Fight with husband- can’t sleep
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Anonymous
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While getting ready for bed, DH was trying to tell me something and was annoyed that I was replying to texts on my phone. Rather than tell me to stop, he acted huffy and told me he would email the info he was trying to tell me. I apologized but he ignored me and emailed it instead. I was mad about this and told him to stop being passive aggressive. I left the room and went downstairs to cool off and be alone. He followed me and wouldn’t leave when I asked him to leave me alone. I started yelling and swearing as he tried to explain for the third time why he wasn’t actually being a jerk and why I shouldn’t be mad at him for being passive aggressive with me. When I started swearing, he called me a trashy woman from (my LCOL hometown).
Now I have to be up in 5 hours and I can’t sleep because I’m so sad and hurt. He’s “sleeping” on the couch. Ugh. 13 years of marriage and three kids and still, this BS. |
Anonymous
| Go and apologize and the go to bed. |
Anonymous
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Let me guess, this isn't the first time your DH has been annoyed that he's trying to talk to you and you can't take your eyes off the phone.
I'm totally on team DH on this one. You sound like a piece of work, and I"m going to guess that you rarely see your own fault. |
Anonymous
| I think a lot of us are fighting a lot with our spouses. Don’t forget to breath. |
Anonymous
| Are you expecting people to side with you after ignoring DH then yelling and swearing at him, especially after he chose to communicate with you in u you our clearly preferred style? |
Anonymous
Wait. Is this one of the posts where we're supposed to respond as if you're one person by attacking you and then you come in and admit that you're the other person and just wanted to be validated? Because if you're the wife in the above scenario for real, you don't have a case. In case you're still clueless, you were rude and passive aggressive - "I'm too good to listen to you, so I'll amuse myself doing something else while you repeat yourself five times, oh you have a problem that I wasn't listening while you were bothering to tell me some information? well why didn't you mention it! I surely would have given you some basic respect if you had said that I should." And if you're the one who was being rudely ignored, then yes, your spouse was being obnoxious. |
Anonymous
This, and put your phone down. |
Anonymous
| While your DH shouldn’t have insulted you, your behavior was worse. Do you take any responsibility for your role in this? Hopefully you slept it off and will apologize this morning. |
Anonymous
| You sound like a jerk. |
Anonymous
| Both are in the wrong. Chalk it up to cabin fever. |
Anonymous
| Team DH. Get off your phone when your husband (or anyone, really) is talking to you. Not the first time, right? |
Anonymous
| I'm on your side, OP. He should not have interrupted you. The rest of his actions were super aggressive. |
Anonymous
| Were you texting your AP? |
Anonymous
| Your husband deserves better. |
Anonymous
| We try to never go to bed annoyed with each other. The upside is the late night makeup sex generally gets both of us to sleep right away. |