Looking back: was there someone else you should have married

[Anonymous]

Not exactly anyone specific. I was very immature in my 20's, and passed on some guys who I now realize probably had more of what I'm looking for. But who knows if it would have worked out with any of them. I just wish I knew then what I know now and picked better. I wouldn't marry my husband again, but I'm very grateful for our kids.

[Anonymous]

Yes, maybe so. Can never be sure, though, right?!

[Anonymous]

Nope, DH was the best decision I've ever made in my life.

I have a past love that was much stronger, magnetic, electric. Someone that my soul yearned for in unimaginable ways. But he was on a path to nowhere and I knew it. He's still working the same job as when we were 19, has a DUI, lives in a shit hole. I only wish he could see himself and his potential as I could.

My DH is loving, loyal, dedicated, a motivated worker, absolutely amazing father, and so caring. We have built a wonderful life and are truly happy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. But there's someone that I got to know pretty well after I got married that I thought, dang, if I were still single I'd go after him. Still feel that way.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, nobody from my past. Since married I can say I found a person I could see myself with had I not been married.

Same.

[Anonymous]

For never ending BJs, yes. For a spouse, no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:George Clooney

Yuck. Thankfully you dodged a bullet!

It's an old lady thing, you wouldn't understand.

[Anonymous]

Yea. I was crazy about him but knew my family would look down on him (he's not conventionally attractive and doesn't earn much - I don't care about those things but I was terrified what my family would say).

10 years later, I got divorced and we gave it another shot. So far it's amazing.

[Anonymous]

^He looked so old, even when he was 30

[Anonymous]

Should have? No. But there are two where we probably could have made it work and had a good marriage, but we weren't in the right life stage or location to think seriously about marriage.

[Anonymous]

Oh the tears I cried for so the guys I thought were “the one”. And now I’m so grateful that they never worked out. DH isn’t perfect but he’s perfect for me.

[Anonymous]

Lord, yes.

Oh well. I am making the best of it.

[Anonymous]

We met young and I never seriously dated anyone else. There are times that a particular issue seems like someone else would be easier (like my mom and his dad are hard for us to deal with) but overall he’s been a good friend, lover and father. I have no way of knowing whether someone else would have been all that and more and - since we’re often (but of course not always) happy - there’s no use in wondering anyways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not exactly anyone specific. I was very immature in my 20's, and passed on some guys who I now realize probably had more of what I'm looking for. But who knows if it would have worked out with any of them. I just wish I knew then what I know now and picked better. I wouldn't marry my husband again, but I'm very grateful for our kids.

This made me sad. Grateful that I waited and married the right guy for me.

[Anonymous]

I dated two other people I could be happily married to. I was always a good judge of character. Most of the men I dated went in to be successful and good family men.