i want to murder my husband

[Anonymous]

Does anyone here ever want to murder their husband? I get so mad with his bullshit that I just want to smack a brick into his head. He is passive aggressive and demeaning on purpose, pushes my buttons because he is stressed and unhappy about his work, belittles everything I do at home for the kids and the household (i also work full time) .... and he knows it and does it on purpose. that's the worst part - i am just out of words and want to freaking scream and attack him physically. it will go away but he can be such an asshole. thanks for reading.

[Anonymous]

Hahaha sometimes but when I feel that way I just drink a bottle of wine by myself and let him deal with the kids for the rest of the night. Like tonight. Cheers!

[Anonymous]

haha omg pp, very constructive and practical advice. will do.

[Anonymous]

Maybe anger management classes? Therapy?

Anytime a man or woman has aggression towards a spouse and wants to physically attack / kill them..that is probably a good time to seek some help

[Anonymous]

Wow. Even I don’t have such feelings!

I suggest Krav Maga classes to get the aggression out.

And a divorce.

[Anonymous]

He feels the same way so you need to negotiate a mutual exit strategy.

[Anonymous]

That’s okay but just...don’t murder him okay?

[Anonymous]

Yep, every day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s okay but just...don’t murder him okay?

Agree. Just hurt him really bad to the point he suffers every day of his life

[Anonymous]

So why not divorce him? Surely a mentally stable woman such as yourself could survive on her own without a husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So why not divorce him? Surely a mentally stable woman such as yourself could survive on her own without a husband.

Hum.

[Anonymous]

Op.

I love him. We have two amazing kids. He is the one. Just sometimes he drives me insane and
He knows and he is doing it on purpose and that aggregates me. Obviously I am
Not going on to murder him, I love him. I just wish he would get this episodes under control and not behave like a he his failing to appreciate me on purpose. I am a “can’t we just get a along kind of person” and he is a not that.

[Anonymous]

Why did you marry or even date him??

People don’t change that drastically from who they always were... surely you saw red flags while dating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So why not divorce him? Surely a mentally stable woman such as yourself could survive on her own without a husband.

Agree

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op.

I love him. We have two amazing kids. He is the one. Just sometimes he drives me insane and
He knows and he is doing it on purpose and that aggregates me. Obviously I am
Not going on to murder him, I love him. I just wish he would get this episodes under control and not behave like a he his failing to appreciate me on purpose. I am a “can’t we just get a along kind of person” and he is a not that.

Here's the thing -- the person you describe doesn't respect you. And yet, you say you love him. Love is a choice. Why would you choose to love someone who disrespects you? What are you modeling for your kids that you are in a relationship where your partner disrespects you and yet you stay, even more you say you stay because you "love" him. Is that how you would hope your kids would handle someone who is disrespectful or abusive -- stay because he is the "one"?

I teach my kids that there is no "one". There are a number of people in life who we will "click" with. Your job in life is to go out there and find them. If they are kind and reliable, then you make them part of your circle. Some will be friends. Others will be lovers. But, the one you marry has to be so much more than that -- they have to click with you, be respectful of you, support you, appreciate you, have similar goals, etc. Everyone has their flaws, so a mate doesn't have to be perfect, but disrespect is not just a flaw, it's a fatal error.