s/o "full time mom" is "housewife" a derogatory term?

[Anonymous]

If you're a SAHM of school aged kids, what do you call yourself?

I suppose I am a "housewife" but I think that term fell out of usage back in the 70s or 80s when so many women joined the workforce. Would you say it is a derogatory term? Perhaps we should reclaim it?

Fwiw, the reason I don't work is because we don't need the money and it makes all of our lives easier that I don't. And I don't have a special passion for anything that would earn me a paycheck so I am happy spending time on my hobbies.

[Anonymous]

I jokingly call myself a housewife or a woman of leisure. The truth is I'm a household manager. I neither go to the gym nor do I wear athletic clothes around the town.

[Anonymous]

Stay at home.

[Anonymous]

"Housewife" sounds like a wife at home with no kids to me, but maybe that's because I can't remember the last time I heard someone use it? I said stay at home mom when that was my situation.

[Anonymous]

Gold digger, sugar baby, high priced hooker....

I'm totally kidding. I used to call myself a stay at home mom and now that my kids are teenagers I just say that I stay at home. I could go back to work now but it's not necessary and probably wouldn't enhance our quality of life.

[Anonymous]

LOL - I’m definitely NOT a “housewife”.

I say “retired”.

[Anonymous]

I feel like “housewife” implies a level of organizational and decorating skills that I do not have .

IRL, if I am pressed, I say that I am a pediatrician but I am taking a few years off right now while my kids are little. But it’s actually rare that I have to say anything at all.

[Anonymous]

Who says you need a “special passion” in order to have a job?

I would guess that most people don’t consider their jobs their passions and that is all right. They are satisfied with the knowledge that they are contributing to the world and their families.

Just get a job, anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who says you need a “special passion” in order to have a job?

I would guess that most people don’t consider their jobs their passions and that is all right. They are satisfied with the knowledge that they are contributing to the world and their families.

Just get a job, anything.

This is your business how exactly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like “housewife” implies a level of organizational and decorating skills that I do not have .

IRL, if I am pressed, I say that I am a pediatrician but I am taking a few years off right now while my kids are little. But it’s actually rare that I have to say anything at all.

I just say I'm an unpublished author.

[Anonymous]

Why do you need to call yourself anything?

Just say you don't work outside the home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who says you need a “special passion” in order to have a job?

I would guess that most people don’t consider their jobs their passions and that is all right. They are satisfied with the knowledge that they are contributing to the world and their families.

Just get a job, anything.

If your family doesn’t benefit from the money, then how are you contributing to your family by working? You are just creating more stress, less flexibility, fewer vacations, and a smaller village of friends and extended family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like “housewife” implies a level of organizational and decorating skills that I do not have .

IRL, if I am pressed, I say that I am a pediatrician but I am taking a few years off right now while my kids are little. But it’s actually rare that I have to say anything at all.

I just say I'm an unpublished author.

Lol. Right? I think people would feel lied to if they find out you published, and you had never said anything about writing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like “housewife” implies a level of organizational and decorating skills that I do not have .

IRL, if I am pressed, I say that I am a pediatrician but I am taking a few years off right now while my kids are little. But it’s actually rare that I have to say anything at all.

I just say I'm an unpublished author.

Lol. Right? I think people would feel lied to if they find out you published, and you had never said anything about writing.

Ha. I do write sometimes - grocery store lists, notes to the dog sitter, notes on greeting cards - my writing has just never been published .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who says you need a “special passion” in order to have a job?

I would guess that most people don’t consider their jobs their passions and that is all right. They are satisfied with the knowledge that they are contributing to the world and their families.

Just get a job, anything.

Me. I’m not going to waste my precious time on a meaningless j-o-b.