Jen Hatmaker

[Anonymous]

“For me, daily racism is out of the realm of theory and into the space of experience.”

When did this shift take place? Did your own black children not experience daily racism? Because if they didn’t, then that doesn’t really prove your point. If they did, why didn’t you move into this “space” long ago? Why did you have to date a 6’2 black man with dreads (also, aren’t we supposed to say ‘locs’ now?) to “finally” realize your own lingering white supremacy? How sad for your children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Big Sis is the definition of Performative Allieship.

I mean Performative Allieship.

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Anonymous wrote:No tyler didn’t give crickets. He said: you are more than enough. That’s it. That’s the post

🤣

That's... Double edged

[Anonymous]

Jens jeans recently are really bad. She needs a higher rise and looser fit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok this latest post about how her boyfriend is a “6’2 black man with dreadlocks” and so NOW she experiences the world at his side.

Ummmm… ma’am have you not parented two black children to near adulthood? THIS (fake) relationship is what opened your eyes, not your own children’s experiences ? Cool. This definitely does not seem made up for clicks.

Exactly. This (mostly text/phone) relationship with someone you see very occasionally is what opened your eyes, not your own children who you lived with and parented every day for X number of years?

[Anonymous]

How in the world did she live with two black children and be so unaware of racism. She has to have a non relationship with a black man to recognize it? What an insult to her kids.

[Anonymous]

Jen after raising two black kids for ten years.

No understanding of the challenges facing black peoples in America.

Jen after “dating” long distance a black man for a few years.

My god there is no bigger white ally for black empowerment against white privilege than me.

[Anonymous]

I think the first step she should take to combat her white supremacy should be NOT describing her boyfriend like the suspect of a crime. “My 6’2” black male with dreads.” Why does she keep doing this?! No one else talks about their significant other this way!

Also, this post just confirms why I will never believe this relationship is real. He is her DEI-hire boyfriend. “I’m not racist! I have a black boyfriend!!!”. Ma’am, you have black CHILDREN. Remember them?

For the love….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the first step she should take to combat her white supremacy should be NOT describing her boyfriend like the suspect of a crime. “My 6’2” black male with dreads.” Why does she keep doing this?! No one else talks about their significant other this way!

Also, this post just confirms why I will never believe this relationship is real. He is her DEI-hire boyfriend. “I’m not racist! I have a black boyfriend!!!”. Ma’am, you have black CHILDREN. Remember them?

For the love….

Imagine how thrilled she'd be if he wore a hoodie.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the first step she should take to combat her white supremacy should be NOT describing her boyfriend like the suspect of a crime. “My 6’2” black male with dreads.” Why does she keep doing this?!

Do you think he regularly refers to her as my 5’8” white girlfriend with the brassy dye job?

[Anonymous]

Her latest reel, she’s doing the biggest white girl dance to the boo thing song. Wearing her buttery Able bag and her awful jeans. Make it stop.

[Anonymous]

She thinks she’s being cool or edgy by describing him the way a “Karen” would, seeing him in her cul de sac after dark.

She doesn’t realize it’s not coming off that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the first step she should take to combat her white supremacy should be NOT describing her boyfriend like the suspect of a crime. “My 6’2” black male with dreads.” Why does she keep doing this?! No one else talks about their significant other this way!

Also, this post just confirms why I will never believe this relationship is real. He is her DEI-hire boyfriend. “I’m not racist! I have a black boyfriend!!!”. Ma’am, you have black CHILDREN. Remember them?

For the love….

I appreciate the play on her book title there at the end.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok this latest post about how her boyfriend is a “6’2 black man with dreadlocks” and so NOW she experiences the world at his side.

So many of the comments:
I’m also dating a 6’7 man;
as the MIL of a 6’5 black man;
my husband is a beautiful 6’3 black man….

So weird. Nobody saying, “My husband is 5’8.”

The fixation on his height is beyond weird. Does his height make him more masculine? Also, I’ve seen his pictures standing next to her… have my doubts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok this latest post about how her boyfriend is a “6’2 black man with dreadlocks” and so NOW she experiences the world at his side.

So many of the comments:
I’m also dating a 6’7 man;
as the MIL of a 6’5 black man;
my husband is a beautiful 6’3 black man….

So weird. Nobody saying, “My husband is 5’8.”

My guess is that this is one of those validation by association things, like where you're in a conversation and someone shares something about their life and you recognize something similar from your own life. That's often a way people connect in a conversation. The additional factor here is that Jen has a level of celebrity beyond the average person which probably makes some people feel more validated when they recognize the similarities.