Push gift
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Anonymous
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We just had our first and wife and her friends talk about a push gift.
We don’t do this in my culture, and I don’t love the idea but I am not going to disappoint. What is the expectation here? Is it a 500 item or a 10,000 item? I have no idea. Thank you. |
Anonymous
| $1000 - $2000 item. |
Anonymous
| Push gift seems ridiculous to me. Is it a reward for delivering a man's heir? |
Anonymous
| As far as I knew the push gift comes at the birth...not months after. Your wife and her friends are just greedy. |
Anonymous
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Push presents are stupid and tacky. Not all Americans expect one. It is not a widespread part of American culture. Only in certain circles. Figure out if your wife actually expects one.
I think in the face of what's likely to be an intense recession, and with all the expenses of having a child, you really shouldn't spend very much here, if anything. |
Anonymous
| I heard of them. No, I did not get one for either kid. Tacky. Put the money in a college fund. |
Anonymous
+1. It’s not an American thing, just a certain kind of woman thing. I didn’t expect one, my sister did. OTOH, I am pretty sure that BIL expected her back to her pre-pregnancy weight and working full-time by the time their baby was 6 months old, while my husband just wants me to be happy and have sex with him regularly. If you married the kind of woman who expects a push present, then you should get one. You likely have high expectations for her as well. |
Anonymous
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I think it is kind of gross, TBH.
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Anonymous
| It is a relatively new phenomenon among a small and gross sector. Maybe transactional trophy wives..or someone who is obsessed with those housewife reality shows...but certainly not your run of the mill or classy American family. |
Anonymous
+1 Ridiculous and mercenary. |
Anonymous
| Never heard of this. What is it, to reward a woman for giving birth? Stupid. |
Anonymous
+ 3 |
Anonymous
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I think is not an American thing.
It would be considered a Jersey Shore, gold digger, tacky type of thing. Probably a woman who is not married would push for this. |
Anonymous
| Gold diggerish |
Anonymous
| She gets a baby, priceless . |