Fight with husband- can’t sleep
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Anonymous
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he's trying to communicate with you, you act like a petulant child and yet you call him passive aggressive?
grow the f up and stop acting like a class a B. |
Anonymous
+1 You prioritized your texting over conversation with DH. Instead of ignoring him why he was trying to communicate with you, you should have acknowledged his attempt and, if you couldn't drag yourself away from your device, asked him to give you a minute. |
Anonymous
+2 and you likely spend hours on your phone a day. I suggest at 7 pm you put it in a basket and don’t look at it until 9 am the next morning. |
Anonymous
Yes and no. IMO, they were both wrong. When DH tries to talk to me when I'm responding to someone via text or email, I tell him to hang on and let me finish. Vice versa when DH is replying. I wait till he's done. Unless it's a matter of some great import, the spouse can also wait. However, that being said, OP's response was out of line. You didn't need to yell or curse when your DH was trying to explain himself to you. But, he was wrong to call you names. If he thinks your so trashy, why did he marry you? You both have issues. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like you are both acting like jerks and bad at communicating. |
Anonymous
| ^*you're |
Anonymous
This. You were wrong, OP. But I’ll throw you one small scrap. And that’s this: if you were texting first and your DH started talking to you with the expectation that you would just drop your train of thought to listen exclusively to him without so much of a “hey do you have a minute?” So that you could say “sure...let me just fire this off” and allow you to wrap up and hit send...then maybe you both need to chill. |
Anonymous
+3 should he have called you trashy, no but you were in fact acting trashy and your behavior was completely unwarranted. You don't get to behave abusively ( ignoring, yelling, and swearing) and then dictate how people respond. So apologize and do better. Make some rules for yourself: limit your time on the phone in the evening be it for work or other reasons, the phone goes in a basket away from the bed after Xpm. Allow time to talk to each other uninterrupted by texts and emails. If you really and truly have to look at an email say " I really want to be able to focus on what you are telling me, can you give me 5 minutes to finish the email, and I'll be able to give you my full attention." and then do that. Namecalling is not allowed for the both of you ever. |
Anonymous
| Maybe after you both cool down, talk to him without your phone. Also, make it a point to listen to him, and not answer texts on your phone. You want to give your husband your undivided attention and show him that you care. Make communication a priority in your marriage. You've got 13 years invested in your marriage, maybe counseling might help you guys to work through issues. |
Anonymous
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Passive Aggressive is the most over used phrase in the world.
You were being rude, he found a work around to convey the information. You don’t get to characterize or name call. |
Anonymous
If he had actually emailed her it would have been a workaround. Just saying "I guess I'll email you" instead of waiting is passive aggressive. That said, OP you lost your freaking mind yelling and swearing at him over this, let alone with your kids in the house. You need to grow up. |
Anonymous
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Tell him you're sorry.
Tell him you love him. Tell him you know he loves your trashy self but don't say that anymore because it hurts your heart. Water under the bridge, get back to being in love. |
Anonymous
| You guys are a mess. |
Anonymous
| Who were you texting with thst you couldnt stop and listen to your spouse? Phones ruin intimacy. The best puece of advice I received from a friend my age who went to marriage counseling was leave the phones downstairs and put them away after a certain time at night. |
Anonymous
Np: In the original post, she said he did email it to her... |