Older siblings who still lecture you... it doesn't ever end, does it?

[Anonymous]

I'm 40, a grown ass woman, and the unsolicited "advice" never ceases.

Do I have thoughts and opinions about my siblings and their lives and choices? Of course! But if it's not harming anyone, I shut my mouth. None of my business.

[Anonymous]

OK?

You going to tell her to cut it out, or not? What is the point of this thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK?

You going to tell her to cut it out, or not? What is the point of this thread?

lol you think that stops it?

[Anonymous]

No, it never ends. My eldest sister does it and so does DH’s older brother. We tune them out.

[Anonymous]

You're 40. Unless you are hitting them up for money or free childcare, they have no business lecturing you.

Why are they lecturing you?

[Anonymous]

My husband is the second born and lectures all his siblings, and anyone who will let him, really.

My mother, youngest of her family, is lorded over by another “young” sibling, not the eldest ones.

My youngest child is the one who exerts pressure on my oldest.

It’s all about personality, not birth order, OP.

[Anonymous]

I'm the youngest of 3, all in our 40s. Once I hit college, our relationships all shifted to adults. I go to them for advice, if I want it. But if I don't want it, no one is lecturing me. We all love and respect each other, so no need for lectures.

My DH's older sister wants to lecture him, and they aren't as close because of it. He'd never ever go to her for advice because she is a mess in a lot of ways.

[Anonymous]

My mother is 68 and still gets all kinds of unsolicited advice from her older sister. I've tried hard not to do the same to my younger sister.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OK?

You going to tell her to cut it out, or not? What is the point of this thread?

lol you think that stops it?

So then cut contact or limit contact. Yes, and? What is the point of this thread?

[Anonymous]

Oh man. Butting into my baby siblings’ affairs is definitely one of my hobbies.

[Anonymous]

Are you asking them for advice? My younger sister is constantly asking me for advice, keeps pushing for it and pushing for it even when I try to avoid saying anything, and then when I do give advice (because she asked), she gets angry that I didn't give her the advice she wanted to hear. It works both ways, OP.

[Anonymous]

My older brother lectured me about something and was angry with me. It had to do with a favor I was doing with my parents and actually stated "If you don't do this and this I will come down there and so help me..." so I laughed. I laughed and laughed. I said "Ok old man (he's 16 years older than me) you gonna show up at my door and beat me up??? Let's go". It shut him up right away.

[Anonymous]

It’s the person, not the sibling. I’m the eldest of four and have never lectured anyone once I left for college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is the second born and lectures all his siblings, and anyone who will let him, really.

My mother, youngest of her family, is lorded over by another “young” sibling, not the eldest ones.

My youngest child is the one who exerts pressure on my oldest.

It’s all about personality, not birth order, OP.

If you changed your first sentence to my sister is the second born....this would be the exact dynamic of my family.

[Anonymous]

I have one super smart brother who lectures me...sometimes about my own field of expertise, which isn’t related to his.

“They way the do it, you see, is that they essential...”

Someone like that isnt going to magically change, so try to find humor in it instead of getting offended or upset.