My kid wants to go back to daycare

[Anonymous]

I couldn't sleep because my almost 4 year old told me sadly that he wanted to go back to daycare right before I put him to bed. And, he is afraid that he does not have a spot in daycare anymore. He is bored at home. We have an option to continue paying $2k a month without sending him to daycare but keeping his spot on top waiting list.

His daycare is open with limited capacity, and I & DH are working from home. We can take care of him, but we don't have time to play with him during the daytime on weekdays. I am not certain if his daycare has spot for him for now, but our biggest problem is I don't know if we should send him back to daycare because of covid19. Grandparents do not think it is a good idea to send him back, and we are not sure it is a good idea to send him back.

What is the childcare situation once MoCo opens at phase 2? Does phase 2 change anything about how many percentage capacity or safety protocol?
Should I wait till September? But I hear there's second wave coming.

[Anonymous]

You are the mom. You need to do what is best. Sometime this makes our kids unhappy.

[Anonymous]

If no one in your household is high risk I would absolutely send him back to daycare if you have the option to do so. If you or your spouse were able to trade off on work shifts and play/engage with him throughout the day my answer might be different, but it sounds like your jobs don’t really permit that and a 4 year old is just too young to be left to his own devices all day. For me the social/emotional benefits for the child would be worth the risk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If no one in your household is high risk I would absolutely send him back to daycare if you have the option to do so. If you or your spouse were able to trade off on work shifts and play/engage with him throughout the day my answer might be different, but it sounds like your jobs don’t really permit that and a 4 year old is just too young to be left to his own devices all day. For me the social/emotional benefits for the child would be worth the risk.

I agree with this poster. If you and DH truly can’t engage with him for part of every day other than meals and bedtime, then he needs to go back to daycare. Poor little guy is lonely.

[Anonymous]

Just send him in. Our 3 year old has been going the entire time and it’s been so wonderful for her. There’s no way we could’ve engaged with her at home, given our jobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I couldn't sleep because my almost 4 year old told me sadly that he wanted to go back to daycare right before I put him to bed. And, he is afraid that he does not have a spot in daycare anymore. He is bored at home. We have an option to continue paying $2k a month without sending him to daycare but keeping his spot on top waiting list.

His daycare is open with limited capacity, and I & DH are working from home. We can take care of him, but we don't have time to play with him during the daytime on weekdays. I am not certain if his daycare has spot for him for now, but our biggest problem is I don't know if we should send him back to daycare because of covid19. Grandparents do not think it is a good idea to send him back, and we are not sure it is a good idea to send him back.

What is the childcare situation once MoCo opens at phase 2? Does phase 2 change anything about how many percentage capacity or safety protocol?
Should I wait till September? But I hear there's second wave coming.

Good one, Troll! You had me going until this. Unless you’ve told your child that he might lose his spot or you have adult conversations in front of him (inappropriate), a 4 year old wouldn’t think that.

[Anonymous]

Send him! We can't wait for our daycare to open so we can send our preschooler, too!

[Anonymous]

We aren't sending ours and she really wants to go. If we send her we won't be seeing our grandparents for a while and that's not worth it to us as she is close to all 4.

[Anonymous]

Op here. DH insists to say no sending him back to daycare till we have no choice. DH is considered high risk, and grandparents live 20 mins away. The have our 18 months old that stay with them during the day, and they cannot take care of our older child at the same time because it is too much for them to handle.

I say to ship him to daycare, DH & grandparents say no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If no one in your household is high risk I would absolutely send him back to daycare if you have the option to do so. If you or your spouse were able to trade off on work shifts and play/engage with him throughout the day my answer might be different, but it sounds like your jobs don’t really permit that and a 4 year old is just too young to be left to his own devices all day. For me the social/emotional benefits for the child would be worth the risk.

I agree with this poster. If you and DH truly can’t engage with him for part of every day other than meals and bedtime, then he needs to go back to daycare. Poor little guy is lonely.

Keeping him home and unengaged is really unhealthy. Daycares for essential workers have been open this whole time and there haven’t been outbreaks, so the protocols work. Send him as soon as they will take him!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I couldn't sleep because my almost 4 year old told me sadly that he wanted to go back to daycare right before I put him to bed. And, he is afraid that he does not have a spot in daycare anymore. He is bored at home. We have an option to continue paying $2k a month without sending him to daycare but keeping his spot on top waiting list.

His daycare is open with limited capacity, and I & DH are working from home. We can take care of him, but we don't have time to play with him during the daytime on weekdays. I am not certain if his daycare has spot for him for now, but our biggest problem is I don't know if we should send him back to daycare because of covid19. Grandparents do not think it is a good idea to send him back, and we are not sure it is a good idea to send him back.

What is the childcare situation once MoCo opens at phase 2? Does phase 2 change anything about how many percentage capacity or safety protocol?
Should I wait till September? But I hear there's second wave coming.

Good one, Troll! You had me going until this. Unless you’ve told your child that he might lose his spot or you have adult conversations in front of him (inappropriate), a 4 year old wouldn’t think that.

Not a troll because I told him that they open at limited capacitiy & most likely no spot for him. It never comes to me that I should not tell our child that. Well, I even tell him some people get sick & died because of this big germs outdoor. That’s why there’s no daycare for him.

[Anonymous]

My son wanted to go back so badly as well and we feel good about the protocols of the school - so we sent him and he feels so happy to have routine and socialization. They are keeping classes really small and following good hygiene.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. DH insists to say no sending him back to daycare till we have no choice. DH is considered high risk, and grandparents live 20 mins away. The have our 18 months old that stay with them during the day, and they cannot take care of our older child at the same time because it is too much for them to handle.

I say to ship him to daycare, DH & grandparents say no.

I can understand that viewpoint from the grandparents. Have you considered sending both kids back to daycare?

I expect that MoCo daycares will open next week. I imagine the county is getting bombarded with angry calls/emails about it, since the state's reopening has left MoCo in a strange position (e.g., MoCo was previously allowing more daycares to open for phase I employees, but now isn't even doing that).

The state just bumped up room sizes to 15 people, including adults. There are recommendations to use face coverings, but I strongly suspect a lot of 3, and probably even 4, year olds won't be able to wear masks. So I think the'll be rare for the younger kids. They're also continuing to prevent parents from going in the center, and they're taking the temperature of kids every day.

[Anonymous]

Your kid is really, really bored with no engagement.

I honestly think it's not that high risk to send him back, especially if not everyone is going right now. Even after opening up to everyone, ours only has 3 or 4 kids in the class.

[Anonymous]

Tomorrow he might feel differently. Kids also want to return their new siblings. That doesn't mean having a new sibling doesn't turn into something wonderful. Being home now may have unforeseen benefits, and he may cry at drop off down the road. Who knows. I wouldn't lose sleep over it.