Relative value of putting out

[Anonymous]

I realize there are probably one or two super posters here who are dudes, and this is not a representative sample, but it seems after reading these boards after a few weeks that men posting here say they’d stay with a woman purely based on her sexual availability as if none of the other stuff matters. I’m on board with the idea that no sex or not enough sex or bad sex = get out for either partner. Sex is extremely important to me. But does good or regular sex preempt a bad relationship with a woman?

[Anonymous]

I am not one of those male posters.

It's a sliding scale, like all else. I mean, she can be a nympho rock star in bed but if she is a horrible mom and completely crazy, then no amount of sex is worth it.

Or putting it another way - my wife is an absolute rockstar homemaker, amazing homemade meals, spotless house, kids are thriving in school. We are sexless. I would rather eat cereal for dinner every night and have a good sex life. We are headed for divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not one of those male posters.

It's a sliding scale, like all else. I mean, she can be a nympho rock star in bed but if she is a horrible mom and completely crazy, then no amount of sex is worth it.

Or putting it another way - my wife is an absolute rockstar homemaker, amazing homemade meals, spotless house, kids are thriving in school. We are sexless. I would rather eat cereal for dinner every night and have a good sex life. We are headed for divorce.

OK so I get that awesome food is an easy trade off for you. Is good sex a trade off for a combination of everything else you mentioned and so is sex ithe most important thing? It sounds like it trumps combination of ALL of those things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not one of those male posters.

It's a sliding scale, like all else. I mean, she can be a nympho rock star in bed but if she is a horrible mom and completely crazy, then no amount of sex is worth it.

Or putting it another way - my wife is an absolute rockstar homemaker, amazing homemade meals, spotless house, kids are thriving in school. We are sexless. I would rather eat cereal for dinner every night and have a good sex life. We are headed for divorce.

When those once-thriving kids become children of divorce, and eventually start exhibiting serious behavioral problems to include depression, mental health problems, drug abuse, etc. how will you explain to them that your sex drive was more important than they were?

[Anonymous]

"putting out"

What are you, 15?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not one of those male posters.

It's a sliding scale, like all else. I mean, she can be a nympho rock star in bed but if she is a horrible mom and completely crazy, then no amount of sex is worth it.

Or putting it another way - my wife is an absolute rockstar homemaker, amazing homemade meals, spotless house, kids are thriving in school. We are sexless. I would rather eat cereal for dinner every night and have a good sex life. We are headed for divorce.

When those once-thriving kids become children of divorce, and eventually start exhibiting serious behavioral problems to include depression, mental health problems, drug abuse, etc. how will you explain to them that your sex drive was more important than they were?

Oh, PLEASE. I am a woman and a child of not divorced parents with very little divorce on either side of my family. An amicable divorce is fine. And they do exist. You can end a relationship and still be great parents, some divorced parents can even stay friends, but the romantic relationship is over. The issues arise when the marriage either becomes very turbulent (even if they stay married another 30 years!) or there are other factors like cheating or substance abuse involved. Step off of it.

[Anonymous]

“Putting out?” That phrase has some pretty negative connotations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"putting out"

What are you, 15?

I was thinking more 75.

[Anonymous]

As a man, I am skeptical that “good, regular sex but everything else is horrible” is even possible.

Sex is the first thing to go bad, not the last.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a man, I am skeptical that “good, regular sex but everything else is horrible” is even possible.

Sex is the first thing to go bad, not the last.

Crazy. It's possible with crazy. Hypersexual but a total mess in every aspect of life is out there. You've been warned though, be careful what you wish for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not one of those male posters.

It's a sliding scale, like all else. I mean, she can be a nympho rock star in bed but if she is a horrible mom and completely crazy, then no amount of sex is worth it.

Or putting it another way - my wife is an absolute rockstar homemaker, amazing homemade meals, spotless house, kids are thriving in school. We are sexless. I would rather eat cereal for dinner every night and have a good sex life. We are headed for divorce.

When those once-thriving kids become children of divorce, and eventually start exhibiting serious behavioral problems to include depression, mental health problems, drug abuse, etc. how will you explain to them that your sex drive was more important than they were?

Except that doesn’t usually happen.

— Divorced dad whose kids are thriving now more than before

[Anonymous]

Barney Stinson warned of the dangers of getting on the wrong side of the crazy-hot line. Heed his warnings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a man, I am skeptical that “good, regular sex but everything else is horrible” is even possible.

Sex is the first thing to go bad, not the last.

Crazy. It's possible with crazy. Hypersexual but a total mess in every aspect of life is out there. You've been warned though, be careful what you wish for.

My XW went crazy but tragically it wasn’t that kind of crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Putting out?” That phrase has some pretty negative connotations.

This.

Women need to stop having sex they don’t enjoy or are only doing because they feel they have to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not one of those male posters.

It's a sliding scale, like all else. I mean, she can be a nympho rock star in bed but if she is a horrible mom and completely crazy, then no amount of sex is worth it.

Or putting it another way - my wife is an absolute rockstar homemaker, amazing homemade meals, spotless house, kids are thriving in school. We are sexless. I would rather eat cereal for dinner every night and have a good sex life. We are headed for divorce.

OK so I get that awesome food is an easy trade off for you. Is good sex a trade off for a combination of everything else you mentioned and so is sex ithe most important thing? It sounds like it trumps combination of ALL of those things.

Is a steering wheel more important to the car than the engine?

Point being, there is no trade off of a good wife in all other aspects than sex. It's a sports car with no engine. You don't have a car, and a used Hyundai is a better model because at least it gets you there.

Sex isn't the most important thing but it's an essential thing, without which there is no marriage (unless you are one of those rare asexual people, then sure go on)