Grandparents (my in-laws) didn't send bday gift to 4 yo - say something?
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Anonymous
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My 4 year old DD had a birthday last week. Her grandparents (my in-laws) sent a card but no gift. Normally they would send a gift. They are wealthy so it's not that they're having a tough time due to COVID-19. My DD is the youngest of 5 grandkids, and I know that they have sent the other grandkids gifts for their birthdays. They may just be burnt out of gift-sending at this point.
Would you send them a text saying that we just wanted to check that the gift didn't get lost in the mail? Or let it slide? I don't want to be rude or seem gift-grubbing, but I also feel a little bad for my DD since these are her only living grandparents, and her birthday is already a little glum this year due to self-isolation and her first real party being cancelled. What would you do? |
Anonymous
| No, at least you got a card. My parents would do nothing. |
Anonymous
| OP, you absolutely should not say anything about a gift. Come on. Surely you know that. |
Anonymous
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Dafuq?
You/your child are not owed gifts. IT'S A GLOBAL PANDEMIC. Ya think maybe they were distracted, and forgot? Or were afraid to go shopping or go to the post office? Or didn't want to risk the lives of store employees or delivery people by placing an order for something non-essential? |
Anonymous
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Grow up.
Really. |
Anonymous
| Your spouse should be the one to say something, but agree you should just let it go. |
Anonymous
| This has happened to my child whose birthday tends to get lost between two major holidays. I let it slide and will only say something if it becomes a pattern (i.e. if my other child continues to receive a gift). |
Anonymous
| Holy crap, OP. Do NOT say this out loud to anyone. |
Anonymous
| Maybe they are like all the people on here that think you’re not allowed to order things anymore. |
Anonymous
No. Just let it go. |
Anonymous
| Don't say anything. What purpose would it serve? They probably were distracted by the global pandemic. |
Anonymous
| I have a feeling if they sent something you would complain they sent something you now have to disinfect and your child is disappointed and so on |
Anonymous
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Call to thank them - sincerely - for the card. If they also sent a gift, they will probably mention it.
I would add that if they’re not usually internet shoppers, they may have prudently decided not to go shopping and to the post office to mail a gift that a 4 year old would not be expecting anyway. Being wealthy hardly means that they’re not having a tough time. If they’re in a high risk group and people that they love are also, they’re having a tough time. |
Anonymous
| Could be they didn't want to send any packages via the mail. Could be their package is very delayed (I've had mixed delivery times). |
Anonymous
| I've been getting deliveries between 2 days and 2 weeks. Longest was 3.5 weeks but I think that's an anomaly |