Miserable Christmas. I want to return my gifts

[Anonymous]

This has been a miserable and stressful Christmas. I am struggling with a lot of job and financial issues, and my DW is absolutely unsupportive. I feel neither she nor my daughter have any gratitude. DW complains endlessly about housework and daughter, whose college I am paying for, backs her up with some feminist claptrap about women “having to do everything” and then gets upset when I get grouch about it.

Here’s an example. Rather than seeing I was in the midst of cleaning up the kitchen after Christmas dinner, DW is asking me to help her clean up all the Christmas boxes. Daughter likes on and asks why can’t I help her, I tell her can’t she see I’m busy duty something else, to which she is now breaking down crying about how I disrespect her and don’t listen to her and just get mad when she gives me facts from papers she is reading.

I actually feel like giving all my presents back. My daughter gave me a beautiful sweatshirt and DW is saying it was expensive and maybe I should offer to daughter that she can return it and buy something for herself, and that she and daughter already agreed to this. Honestly, I don’t care about the sweatshirt. But I’m angry. I basically bought two presents for DW - counting the money I gave to daughter to buy a present for her Mom ($140) - and when I asked DW last night in the heat of yet another bitch session whether she likes the present I bought her, she threw it back at me.

I don’t feel anything was given to me in a spirit of generosity, but in the expectation that they would receive something in kind. I don’t want my presents anymore.

[Anonymous]

You complain constantly about this woman and this marriage and I wish you would get deep therapy and a divorce. Break this cycle of misery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You complain constantly about this woman and this marriage and I wish you would get deep therapy and a divorce. Break this cycle of misery.

+1. Also, your need to be a permavictim undermines your credibility when it comes to the substance of your complaints.

[Anonymous]

Are you a woman married to DW? I don't hear a man's voice ("beautiful sweater") in this post. Maybe try again.

[Anonymous]

At least you got something. My DH gave me kitchen scissors (my only gift) and step-DD gave nothing. They both received nice gifts from me.

[Anonymous]

This isn’t real guys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This isn’t real guys.

I think it is real. This OP posts a lot about his wife and daughter.

[Anonymous]

Burn the damm gifts. I have a burn barrel if you want to borrow

[Anonymous]

Since the antagonist in the story is female, then this is DCUM so it's not her fault.

If the roles were reversed, DCUM would be advising to meet with a divorce lawyer immediately and so on.

If you're a man and this isn't a troll post, consider it. Men at your age do much better on the dating market than women, especially one with a decent job and experience raising kids.

[Anonymous]

OP, you deserve so much better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since the antagonist in the story is female, then this is DCUM so it's not her fault.

If the roles were reversed, DCUM would be advising to meet with a divorce lawyer immediately and so on.

If you're a man and this isn't a troll post, consider it. Men at your age do much better on the dating market than women, especially one with a decent job and experience raising kids.

Literally the first comment advises divorce

[Anonymous]

You ask your wife if she liked her gift in the middle of a fight?

[Anonymous]

Op doesn't write like a man. it's got woman written all over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since the antagonist in the story is female, then this is DCUM so it's not her fault.

If the roles were reversed, DCUM would be advising to meet with a divorce lawyer immediately and so on.

If you're a man and this isn't a troll post, consider it. Men at your age do much better on the dating market than women, especially one with a decent job and experience raising kids.

Literally the first comment advises divorce

Don’t disrupt pp’s righteous outrage with facts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This isn’t real guys.

Yep a guy would just sit there and take. Also guys never bitch about gifts. The gifts always suck...especially the gifts for the self proclaimed great gift givers!