Do interracial and marriages of color last longer?
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Anonymous
| I am in an interracial marriage (wife is Indian, and I'm a white guy), and as our DC have gotten older more parents have gotten divorced. We were recently talking and noticed how it has been almost all white couples who have gotten separated or divorced and almost none of the couples of color or interracial couples. We've been at a pretty diverse private school since kindergarten where it's about 50/50 so it's not necessarily because of a lack of representation. Any thoughts? |
Anonymous
| Anecdotal. You have a small group of friends and it may or may not reflect larger trends. |
Anonymous
| I'm South Asian and my DH is white. I think we have a pretty strong marriage because we did the work early on to understand our differences and to figure out how to navigate them. And despite those differences we truly want to be together. I actually do not know any interracial marriages that have ended in divorce in my circle of friends, but of course that doesn't mean it doesn't happen. |
Anonymous
| I call race troll. |
Anonymous
| Indian arranged marriages last longer. |
Anonymous
| The best predictor of marital longevity is wife’s age at time of marriage. Nothing else is very predictive. |
Anonymous
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My parents' interracial marriage has lasted all this while, despite my Grandma telling them, in my 12 year old presence years ago, that different races shouldn't marry. Now that was a interesting moment! I don't know what the statistics are, but if two people are ready to brave social disapproval to marry each other, whether it's about race or sexual orientation or age difference or anything thing else, they might have enough willpower to see them through the usual issues that crop up in a marriage. |
Anonymous
Never heard of this. What about the husband's age? |
Anonymous
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This feels like just an anecdote, not something population-wide. If it's true, it's probably a combination of people in IR relationships having to have hard conversations earlier on and that being a strong foundation, and the fact that a lot of the all-white couples you know are from all periods of your life as opposed to the IR (and if you're white, POC) marriages being people you met later, who are in similar SES and life-stages as you.
So as an example, I'm white and in an IR marriage. But a lot of white people I know from elementary/middle/high/undergrad are divorced now, not because they married a white person but because they married at 22. (Not all, of course.) I have a good group of close friends that are WOC and their marriage/divorce success rate seems much more closely tied to age of marriage than anything else, just like my white friends. |
Anonymous
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Years ago I read that divorce rates for most interracial marriages were even higher than the rates for same race marriages.
The only exception being marriage between black women and white men, which not only had the lowest divorce rate among interracial marraiges, but also lower divorce rates than same race marraiges. |
Anonymous
| Anecdotal but of those I know, every single interracial couple I know is divorced except one. About a dozen divorced and one remains married. A lot of the divorces hit in middle school not sure what grade your child is in. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
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Statistically, white man-black woman marriages divorce the least, of all race combinations.
All my white male friends who divorced their white wives are now happily married to Asian women. |
Anonymous
Black woman here--I'm curious about why this would be (and I'm also biracial, as my black mom married my South Asian dad). I can't think of any reason that wouldn't be purely speculative. |
Anonymous
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I'm half hispanic and married a white guy. We wound up divorced. I'm now remarried.
OP, I don't think so. |