Never knew my DH was so controlling!

[Anonymous]

Now that I’m not bringing in a income right now I’m having to ask DH for $$. I actually think he’s enjoying this control he has right now. We have a joint bank account and yesterday when I asked for a check he barks, it’s empty. Then he threw $150 on the counter. I’m like seriously? Fyi he’s worth millions! My mom suggested I go work at Walmart and make sure I post pics on FB & tag him. It’s got me so depressed realizing how he actually is. Since this is the only time I’ve been out of work since we’ve been married. I work pt time but it’s nice having that spending money. I asked him if I could file my own tax returns so I could get $ back. He said no cause we file together and he claims me. Wth is that about? Now I really feel like a child.

[Anonymous]

Welcome to my world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Now that I’m not bringing in a income right now I’m having to ask DH for $$. I actually think he’s enjoying this control he has right now. We have a joint bank account and yesterday when I asked for a check he barks, it’s empty. Then he threw $150 on the counter. I’m like seriously? Fyi he’s worth millions! My mom suggested I go work at Walmart and make sure I post pics on FB & tag him. It’s got me so depressed realizing how he actually is. Since this is the only time I’ve been out of work since we’ve been married. I work pt time but it’s nice having that spending money. I asked him if I could file my own tax returns so I could get $ back. He said no cause we file together and he claims me. Wth is that about? Now I really feel like a child.

LOL I like your mom.

He's stressed. This is not "how he actually is" any more than how we shop and cook is "how we actually are" right now. Cut him some slack. Ask him if he's stressed about your lack of income, thoughts of impending economic doom, etc. and tell him not to bark at you again. Be a spouse.

[Anonymous]

Did you marry him for his money?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Now that I’m not bringing in a income right now I’m having to ask DH for $$. I actually think he’s enjoying this control he has right now. We have a joint bank account and yesterday when I asked for a check he barks, it’s empty. Then he threw $150 on the counter. I’m like seriously? Fyi he’s worth millions! My mom suggested I go work at Walmart and make sure I post pics on FB & tag him. It’s got me so depressed realizing how he actually is. Since this is the only time I’ve been out of work since we’ve been married. I work pt time but it’s nice having that spending money. I asked him if I could file my own tax returns so I could get $ back. He said no cause we file together and he claims me. Wth is that about? Now I really feel like a child.

LOL I like your mom.

He's stressed. This is not "how he actually is" any more than how we shop and cook is "how we actually are" right now. Cut him some slack. Ask him if he's stressed about your lack of income, thoughts of impending economic doom, etc. and tell him not to bark at you again. Be a spouse.

IKR! My mom is hilarious. She told me to apply for the Greeter position and hand people the Lysol wipes. Ugh, well I would still love to find a way to make $$ rt now..

[Anonymous]

He sounds awful. I’m sorry OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Welcome to my world.

Yes I know I’m not alone but I guess it took this disaster to see his true colors..

[Anonymous]

OP, interesting how you wrote, "he's worth millions". Just let that marinate for awhile.

[Anonymous]

OP, why do you have to ask for a check if you have a joint bank account? And, who writes checks nowadays? It sounds like you gave your millionaire husband too much control to begin with.

Oh well, I hope you enjoyed the ride while it lasted. This might not end well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, interesting how you wrote, "he's worth millions". Just let that marinate for awhile.

I'm not the OP but what the heck? OP mentioned that he's worth millions so that we know that it isn't that they're struggling.

OP, I would hate to be in that situation. You can help your husband by taking over paying bills. Insist on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, interesting how you wrote, "he's worth millions". Just let that marinate for awhile.

Trust me it makes it even worse if you think about it. If we were struggling and he was out a job I would not feel this way. But contraire mon frère ..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, interesting how you wrote, "he's worth millions". Just let that marinate for awhile.

I'm not the OP but what the heck? OP mentioned that he's worth millions so that we know that it isn't that they're struggling.

OP, I would hate to be in that situation. You can help your husband by taking over paying bills. Insist on it.

Exactly! I think he is just loving having this control right now. He would never let me pay any bills! I think it’s just another control thing.

[Anonymous]

But I can tell you one thing. His behavior isn’t helping my libido! It’s been such a turnoff seeing how he really is, treating me like a child. And they wonder why we lose interest in sex. Haha

[Anonymous]

I think you’re a troll

[Anonymous]

Maybe he just lost everything and hasn't told you yet.