Looking back: was there someone else you should have married

[Anonymous]

Maybe you weren’t sure about them at the time or you thought there was something better, but looking back you shouldn’t have given them up.

[Anonymous]

No. DH and I have struggled but I now see that I would have struggled with anyone because I am not really the marrying type. We are still married because DH was the only one I dated with the tenacity and conviction to see our commitment through. Others with whom I seemed more naturally compatible lacked this quality. If I had not married DH I do not think I would have married anyone or stayed married more than 2-3 years max.

[Anonymous]

Not really. When DH and I have issues, I sometimes think about how someone else would have been a better match on that issue. But I know that these other people would have been a poorer match in other areas. And overall, the areas where DH and I align in our priorities/values is more important than the personality fits of these other people.

[Anonymous]

No. Like PP, with hindsight I'd say I just probably should not have married. My husband and I are pretty compatible as friends, and I enjoy my life with him in it, but I think I would have been happier on my own.

[Anonymous]

No, two guys proposed to me before I met my now husband and I’m so glad I said no. Neither of them ever amounted to anything from what I can see and my husband has really been wonderful.

[Anonymous]

No, nobody from my past. Since married I can say I found a person I could see myself with had I not been married.

[Anonymous]

I'm so happy I married my husband! In fact, last weekend an ex that I hadn't spoken to in years messaged me on Facebook, and though I initially felt a tinge of nostalgia, within a few messages he devolved into the same old jerk that he always was, and I was so grateful that I wasn't stuck with that.

[Anonymous]

George Clooney

[Anonymous]

No. But there's someone that I got to know pretty well after I got married that I thought, dang, if I were still single I'd go after him. Still feel that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:George Clooney

Are you male, PP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you weren’t sure about them at the time or you thought there was something better, but looking back you shouldn’t have given them up.

Yes. I was in a LD relationship was a sophomore-junior in college. I thought I was too young to marry and I broke it off. My first marriage was almost nine years later and a disaster.

I’m happily remarried now, but I realize that I threw away a good man because of a cultural perception about young marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. DH and I have struggled but I now see that I would have struggled with anyone because I am not really the marrying type. We are still married because DH was the only one I dated with the tenacity and conviction to see our commitment through. Others with whom I seemed more naturally compatible lacked this quality. If I had not married DH I do not think I would have married anyone or stayed married more than 2-3 years max.

Same here. I have realized that all my instincts about DH were correct. DH was the right choice all the way. What he and I have built in terms of our relationship, kids, family, social network, common goals etc is pretty amazing.

[Anonymous]

No. I absolutely married the right person. So thankful for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:George Clooney

Yuck. Thankfully you dodged a bullet!

[Anonymous]

There isn't someone else I should've married, but I shouldn't have married my soon be ex. Biggest mistake of my life!