Grandparents (my in-laws) didn't send bday gift to 4 yo - say something?

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Anonymous wrote:Call to thank them - sincerely - for the card. If they also sent a gift, they will probably mention it.

I would do this. Except have your daughter say it.

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Did they receive a thank-you card last year?

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Anonymous wrote:You know them, OP. I know that I would ask my parents. It would be very unusual for them not to send something, and they would definitely tell me the reason they had decided not to. They also might have tried to send something and not realize the shipping was delayed or the order was cancelled.

Also, I love them, but if they did send something and it didn’t come, they would probably wonder why I was teaching my children to be so ungrateful as to not send a thank-you card for the present.

Same.

OP, did they at least call? I would think they would have asked about the gift then.

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Anonymous wrote:Did they receive a thank-you card last year?

I know this is a thing for some people, but my parents would never expect a thank you card. A heartfelt verbal thank you was always enough.

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Wow. Don't even mention a gift. Just have your daughter thank them for the card. If there is no gift, no big deal.

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No, you are being ridiculous. Have your daughter thank them for the card and call it a day.

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Anonymous wrote:Did they receive a thank-you card last year?

I know this is a thing for some people, but my parents would never expect a thank you card. A heartfelt verbal thank you was always enough.

This is basically what I meant, if they had been thanked at all. No idea then.

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Anonymous wrote:Call to thank them - sincerely - for the card. If they also sent a gift, they will probably mention it.

I would add that if they’re not usually internet shoppers, they may have prudently decided not to go shopping and to the post office to mail a gift that a 4 year old would not be expecting anyway.

Being wealthy hardly means that they’re not having a tough time. If they’re in a high risk group and people that they love are also, they’re having a tough time.

Exactly!
All the money in the world won't save you if you contract this and get pneumonia.

I don't care if your in laws are billionaires, saying that covid-19 hasn't affected them because they're wealthy is really tone deaf and ignorant.

Wealthy people worry about contracting a deadly virus too.

+1000
Perfectly said.

Our current world is one where the rich and poor have the same exact worries.
No matter how much money you throw at this problem, if your lungs can't handle this then your dead.

You're being tone deaf, OP.

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A card = drop in mailbox. Safe, no human interaction.
Sending a gift = need to go into post office or UPS, interact with people, give it to clerk.

I can easily see why an older person would choose the first option.

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Considering what the world is experiencing right now, I would just let this one go.

I would call them + thank them for the lovely Birthday card.

Good luck.

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So what
You care
Your 4 yr old does not
Get a life
Get a clue

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Don't say anything OP. I like the idea of having your 4 year old call them and thank them for the card.

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Anonymous wrote:My 4 year old DD had a birthday last week. Her grandparents (my in-laws) sent a card but no gift. Normally they would send a gift. They are wealthy so it's not that they're having a tough time due to COVID-19. My DD is the youngest of 5 grandkids, and I know that they have sent the other grandkids gifts for their birthdays. They may just be burnt out of gift-sending at this point.

Would you send them a text saying that we just wanted to check that the gift didn't get lost in the mail? Or let it slide? I don't want to be rude or seem gift-grubbing, but I also feel a little bad for my DD since these are her only living grandparents, and her birthday is already a little glum this year due to self-isolation and her first real party being cancelled. What would you do?

Frankly, really? You know it didn't get "lost in the mail" since you got the card. Are you going to guilt trip them??????

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Call to thank them - sincerely - for the card. If they also sent a gift, they will probably mention it.

I would add that if they’re not usually internet shoppers, they may have prudently decided not to go shopping and to the post office to mail a gift that a 4 year old would not be expecting anyway.

Being wealthy hardly means that they’re not having a tough time. If they’re in a high risk group and people that they love are also, they’re having a tough time.

Exactly!
All the money in the world won't save you if you contract this and get pneumonia.

I don't care if your in laws are billionaires, saying that covid-19 hasn't affected them because they're wealthy is really tone deaf and ignorant.

Wealthy people worry about contracting a deadly virus too.

+1000
Perfectly said.

Our current world is one where the rich and poor have the same exact worries.
No matter how much money you throw at this problem, if your lungs can't handle this then your dead.

You're being tone deaf, OP.

Yes, this.
Look at the Prime Minister of England.
He was just admitted into the ICU -- he has not improved after 10 days and it does NOT look good for him.

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Anonymous wrote:Call to thank them - sincerely - for the card. If they also sent a gift, they will probably mention it.

I would add that if they’re not usually internet shoppers, they may have prudently decided not to go shopping and to the post office to mail a gift that a 4 year old would not be expecting anyway.
Being wealthy hardly means that they’re not having a tough time. If they’re in a high risk group and people that they love are also, they’re having a tough time.

Bingo.