Is it common for parents to not allow their kid to take private lessons from a male?
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Anonymous
| A friend told me that her 11 year old daughter recently started taking piano lessons offered by a music store. Her husband specified to the owner that he was only interested in her taking lessons from females. He doesn't like the idea of his daughter being alone in a room with a male instructor? Is this normal? I have two daughters myself, and I honestly would never have thought of this. Is it common for parents to make this type of request, or even if they wouldn't feel comfortable making the request, really being that worried about a situation such as having your daughter taking a music lesson from a male within a private room inside a music store where the parent is presumably right on the other side? |
Anonymous
| I don't know if it's normal. I would not set up a son or daughter to be in a private room for lessons with a male instructor. If by private you mean neither audible nor visible to anyone else. |
Anonymous
| My kids are all younger but yes I think it’s normal. |
Anonymous
Ps when one of our boys did music lessons like that, there was a window in the door. |
Anonymous
| I definitely feel that way for both sons and daughters, but I was abused as a tween. I also know of situations where teens or men abused boys or girls. I think it is much rarer that a female would do that. I feel bad for distrusting males, but my life experiences lead me there. |
Anonymous
| A business would be tone deaf if they weren't aware that they should arrange their business space so that parents could -partially- view what was going on. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't allow this with a male or a female. But especially not a male. I would be in the room or the door would be open. But my kids are 6 and under so not sure if my feelings will change. I don't understand how an instructor would be ok with this either - so easy to be accused. |
Anonymous
| Nope, not normal. Just paranoid. |
Anonymous
| Standard practice in safety training is to never have one child alone with one adult. It protects everyone. We try to make it a two-adult rule, but in a pinch multiple children also generally provides safety. |
Anonymous
This. I’m a parent of two teens in DC and work at an elementary in VA. I’ve never heard this. Not saying that there aren’t parents who don’t feel this way, but it’s not typical at all. |
Anonymous
If you had been molested by a male teacher you might feel differently. How lucky you are! |
Anonymous
| Not normal. My kids would tell me if the guy did something creepy. |
Anonymous
Absolutely not paranoid. You're fine having your child be alone with an adult whom you presumably don't know very well? |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't do so unless I remained nearby. |
Anonymous
| I know a male piano teacher who insists that a parent or other supervising adult always be present during the lesson. |