Corollary between sexless marriages and one or both partners letting themselves go?

[Anonymous]

Are these things related, or is this an unfair conclusion to draw?

[Anonymous]

What do you think?

[Anonymous]

honestly don't know - there is a lot of discussion about sexless marriage on dcum -- is it physical, overworked spouse not around, built up anger, feeling out of shape?

[Anonymous]

There are many reasons for it. A very common one seems to be boredom. Not surprising. Monogamy is NOT natural.

[Anonymous]

so if man cheats on elegant, fir, attractive wife, what was going on?

[Anonymous]

Depression and lack of sex care might.

[Anonymous]

It can be a reason, but I doubt it's the most common reason. In the absence of novelty, lots of women just don't have the libido to stay interested.

[Anonymous]

You assume one spouse is sexually turned off by the spouse that let themselves go. But it also happens where, with women especially, if she feels unattractive because of weight gain in particular, she might not want sex or to even get naked in front of her spouse.

[Anonymous]

Most of the people I know who have been cheated on were fit and took good care of themselves.

One female could have been a model but she was a bi*ch. Husband who was way less attractive than her, cheated on her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most of the people I know who have been cheated on were fit and took good care of themselves.

One female could have been a model but she was a bi*ch. Husband who was way less attractive than her, cheated on her.

Forgot to add that I have no idea what our friends sex lives are like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You assume one spouse is sexually turned off by the spouse that let themselves go. But it also happens where, with women especially, if she feels unattractive because of weight gain in particular, she might not want sex or to even get naked in front of her spouse.

This is a good observation. Sometimes women can be their own worst critic.

[Anonymous]

No. My wife put on 40 pounds but I would have still been totally into her if she’s been into me. Plumbing and sexy is a-OK. Plump and sexless is just sad.

And no, i’m not overweight myself.

[Anonymous]

Correlation? Sure. Many possibilities for that, like...

Partner A marries Partner B, expecting a type of relationship that was promised.
Partner B does not behave that way.
Partner A feels trapped, depressed, especially when kids are involved. As a result of feeling so trapped and depressed, Partner A lets him/herself go. Maybe they are struggling to hold themselves above water, and so trips to the beautician are pretty low on the priority list.
As an aside, Partner A also loses all interest in having sex with Partner B, since Partner B does not treat Partner A well.

[Anonymous]

I’m in great shape. 5’11”, 175 pounds and low body fat. I look great for 45. So does my wife. 5’6” and 125 pounds and a dancer. She has no sexual interest in me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Correlation? Sure. Many possibilities for that, like...

Partner A marries Partner B, expecting a type of relationship that was promised.
Partner B does not behave that way.
Partner A feels trapped, depressed, especially when kids are involved. As a result of feeling so trapped and depressed, Partner A lets him/herself go. Maybe they are struggling to hold themselves above water, and so trips to the beautician are pretty low on the priority list.
As an aside, Partner A also loses all interest in having sex with Partner B, since Partner B does not treat Partner A well.

+1000. Right on target. Well said.