I’m Considering Leaving My Wife for My Co-worker

[Anonymous]

This isn't my situation, but one in the advice column in The Atlantic. I'm posting it here because potential infidelity is a theme in this forum, and because I'm really impressed with this particular author's column. The advice is always rock solid and well written:

https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2020/02/should-i-leave-my-wife-another-woman/606202/

[Anonymous]

The guy who wrote the letter sounds like a douche.

[Anonymous]

She must be his soulmate.

[Anonymous]

Gross.

[Anonymous]

The mention of alcohol makes me wonder how genuine the feelings are. Did his relationship with his wife start off that way too? Lots of booze in the first few months, then realizing you're not really into the person when sober?

[Anonymous]

The grass may be greener on the other side, but wait until you have to mow it.

[Anonymous]

Good advice. She gave it to him straight without saying “ joy are being an immature, selfish ass. YOU HAVE KIDS!”

[Anonymous]

He sounds like a stunted moron.

[Anonymous]

Ha ha.

Let's ask DCUM what she thinks about a man leaving his wife for a skinny 25 year-old. Nice post, Troll.

[Anonymous]

No surprise that the majority of marriages that begin as an affair do not work.

Running around from bar to bar drinking and sharing "deep thoughts" is more fun than life with wife which includes responsibilities to kids, financial struggles, chores, etc.? Shocker.

What kind of person can't see that the second relationship will lose luster once all of the day to day struggles become a part of that relationship as well?

[Anonymous]

Could we talk about why The Atlantic publishes crap like this and the David Brooks piece on the Nuclear Family?

I don't read the Atlantic for therapy advice to douche bag cheaters nor do i think that an article about the nuclear family from a guy who left his wife for his direct work subordinate has any credibility.

I though in a #MeToo/Weinstein era guys who slept with their subordinates would stop being able to pass themselves off as morally or professionally credible.

[Anonymous]

My husband left me for a co worker and they have been happily married for 8 yrs now. Shes a wonderful step mom. Playing out a lifetime movie in real time almost killed me. One day when my kids are adults I might tell them about the overlap but why ruin their ideals about their dad after all this time. I am here to tell you that this can happen and they can *sometimes* have their cake and eat it too. I just mention this bc a lot of times the person who is cheated on is consoled by the fact their ex will face impending doom. Well doomsday never came here.

[Anonymous]

I mean, this happened at my workplace with two people I work with.

His kids call her mom now, too.

[Anonymous]

This happened where I worked. 15 years later, husband is dead and second wife has no one. It is really sad. First wife and kids are doing well. She remarried someone really nice. Her first husband was a DB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband left me for a co worker and they have been happily married for 8 yrs now. Shes a wonderful step mom. Playing out a lifetime movie in real time almost killed me. One day when my kids are adults I might tell them about the overlap but why ruin their ideals about their dad after all this time. I am here to tell you that this can happen and they can *sometimes* have their cake and eat it too. I just mention this bc a lot of times the person who is cheated on is consoled by the fact their ex will face impending doom. Well doomsday never came here.

I'm sorry, PP.

I know someone this happened to also - a family friend. Her husband left for someone in his field - not exactly a coworker but someone in his professional circle that he interacted with often. It is now almost a decade later, they aren't married but they are still together. They are both garbage people as far as I'm concerned, but they're happy together. It sucks and life isn't fair.