Things you secretly oppose, but don't want other people to know:

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I oppose parents financing large portions of their grown children's lives. Yes, this includes down payments on houses and paying for grandkids' tuition.

Why should you care if grandparents pay for their grandchild's tuition?

Exactly. Especially if that frees up scholarship money or financial aid that could go to someone else. Odd.

So the first PP is in favor of a bigger estate tax, then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the PP who said this:

"Also, the widely held concept that the only way to avoid having children is contraception and abortion because people are entitled to have sex whenever and with whomever they please. Thus, I oppose any version of Obamacare that uses my $ in any form to pay to accommodate someone else's sexual appetite, foibles and accidents."

Amen, sistah! Let's be friends!!!

Wow, just wow. You sound like judgemental harpies or Evangelical Christians or both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of white people (including, obviously, many on this board) prefer to live near, socialize with and marry only other white people.

But I suppose that's different somehow?

I just can't stand living next to Indians. My black, Hispanic, and Korean neighbors are great. However my Korean neighbors are not so secret about their dislike of the Indians. I still smile and say hi and throw up inside.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm opposed to the way Indians come over here and then basically refuse to have anything to do with Americans. They live in the same neighborhoods (and God help you if you accidentally end up in one; my friend lives in one and has actually had the police called on her because she let her dogs into her yard) and refuse to associate with the Americans. Why?? I actually moved because the school my daughter was zoned for was 77% Indian and I feared she'd be ostracized and excluded for not being Indian. I like diversity, meaning nobody in the school, white, Indian, or otherwise, makes up 75% of the population, so she's zoned now for a much more diverse school. But I admit I wouldn't have had as much of a problem had the 75% not been Indian, because I think other groups would have been much more inclusive even if they were the majority. Indians just want to have their neighborhood and school and social circle be India in America and I don't get it.

You paint with a broad brush. I work primarily with Indians, Pakistanies, and Bangladeshies (software developer) and like ALL groups there are some that are very insular and others that aren't. Generally, first generations of any group tend to be more insular but second (and following generations) aren't and mix easily. I know many who have married American men. I haven't known any who married American women though. I say this as someone married to a first generation Hispanic immigrant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of white people (including, obviously, many on this board) prefer to live near, socialize with and marry only other white people.

But I suppose that's different somehow?

If I moved to France because of their opportunities, you bet your ass I would attempt to learn the language and get to know French people and embrace parts of their culture. I would not go find the one neighborhood and school that caters to Americans, only associate with the Americans at work and essentially attempt to recreate the US in France.

Then you would be in the very rare minority. In most countries where I've lived, the Americans live in one area (usually the one surrounded by walls and armed guards), send their kids to the American school, arrange celebrations at 4th of July and Thanksgiving, and socialize only with select locals (other than the ones they pay to maintain their lifestyle). They never learn the language.

This has been my experience also.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm opposed to the way Indians come over here and then basically refuse to have anything to do with Americans. They live in the same neighborhoods (and God help you if you accidentally end up in one; my friend lives in one and has actually had the police called on her because she let her dogs into her yard) and refuse to associate with the Americans. Why?? I actually moved because the school my daughter was zoned for was 77% Indian and I feared she'd be ostracized and excluded for not being Indian. I like diversity, meaning nobody in the school, white, Indian, or otherwise, makes up 75% of the population, so she's zoned now for a much more diverse school. But I admit I wouldn't have had as much of a problem had the 75% not been Indian, because I think other groups would have been much more inclusive even if they were the majority. Indians just want to have their neighborhood and school and social circle be India in America and I don't get it.

I agree. Their country is way messed up, now they want New India here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP maybe we can be friends. It depends on your other dislikes.

Adoption should be a charity-not a business. If anyone is getting paid it should be the mother. You give up your baby for free and then some legally approved seller goes and profits. Sick.

Interracial marriage- I started looking into why people say this and I found that most of the time it is not due to racism. So I agree. It causes problems that are not necessary.

What the hell are you talking? about? Where did you "look into" this, your neighbor's window?? If you aren't in an interracial marriage HTH would you know what "unnecessary problems" are entailed?

I OPENLY oppose idiots being allowed to post every dumb thought that pops into their little pointy heads.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:interracial marriage
lesbians- worst coworkers ever

please just die.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish those against "interracial marriage" would clarify. Maybe it's because I'm mixed and the product of an "interracial marriage," but what the hell do they mean?

Like what about people with different colored eyes? Blondes and brunettes? What's the arbitrary line based on looks that you disapprove of?

My reason: watering down of cultural identity. Has nothing to do with looks (whatever that means).

You can die too, dinosaur.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP maybe we can be friends. It depends on your other dislikes.

Adoption should be a charity-not a business. If anyone is getting paid it should be the mother. You give up your baby for free and then some legally approved seller goes and profits. Sick.

Interracial marriage- I started looking into why people say this and I found that most of the time it is not due to racism. So I agree. It causes problems that are not necessary.

What the hell are you talking? about? Where did you "look into" this, your neighbor's window?? If you aren't in an interracial marriage HTH would you know what "unnecessary problems" are entailed?

I OPENLY oppose idiots being allowed to post every dumb thought that pops into their little pointy heads.

Uhmmmm...perhaps by talking with folks *in* IR marriages? This has sort of been discussed on this board a bit (as it relates to in-laws). It's obvious from your extreme reaction that you're in an IR marriage. Stop acting so hysterical when someone has a differing opinion from your own. You sound a bit unhinged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP maybe we can be friends. It depends on your other dislikes.

Adoption should be a charity-not a business. If anyone is getting paid it should be the mother. You give up your baby for free and then some legally approved seller goes and profits. Sick.

Interracial marriage- I started looking into why people say this and I found that most of the time it is not due to racism. So I agree. It causes problems that are not necessary.

What the hell are you talking? about? Where did you "look into" this, your neighbor's window?? If you aren't in an interracial marriage HTH would you know what "unnecessary problems" are entailed?

I OPENLY oppose idiots being allowed to post every dumb thought that pops into their little pointy heads.

Uhmmmm...perhaps by talking with folks *in* IR marriages? This has sort of been discussed on this board a bit (as it relates to in-laws). It's obvious from your extreme reaction that you're in an IR marriage. Stop acting so hysterical when someone has a differing opinion from your own. You sound a bit unhinged.

waaaaaaaaaaaahhhh, the silly person on dcum said I 'sound a bit unhinged'.......................time to leave this stupid-ass thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP maybe we can be friends. It depends on your other dislikes.

Adoption should be a charity-not a business. If anyone is getting paid it should be the mother. You give up your baby for free and then some legally approved seller goes and profits. Sick.

Interracial marriage- I started looking into why people say this and I found that most of the time it is not due to racism. So I agree. It causes problems that are not necessary.

What the hell are you talking? about? Where did you "look into" this, your neighbor's window?? If you aren't in an interracial marriage HTH would you know what "unnecessary problems" are entailed?

I OPENLY oppose idiots being allowed to post every dumb thought that pops into their little pointy heads.

Uhmmmm...perhaps by talking with folks *in* IR marriages? This has sort of been discussed on this board a bit (as it relates to in-laws). It's obvious from your extreme reaction that you're in an IR marriage. Stop acting so hysterical when someone has a differing opinion from your own. You sound a bit unhinged.

Or you know, maybe realizing that issues with in-laws, issues with spouses, happen to couples of all backgrounds, however superficially similar or different?

It's amazing what people pay attention to - it seems like the vast majority of relationship complaints make no mention of mixed marriages. But suddenly when someone mentions it, then it's ZOMG CULTURAL DISCORD!!!!

Talk about selective attention?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of white people (including, obviously, many on this board) prefer to live near, socialize with and marry only other white people.

But I suppose that's different somehow?

I just can't stand living next to Indians. My black, Hispanic, and Korean neighbors are great. However my Korean neighbors are not so secret about their dislike of the Indians. I still smile and say hi and throw up inside.

I don't like the "you should die" retort. Instead, I'm going to send a flock of squawking Indian birds to roost in your trees and poop all over your car.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of white people (including, obviously, many on this board) prefer to live near, socialize with and marry only other white people.

But I suppose that's different somehow?

If I moved to France because of their opportunities, you bet your ass I would attempt to learn the language and get to know French people and embrace parts of their culture. I would not go find the one neighborhood and school that caters to Americans, only associate with the Americans at work and essentially attempt to recreate the US in France.

Then you would be in the very rare minority. In most countries where I've lived, the Americans live in one area (usually the one surrounded by walls and armed guards), send their kids to the American school, arrange celebrations at 4th of July and Thanksgiving, and socialize only with select locals (other than the ones they pay to maintain their lifestyle). They never learn the language.

This has been my experience also.

I think there is s bit of a difference between Americsn expatriates - especially diplomatic personnel who live in compounds because USG security regs may dictate it - and immigrants who are for all intensive purposes leaving their homeland to establish lives here for themselves snd their families. However, when my great-grand parents came here from Poland in 1910, guess whet they lived? In the Polish neighborhood! Their kids mixed more, and by my third generation we are fully assimilated. Do you see it differently with today's immigrants?

[Anonymous]

No, I think today's immigrants have the same trajectory. First generation tends to isolate within familiar communities. Second generation learns the language and begins to assimilate. Third generation runs for Congress.

The problem occurs when generations 1 (and now 2) are living under the constant threat of deportation. It isn't easy to assimilate when you feel the need to hide all the time.

And before you say "then go home," we're talking about the people who built your house, tend your lawn, prepare your meals, care for your kids....