Self isolate and then see grandparents?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know someone who insisted on seeing their son and grandchild. Both grandparents got Covid-19 from them. Son brought it home from his work. If you are willing to take that risk...I know it’s hard, but if they get it, will you regret it?

Those of us that said we were said we’ve been isolating. So nobody has been to work. Also, I am starting to really wonder about these stories. 80,000
People have died. All of dcum knows one? K.

The deaths have been concentrated in certain parts of the country, many fairly close to the DC area. And you know a lot of people--coworkers, fellow congregants, people you went to college with, relatives, friends, your kids' friends, etc....and for some of them you know their friends and family too. So it doesn't seem unlikely at all that many people would know someone who died. If each person who died only had 100 people who knew them (which seems low) that would be 8 million people who know someone who died. My grandfather died of covid and just his direct descendants and the people they married are 25 people. Then add his spouse, siblings and their spouses, cousins, the 200-ish people who live and work in his assisted living community, folks from his military history club and book group, former coworkers, old neighbors...he knew a lot of people.

There are definitely lower risk ways to bring people into your bubble. I'm not saying whether OP should or shouldn't do it, but I probably would in her shoes if I could make the drive in one day. Assuming that somehow the stories are being told are fake (or worse, that the number of deaths is exaggerated) is a pretty low blow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know someone who insisted on seeing their son and grandchild. Both grandparents got Covid-19 from them. Son brought it home from his work. If you are willing to take that risk...I know it’s hard, but if they get it, will you regret it?

Those of us that said we were said we’ve been isolating. So nobody has been to work. Also, I am starting to really wonder about these stories. 80,000
People have died. All of dcum knows one? K.

The deaths have been concentrated in certain parts of the country, many fairly close to the DC area. And you know a lot of people--coworkers, fellow congregants, people you went to college with, relatives, friends, your kids' friends, etc....and for some of them you know their friends and family too. So it doesn't seem unlikely at all that many people would know someone who died. If each person who died only had 100 people who knew them (which seems low) that would be 8 million people who know someone who died. My grandfather died of covid and just his direct descendants and the people they married are 25 people. Then add his spouse, siblings and their spouses, cousins, the 200-ish people who live and work in his assisted living community, folks from his military history club and book group, former coworkers, old neighbors...he knew a lot of people.

There are definitely lower risk ways to bring people into your bubble. I'm not saying whether OP should or shouldn't do it, but I probably would in her shoes if I could make the drive in one day. Assuming that somehow the stories are being told are fake (or worse, that the number of deaths is exaggerated) is a pretty low blow.

That’s not what I was doing. I just think it’s ridiculous to go around saying people aren’t being safe enough when they’re practicing sheltering in place entirely, plan to drive in a single day with no stops to stay with family that’s been doing the same, that a friend of a person you talked to once at a store died so don’t do it. This is getting out of hand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know someone who insisted on seeing their son and grandchild. Both grandparents got Covid-19 from them. Son brought it home from his work. If you are willing to take that risk...I know it’s hard, but if they get it, will you regret it?

OK, so...the person who got covid INSISTED on seeing the child and grandchild, consequences be damned? Welp. I guess older people are still allowed to make their own decisions. They’re adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We usually visit grandparents for two weeks in July. If we self isolate for June (groceries delivered, outdoor walks as a family and no other contact with others), what do you think about driving to see them in july?

I have been doing this since mid-March and I just tested positive for COVID-19. I was completely shocked. I had to go in for testing to prep for an upcoming elective surgery, which is the only reason I would have ever been tested. No symptoms.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We usually visit grandparents for two weeks in July. If we self isolate for June (groceries delivered, outdoor walks as a family and no other contact with others), what do you think about driving to see them in july?

I have been doing this since mid-March and I just tested positive for COVID-19. I was completely shocked. I had to go in for testing to prep for an upcoming elective surgery, which is the only reason I would have ever been tested. No symptoms.

When did you test? Do you have any suspicion as to how you contracted it? What about family in your household?
I hope you remain symptom free, GL!

[Anonymous]

The whole point of increasing testing is so that we can do things like this. If you have a relationship with your doctor ask to be tested. They will not do a whole family or kids but some will allow limited tests to, for example, see a sick relative.

[Anonymous]

We are thinking to do this too. 2 weeks of full lockdown - no deliveries, nothing. And then a straight 9 hour shot (peeing in bushes).

[Anonymous]

We are going up after Memorial Day weekend to spend the summer with my parents at their house on cape cod. We are not doing anything different then we have done the past 9 weeks to prepare. Will pee on side of road and get gas in NJ where they pump for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We're planning to do this if/when our summer camp plans get canceled. My 80-year-old mom lives alone in Ohio and hasn't been going anywhere. I've managed to have her groceries delivered via Instacart.

My daughter and I have been social distancing and generally leave the house just once a week to go to the drug store or Home Depot. We're planning to not even do that for the two weeks before we drive out to Ohio to stay with her for a few weeks.

My family lives in Ohio and it's apparently really easy to get tests there (Cleveland area). I'd see if you could get a test after you arrive, just in case.

Thanks so much, that's a great idea! I hadn't even thought of doing that.

[Anonymous]

We came down to my parents in SC 2 weeks ago. They offered/insisted, we are pretty sure we already had COVID in March (couldn't get tested so not 100% sure) and all felt ok with the risks. We're on day 16 and they haven't gotten sick so we didn't bring anything!

Emily Oster, who wrote Crib Sheets and Expecting Better has an email group now and she's been sending emails about how to make decisions like this- and a framework for how to make these decisions. I find it very helpful.

Our life has gotten immeasurably better since coming down here. Work is easier since my parents can watch my 3 year old and it's so nice for her to have outdoor space to run around in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We came down to my parents in SC 2 weeks ago. They offered/insisted, we are pretty sure we already had COVID in March (couldn't get tested so not 100% sure) and all felt ok with the risks. We're on day 16 and they haven't gotten sick so we didn't bring anything!

Emily Oster, who wrote Crib Sheets and Expecting Better has an email group now and she's been sending emails about how to make decisions like this- and a framework for how to make these decisions. I find it very helpful.

Our life has gotten immeasurably better since coming down here. Work is easier since my parents can watch my 3 year old and it's so nice for her to have outdoor space to run around in.

Thank you for sharing this blog post. This is a really helpful way to frame my thinking. I am currently consumed with anxiety, and this helps me to think more rationally.

[Anonymous]

Also in SC with my parents and kids thank goodness

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We came down to my parents in SC 2 weeks ago. They offered/insisted, we are pretty sure we already had COVID in March (couldn't get tested so not 100% sure) and all felt ok with the risks. We're on day 16 and they haven't gotten sick so we didn't bring anything!

Emily Oster, who wrote Crib Sheets and Expecting Better has an email group now and she's been sending emails about how to make decisions like this- and a framework for how to make these decisions. I find it very helpful.

Our life has gotten immeasurably better since coming down here. Work is easier since my parents can watch my 3 year old and it's so nice for her to have outdoor space to run around in.

Thank you for sharing this blog post. This is a really helpful way to frame my thinking. I am currently consumed with anxiety, and this helps me to think more rationally.

+1. We were trying to figure out a way to visit grandparents before daycare reopens and this helped me be less anxious about the various options. Thanks for sharing this resource!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We came down to my parents in SC 2 weeks ago. They offered/insisted, we are pretty sure we already had COVID in March (couldn't get tested so not 100% sure) and all felt ok with the risks. We're on day 16 and they haven't gotten sick so we didn't bring anything!

Emily Oster, who wrote Crib Sheets and Expecting Better has an email group now and she's been sending emails about how to make decisions like this- and a framework for how to make these decisions. I find it very helpful.

Our life has gotten immeasurably better since coming down here. Work is easier since my parents can watch my 3 year old and it's so nice for her to have outdoor space to run around in.

Thank you for sharing this blog post. This is a really helpful way to frame my thinking. I am currently consumed with anxiety, and this helps me to think more rationally.

Can someone post the blog post? Trying to make the same decision. I googled her name but I'm not seeing that blog post - just general info on covid so likely I'm not looking in the right place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know someone who insisted on seeing their son and grandchild. Both grandparents got Covid-19 from them. Son brought it home from his work. If you are willing to take that risk...I know it’s hard, but if they get it, will you regret it?

Those of us that said we were said we’ve been isolating. So nobody has been to work. Also, I am starting to really wonder about these stories. 80,000
People have died. All of dcum knows one? K.

The deaths have been concentrated in certain parts of the country, many fairly close to the DC area. And you know a lot of people--coworkers, fellow congregants, people you went to college with, relatives, friends, your kids' friends, etc....and for some of them you know their friends and family too. So it doesn't seem unlikely at all that many people would know someone who died. If each person who died only had 100 people who knew them (which seems low) that would be 8 million people who know someone who died. My grandfather died of covid and just his direct descendants and the people they married are 25 people. Then add his spouse, siblings and their spouses, cousins, the 200-ish people who live and work in his assisted living community, folks from his military history club and book group, former coworkers, old neighbors...he knew a lot of people.

There are definitely lower risk ways to bring people into your bubble. I'm not saying whether OP should or shouldn't do it, but I probably would in her shoes if I could make the drive in one day. Assuming that somehow the stories are being told are fake (or worse, that the number of deaths is exaggerated) is a pretty low blow.

That’s not what I was doing. I just think it’s ridiculous to go around saying people aren’t being safe enough when they’re practicing sheltering in place entirely, plan to drive in a single day with no stops to stay with family that’s been doing the same, that a friend of a person you talked to once at a store died so don’t do it. This is getting out of hand.

What is it like living in a head so small? We are a country of 350 million people but you can only grasp it if it happens to someone you personally know? I have nothing for you my friend.