My kid wants to go back to daycare

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. DH insists to say no sending him back to daycare till we have no choice. DH is considered high risk, and grandparents live 20 mins away. The have our 18 months old that stay with them during the day, and they cannot take care of our older child at the same time because it is too much for them to handle.

I say to ship him to daycare, DH & grandparents say no.

I can understand that viewpoint from the grandparents. Have you considered sending both kids back to daycare?

I expect that MoCo daycares will open next week. I imagine the county is getting bombarded with angry calls/emails about it, since the state's reopening has left MoCo in a strange position (e.g., MoCo was previously allowing more daycares to open for phase I employees, but now isn't even doing that).

The state just bumped up room sizes to 15 people, including adults. There are recommendations to use face coverings, but I strongly suspect a lot of 3, and probably even 4, year olds won't be able to wear masks. So I think the'll be rare for the younger kids. They're also continuing to prevent parents from going in the center, and they're taking the temperature of kids every day.

We have come to an agreement not to send the 18 months old till he is 3 years old. The baby was taken care by grandparents before COVID-19. I am also angry with the situation that there is no spot for us even we decide to ship our older child back to daycare even though I understand the safety restriction protocol. So, MoCo daycare can open at full capacity at phase 2? Where is the source?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. DH insists to say no sending him back to daycare till we have no choice. DH is considered high risk, and grandparents live 20 mins away. The have our 18 months old that stay with them during the day, and they cannot take care of our older child at the same time because it is too much for them to handle.

I say to ship him to daycare, DH & grandparents say no.

I can understand that viewpoint from the grandparents. Have you considered sending both kids back to daycare?

I expect that MoCo daycares will open next week. I imagine the county is getting bombarded with angry calls/emails about it, since the state's reopening has left MoCo in a strange position (e.g., MoCo was previously allowing more daycares to open for phase I employees, but now isn't even doing that).

The state just bumped up room sizes to 15 people, including adults. There are recommendations to use face coverings, but I strongly suspect a lot of 3, and probably even 4, year olds won't be able to wear masks. So I think the'll be rare for the younger kids. They're also continuing to prevent parents from going in the center, and they're taking the temperature of kids every day.

We have come to an agreement not to send the 18 months old till he is 3 years old. The baby was taken care by grandparents before COVID-19. I am also angry with the situation that there is no spot for us even we decide to ship our older child back to daycare even though I understand the safety restriction protocol. So, MoCo daycare can open at full capacity at phase 2? Where is the source?

NP, but:
https://www.montgomerycountymd.gov/HHS/RightNav/reopening/index.html

However as noted in another thread, any daycares associated with an MCPS facility are likely closed until September.

[Anonymous]

If your dh is high risk and he also sees the grandparents, then it's a no brainer to keep the child at home. A 4 year old doesn't get to decide who else on the family catches COVID and he is too young for you to let him make this decision.

Is there anyway you and your dh could shift some work to the evening, after bedtime, and spend an hour or so with him, taking turns, during the day doing something fun? Because that's the real problem.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I couldn't sleep because my almost 4 year old told me sadly that he wanted to go back to daycare right before I put him to bed. And, he is afraid that he does not have a spot in daycare anymore. He is bored at home. We have an option to continue paying $2k a month without sending him to daycare but keeping his spot on top waiting list.

His daycare is open with limited capacity, and I & DH are working from home. We can take care of him, but we don't have time to play with him during the daytime on weekdays. I am not certain if his daycare has spot for him for now, but our biggest problem is I don't know if we should send him back to daycare because of covid19. Grandparents do not think it is a good idea to send him back, and we are not sure it is a good idea to send him back.

What is the childcare situation once MoCo opens at phase 2? Does phase 2 change anything about how many percentage capacity or safety protocol?
Should I wait till September? But I hear there's second wave coming.

Good one, Troll! You had me going until this. Unless you’ve told your child that he might lose his spot or you have adult conversations in front of him (inappropriate), a 4 year old wouldn’t think that.

Not a troll because I told him that they open at limited capacitiy & most likely no spot for him. It never comes to me that I should not tell our child that. Well, I even tell him some people get sick & died because of this big germs outdoor. That’s why there’s no daycare for him.

Why would you tell him that? My kids were gifted and highly gifted and I would not have told them that. You created this anxiety for him. Worse than a troll.

[Anonymous]

My kids have been going since a month ago. They look forward to going and thrive off of routine and being around their peers. I have guilt so I make sure to drop them off as late as possible and pick up directly after nap. I also make sure the daycare has any cleaning supplies they need and provide them with lunch once a week. They are also not allowed on the playground but can play outside so we purchased a lot of outdoor toys that they can take with them outside

[Anonymous]

If you don't send him, please at least get a sitter or something to engage him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids have been going since a month ago. They look forward to going and thrive off of routine and being around their peers. I have guilt so I make sure to drop them off as late as possible and pick up directly after nap. I also make sure the daycare has any cleaning supplies they need and provide them with lunch once a week. They are also not allowed on the playground but can play outside so we purchased a lot of outdoor toys that they can take with them outside

They can't play on the playground equipment there but everyone can bring toys from home? I'm not seeing how that's "safer."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tomorrow he might feel differently. Kids also want to return their new siblings. That doesn't mean having a new sibling doesn't turn into something wonderful. Being home now may have unforeseen benefits, and he may cry at drop off down the road. Who knows. I wouldn't lose sleep over it.

The problem isn't that he's home per se. The problem is the parents don't do anything to engage with him for 8 plus hours.

[Anonymous]

Send him to daycare, he'll have his friends and he will be engaged.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Tomorrow he might feel differently. Kids also want to return their new siblings. That doesn't mean having a new sibling doesn't turn into something wonderful. Being home now may have unforeseen benefits, and he may cry at drop off down the road. Who knows. I wouldn't lose sleep over it.

The problem isn't that he's home per se. The problem is the parents don't do anything to engage with him for 8 plus hours.

Parents literally can't win right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tomorrow he might feel differently. Kids also want to return their new siblings. That doesn't mean having a new sibling doesn't turn into something wonderful. Being home now may have unforeseen benefits, and he may cry at drop off down the road. Who knows. I wouldn't lose sleep over it.

The problem isn't that he's home per se. The problem is the parents don't do anything to engage with him for 8 plus hours.

Parents literally can't win right now.

OP can. it's called sending the kid to daycare or paying a sitter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tomorrow he might feel differently. Kids also want to return their new siblings. That doesn't mean having a new sibling doesn't turn into something wonderful. Being home now may have unforeseen benefits, and he may cry at drop off down the road. Who knows. I wouldn't lose sleep over it.

The problem isn't that he's home per se. The problem is the parents don't do anything to engage with him for 8 plus hours.

Parents literally can't win right now.

OP can. it's called sending the kid to daycare or paying a sitter.

And then she would get berated for putting her child at risk.

[Anonymous]

OP, hire a sitter....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tomorrow he might feel differently. Kids also want to return their new siblings. That doesn't mean having a new sibling doesn't turn into something wonderful. Being home now may have unforeseen benefits, and he may cry at drop off down the road. Who knows. I wouldn't lose sleep over it.

The problem isn't that he's home per se. The problem is the parents don't do anything to engage with him for 8 plus hours.

Parents literally can't win right now.

+1. Our pediatrician told us if we have a choice wait on sending the kids back. She said she wouldn’t be the first ones to send them back.

[Anonymous]

You dh is in a risk group and this is even a question?
No.