Men, how would you feel about this?

[Anonymous]

There is a woman whom you felt attraction towards. You went on several dates and found her compatible, kind, caring, has a great career, etc. You then get introduced to her family. You see her family home in which she was raised in and left 2 years ago. She sleeps over at her parents from time to time.

It is rundown. Dirty old broken blinds, several broken windows, dusty dirty mouldy ceilings, old broken furniture, etc. Her parents serve you food in mismatched plates and cups. Wine is served in cups rather than glasses, etc. However despite all that, you appreciate the warm welcome from her parents and their generosity.

Would you continue dating this girl despite her poor living conditions? Would the state of her home affect your relationship with her? Would this change the way you would view her?

[Anonymous]

I mean... is it dirty, hoarder-style, or are they just clearly poor? Hoarding would be a GIANT red flag as it runs in families. More info needed.

[Anonymous]

Is it her home or her parents' home?

If her home is a disaster, then no.

If it's her parents, NBD, since you theoretically won't be living with her parents.

[Anonymous]

She is poor. They don’t have sofas, just old chairs and table.

It’s her parents home. She was raised there since childhood. She moved out 2 years ago and lives with a flat mate. However, every now and then she sleeps over at her parents home.

[Anonymous]

Need more info to know if she is poor, which will not be her fault. Also, does she come along with kids ?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't care about plates or drinking from a cup. I would have a hard time understanding why the place is so dirty.

[Anonymous]

You’ve been on a few dates and already met her family and ate at her parents’ house? Troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't care about plates or drinking from a cup. I would have a hard time understanding why the place is so dirty.

+1. Being poor is not a character flaw

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is poor. They don’t have sofas, just old chairs and table.

It’s her parents home. She was raised there since childhood. She moved out 2 years ago and lives with a flat mate. However, every now and then she sleeps over at her parents home.

Uh, having a sofa is not a rich person’s game. How odd you would say that.

[Anonymous]

She's only been out of her parent's house for 2 years. She has a lot to learn. You can teach her a better way of life. I would not give up on anyone, at any age -- but certainly not at such a young age.

[Anonymous]

I applaud her for bringing you to her parent's home. She has nothing to be ashamed of and obviously, loves her parents. She has a great career (you said) so I assume she is educated. Her parents did something right. You have only gone on several dates. Give it some time.

[Anonymous]

Who is going on dates and meeting families during a pandemic?! Stop posting fiction.

[Anonymous]

If the guy grew up under similar circumstances (i.e., not wealthy) then keep the relationship going; if not, then keep dating her until she gives you a valid reason to break up (e.g., disloyalty, non-commitment, emotional abuse directed towards you or others...)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who is going on dates and meeting families during a pandemic?! Stop posting fiction.

Eh, go ahead and crowdsource for your romance novel. I’m bored, I would read it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't care about plates or drinking from a cup. I would have a hard time understanding why the place is so dirty.

+1. Being poor is not a character flaw

For men it is...for women it is not