Self isolate and then see grandparents?
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Anonymous
| We usually visit grandparents for two weeks in July. If we self isolate for June (groceries delivered, outdoor walks as a family and no other contact with others), what do you think about driving to see them in july? |
Anonymous
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You haven’t been self-isolating now?
Talk to your parents about the risks. My mom has a lung condition so visits are out of the question. However, if she was healthy, we would definitely talk to them about it and let them decide. |
Anonymous
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That’s what I would do.
Unless you plan on not seeing grandparents for another year when a vaccine comes out, then this is your only option. A lot of people don’t see to get that we can’t quarantine until spring 2021. |
Anonymous
| We're really struggling with this - this is the most we'll be able to isolate now, we expect to both be back at the office/lab at least sometimes and kids back in day care sometime in June. Basically as soon as the stay at home order is lifted. We don't want to violate the order and be the jerks holding public health back, but if we wait we will definitely be more exposed. I don't want to miss seeing my parents for a year or two because of our stupid jobs - and what if, God forbid, they get exposed and I missed my last chance in that time? |
Anonymous
Social distancing isn’t self isolation. Son if she goes to the grocery store/gets deliveries every ten days, DH is social distancing but not self isolating. Yes, that should be safe. |
Anonymous
| I say do it. We self isolated including only doing instacart for groceries for 1 month and then brought my mom into our circle. She was doing same. I honestly think if we hadn’t done that she would have wound up insane as she lives alone. |
Anonymous
We can wear masks and socially distance. That's the plan. |
Anonymous
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I feel like we're quite strict about distancing, and this post has made me want to see my parents.
We haven't been 100%, but we only go for walks around the neighborhood, do contactless Peapod pickup where they put the things in your car, and our one "riskier" activity is getting takeout twice in 7 weeks, but very quick/masked transactions, etc. I guess we have also had some packages and USPS mail delivered. My parents a couple of states away have had someone grocery shopping for them and leaving it at the end of their long drive. I think they've gone for walks around their neighborhood too, but I THINK that's it. If I were to do this, it would be strict quarantining for 2 weeks for all of us (including parents), first. Which means, honestly, that I wouldn't even go outside our yard, maybe get mail, but no groceries, no nothing else. The issue we'd run into is that we live ~7 hours apart by car with zero stops. I don't know how we'd pee, is more the issue. We'd have to come up with some solution to that, but then it's hard to see how it would be a problem. Still, it's so hard when the virus is so novel... what if it can be transmitted after 14 days? Who knows? My parents are 70+, my mom has asthma and my dad has auto-immune issues. And my DH is 50, also with asthma. :/ |
Anonymous
| We plan to do this once the kids finish school. They head to the grandparents on cape cod for at least a month. My parents are thrilled |
Anonymous
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OP, are these your parents? Leave open the possibility of just you seeing them. Keeping your distance, even. Yes, they adore the grandchildren BUT you are their baby, you are their child. That never changes. They need to see their child -- which is you. Above all else.
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Anonymous
| If you both are very clear and agree to the same level of risk, there's no reason not to include them in your family circle. The tricky part is getting everyone on the same page. Is your idea of self isolation the same as your dad's? Make sure, then put it in to practice. |
Anonymous
| Call your doctor and ask. |
Anonymous
??? Does anyone have a relationship with a doctor that would allow this? Genuinely curious. This sounds utterly absurd to me. First, I don't even have a doctor that would be 'mine' - i see specialists as needed and use teledoc or urgent care 1 to 2 times a year if I think I need a prescription for something. But, even if I did have a primary care physician that I saw regularly, that would be like, once a year? twice a year? You're saying someone should call an office and ask a doctor to weigh in on their personal life choices? I would hope the doctor would hang up on you and tell you to call back when you had a medical question. What a weird answer!! |
Anonymous
| I'm trying to figure this out too. My parents aren't leaving their home at all -- complete lockdown. I live about a 16-hour drive from them. Trying to determine if I can drive my kids and stay in an airnbn close by and just see them outside over the course of a week in June. I think I would have to stay overnight somewhere to make the drive, though. |
Anonymous
If they are completely isolating, you are bringing much more risk in to their lives, particularly if you have to stay off site somewhere. I would recommend against it in your particular situation. And for only a week? Not worth the risk. If you can stay with them, the drive is doable in one day, and you plan to make an extended trip, it would be worthwhile. |