Why the insistence on 24/7 togetherness during visits?

[Anonymous]

If you are the type of guest or hosts who expects all family to be together at all times during a visit, WHY?

If you're the type who chirps "WHERE'S JIM" like a damn parrot when Jim just went to the bathroom for 10 blessed minutes to take a freaking dump, stop it now. We can be together without being face to face and talking every second. Ugh, you are exhausting.

[Anonymous]

Really? That example?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Really? That example?

NP. It's a reality. My ILsare like this. You honestly, truly can't go to the bathroom without one of them loudly asking where you are, and later accusing you of "disappearing."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Really? That example?

NP. It's a reality. My ILsare like this. You honestly, truly can't go to the bathroom without one of them loudly asking where you are, and later accusing you of "disappearing."

My in-laws are the SAME!!

I can sit there for 2 hours while they retell all the same family stories again while barely saying two words to me. Then, if I go to the bathroom suddenly my name gets called repeatedly.

[Anonymous]

My ILs think I'm rude because I occasionally nap, run an errand, or take a walk for some alone time. During multi-day visits.

[Anonymous]

Extroverts truly don't get that it is actually normal and OK and not rude to want a few breaks to recharge and enjoy some peace and quiet.

I swear, my MIL fills silence. Every breath is filled with chatter. There is no such thing as companionable silence, in her view.

[Anonymous]

This must be a flyover country situation

[Anonymous]

if all in laws could be safely transported to another planet it would be great. Myself, of course, excepted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This must be a flyover country situation

Nope, right here in dcumland.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This must be a flyover country situation

OP here. My IL's home is in Saddle River, NJ. Any other bright thoughts you'd like to share?

[Anonymous]

My ILs are like this, too. It’s fricking exhausting. The worst is my sister in law, whom I love dearly but lacks the ability to shut up, and asks what’s wrong if I sit quietly with a book for a few minutes.

- Introvert from a broken home, so this behavior is strange and foreign to me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This must be a flyover country situation

OP here. My IL's home is in Saddle River, NJ. Any other bright thoughts you'd like to share?

God help saddle river.

Op, one day you will be older and a little forgetful and ask where’s Jim? Except if you stay on the mean spirited path you’re on now, you’ll be saying it to an empty room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This must be a flyover country situation

OP here. My IL's home is in Saddle River, NJ. Any other bright thoughts you'd like to share?

God help saddle river.

Op, one day you will be older and a little forgetful and ask where’s Jim? Except if you stay on the mean spirited path you’re on now, you’ll be saying it to an empty room.

You must hate that no one misses you when you go take a shit

[Anonymous]

This was the first year that I realized the extent to which my family is together for 48 hours. Only the lucky few who have to run to the store escape. We got a puppy this year any I walked her so many times just to get some quiet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This must be a flyover country situation

OP here. My IL's home is in Saddle River, NJ. Any other bright thoughts you'd like to share?

God help saddle river.

Op, one day you will be older and a little forgetful and ask where’s Jim? Except if you stay on the mean spirited path you’re on now, you’ll be saying it to an empty room.

Lol