they would only be making $30-40K and imagine paying CS on that. In DC area, it's pretty common to see $2K+ as CS which is not even deductible in anyway. You also forgot the spousal support some spouses get and according to facts, it's mostly from men to women.

I remember, my poor handyman in a small town in SW VA was $1300 for his 2 kids. He had difficulty making ends meet but his wife with minimum paying job got her 3rd new car in 5th year. I wonder how much of that is going towards the kids.

Why should it be deductible? I can’t deduct the expense of raising kids either.

The person receiving the money should pay taxes on it.

Why? The taxes have already been paid, presumably at a higher rate, by the payor.

Spousal tax deduction is no longer allowed and CS was never included in the taxes anyway. There has to be some accountability on where all the money meant for kids is going though.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.

The average child support payment in this country is $430. So, you are saying that most women receiving child support are spending less than $215 a month on food, housing, clothing, childcare and all of the other expenses you have with a kid?

The average for the country is incorrect way of looking at it. If someone is paying $430 then they would only be making $30-40K and imagine paying CS on that. In DC area, it's pretty common to see $2K+ as CS which is not even deductible in anyway. You also forgot the spousal support some spouses get and according to facts, it's mostly from men to women.

I remember, my poor handyman in a small town in SW VA was $1300 for his 2 kids. He had difficulty making ends meet but his wife with minimum paying job got her 3rd new car in 5th year. I wonder how much of that is going towards the kids.

Why should it be deductible? I can’t deduct the expense of raising kids either.

The person receiving the money should pay taxes on it.

Why? The taxes have already been paid, presumably at a higher rate, by the payor.

Spousal tax deduction is no longer allowed and CS was never included in the taxes anyway. There has to be some accountability on where all the money meant for kids is going though.

Cheat, lie and be a general jerk, leave your spouse and kid to move to and live a thousand miles away with AP and her kids (plural). Then of course I’m going to extract as much of the only thing I can legally extract from you. In this area CS in an amount well in excess of $2,000 even for one kid isn’t uncommon. Life is hard, juggling full time work and raising a child as a single parent, with little support from the other parent is extra hard. Being able to work 35-40 hours a week or even part time, and throw money at problems and being able to save money every month, makes for a much easier and less stressful life for parent and as a result for kid as well.

I know way to many women who tried to be nice, reduced awarded support obligations, only to have ex leave (men never leave until they have a relationship in the wings) and immediately set up new life with new gf/wife and her kids or have more kids with new wife. Forget that, that benefits my or your kid how?

If you choose to break the contract then I choose to care only about the security and stability of me and my own. And since we no longer have a contract you get no say in how I spend court ordered support. The court didn’t have a problem with how I was or planned to spend the money so why should you?

Play stupid games. Win stupid prizes!

[Anonymous]

Oh and judges tend to not want to upset the status quo, so if one parent has had sole or primary custody for a significant length of time, you’d be hard pressed to find a judge willing to change that because of a change in marital status.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.

The average child support payment in this country is $430. So, you are saying that most women receiving child support are spending less than $215 a month on food, housing, clothing, childcare and all of the other expenses you have with a kid?

The average for the country is incorrect way of looking at it. If someone is paying $430 then they would only be making $30-40K and imagine paying CS on that. In DC area, it's pretty common to see $2K+ as CS which is not even deductible in anyway. You also forgot the spousal support some spouses get and according to facts, it's mostly from men to women.

I remember, my poor handyman in a small town in SW VA was $1300 for his 2 kids. He had difficulty making ends meet but his wife with minimum paying job got her 3rd new car in 5th year. I wonder how much of that is going towards the kids.

Why should it be deductible? I can’t deduct the expense of raising kids either.

The person receiving the money should pay taxes on it.

Why? The taxes have already been paid, presumably at a higher rate, by the payor.

Spousal tax deduction is no longer allowed and CS was never included in the taxes anyway. There has to be some accountability on where all the money meant for kids is going though.

Cheat, lie and be a general jerk, leave your spouse and kid to move to and live a thousand miles away with AP and her kids (plural). Then of course I’m going to extract as much of the only thing I can legally extract from you. In this area CS in an amount well in excess of $2,000 even for one kid isn’t uncommon. Life is hard, juggling full time work and raising a child as a single parent, with little support from the other parent is extra hard. Being able to work 35-40 hours a week or even part time, and throw money at problems and being able to save money every month, makes for a much easier and less stressful life for parent and as a result for kid as well.

I know way to many women who tried to be nice, reduced awarded support obligations, only to have ex leave (men never leave until they have a relationship in the wings) and immediately set up new life with new gf/wife and her kids or have more kids with new wife. Forget that, that benefits my or your kid how?

If you choose to break the contract then I choose to care only about the security and stability of me and my own. And since we no longer have a contract you get no say in how I spend court ordered support. The court didn’t have a problem with how I was or planned to spend the money so why should you?

Play stupid games. Win stupid prizes!

Oh, so it is about holding grudges and staying bitter? That's what the CS is all about then. Nice!

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.

The average child support payment in this country is $430. So, you are saying that most women receiving child support are spending less than $215 a month on food, housing, clothing, childcare and all of the other expenses you have with a kid?

The average for the country is incorrect way of looking at it. If someone is paying $430 then they would only be making $30-40K and imagine paying CS on that. In DC area, it's pretty common to see $2K+ as CS which is not even deductible in anyway. You also forgot the spousal support some spouses get and according to facts, it's mostly from men to women.

I remember, my poor handyman in a small town in SW VA was $1300 for his 2 kids. He had difficulty making ends meet but his wife with minimum paying job got her 3rd new car in 5th year. I wonder how much of that is going towards the kids.

Why should it be deductible? I can’t deduct the expense of raising kids either.

The person receiving the money should pay taxes on it.

Why? The taxes have already been paid, presumably at a higher rate, by the payor.

Spousal tax deduction is no longer allowed and CS was never included in the taxes anyway. There has to be some accountability on where all the money meant for kids is going though.

Cheat, lie and be a general jerk, leave your spouse and kid to move to and live a thousand miles away with AP and her kids (plural). Then of course I’m going to extract as much of the only thing I can legally extract from you. In this area CS in an amount well in excess of $2,000 even for one kid isn’t uncommon. Life is hard, juggling full time work and raising a child as a single parent, with little support from the other parent is extra hard. Being able to work 35-40 hours a week or even part time, and throw money at problems and being able to save money every month, makes for a much easier and less stressful life for parent and as a result for kid as well.

I know way to many women who tried to be nice, reduced awarded support obligations, only to have ex leave (men never leave until they have a relationship in the wings) and immediately set up new life with new gf/wife and her kids or have more kids with new wife. Forget that, that benefits my or your kid how?

If you choose to break the contract then I choose to care only about the security and stability of me and my own. And since we no longer have a contract you get no say in how I spend court ordered support. The court didn’t have a problem with how I was or planned to spend the money so why should you?

Play stupid games. Win stupid prizes!

What about the women who cheat and leave with the AP, take the kids, demand alimony and child support and refuse visitation and phone contact? They set up a new home with AP. That ok to treat dads that way?

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Anonymous wrote:I have primary custody and my ex is getting remarried. Does this trigger a change in circumstance sufficient to warrant a change in custody?

Not alone, it's not. But my brother married a woman diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and he ended up losing custody because their home was chaotic at best and abusive at worst.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.

lol, spoken like someone who has no clue how much kids actually cost.

[Anonymous]

LOL! Some people just like to add extra costs to CS for their grudges.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.

lol, spoken like someone who has no clue how much kids actually cost.

Actually its true. You can pretend it isn't. Most of us have kids. My housing costs are the same if my child lives here or not. My utilities are the same as I have to heat and cool it so what a drop extra in water? So, the differences are food, clothing (not that expensive) and activities (this is choice not requirement so it could be 0, it could be a few hundred or a few thousand). Public school is free. Our big expense is saving for college and activities as we choose to spend a lot on activities. Likewise both parents should financially contribute. Child support is the court determined parents share but that is not supposed to be inclusive and the custodial parent also needs to contribute. Custodial parent needs a car, housing and other basics for themselves. So, you cannot say oh, I need a car for my child but not me. Oh, I need a house for my child but not me when you would have those things regardless of a child.

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Yes, a lot of people don't understand this and ended up thinking that they are doing their kids and ex a favor by raising kids. I can't believe some people go nuts for extra CS. It's your kids after all and I would pay money to my ex to have extra time with my kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it.

The average child support payment in this country is $430. So, you are saying that most women receiving child support are spending less than $215 a month on food, housing, clothing, childcare and all of the other expenses you have with a kid?

The average for the country is incorrect way of looking at it. If someone is paying $430 then they would only be making $30-40K and imagine paying CS on that. In DC area, it's pretty common to see $2K+ as CS which is not even deductible in anyway. You also forgot the spousal support some spouses get and according to facts, it's mostly from men to women.

I remember, my poor handyman in a small town in SW VA was $1300 for his 2 kids. He had difficulty making ends meet but his wife with minimum paying job got her 3rd new car in 5th year. I wonder how much of that is going towards the kids.

Why should it be deductible? I can’t deduct the expense of raising kids either.

The person receiving the money should pay taxes on it.

Why? The taxes have already been paid, presumably at a higher rate, by the payor.

Spousal tax deduction is no longer allowed and CS was never included in the taxes anyway. There has to be some accountability on where all the money meant for kids is going though.

Cheat, lie and be a general jerk, leave your spouse and kid to move to and live a thousand miles away with AP and her kids (plural). Then of course I’m going to extract as much of the only thing I can legally extract from you. In this area CS in an amount well in excess of $2,000 even for one kid isn’t uncommon. Life is hard, juggling full time work and raising a child as a single parent, with little support from the other parent is extra hard. Being able to work 35-40 hours a week or even part time, and throw money at problems and being able to save money every month, makes for a much easier and less stressful life for parent and as a result for kid as well.

I know way to many women who tried to be nice, reduced awarded support obligations, only to have ex leave (men never leave until they have a relationship in the wings) and immediately set up new life with new gf/wife and her kids or have more kids with new wife. Forget that, that benefits my or your kid how?

If you choose to break the contract then I choose to care only about the security and stability of me and my own. And since we no longer have a contract you get no say in how I spend court ordered support. The court didn’t have a problem with how I was or planned to spend the money so why should you?

Play stupid games. Win stupid prizes!

Easy for you to say.

What about the women who do this, and then the guy ends up paying? It's shameful and I, for one, know one woman who needs to take a long walk in lead boots off a short pier. That's about what she's worth.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, a lot of people don't understand this and ended up thinking that they are doing their kids and ex a favor by raising kids. I can't believe some people go nuts for extra CS. It's your kids after all and I would pay money to my ex to have extra time with my kids.

Some dads would love the time with their kids. Mine would.