If you RSVP to a kids party and don’t show up...
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Anonymous
| Why? We had a parent do this yesterday. She texted me to RSVP a few days ago, said they’d be happy to attend, asked what my child wanted as a gift, etc. Then, just didn’t show up! No call, no text. If you do this, why? |
Anonymous
| Forgot. |
Anonymous
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People who do this are very very rude. It’s that simple.
Whenever I’ve had to cancel because my kid was sick, I’ve always texted the host to let them know. |
Anonymous
OP here. I sent a reminder text on Friday, party was Saturday. I guess someone could technically forget...seems strange though. |
Anonymous
Sick kid. Sick sibling. Fender bender. Kid melted down about leaving the house. Dog got loose. Dog died. Hot water heater burst. There’s a lot of reasonable excuses. Are they likely? Maybe, maybe not. |
Anonymous
| She’s probably flakey and forgot. |
Anonymous
| She sucks, that’s why. |
Anonymous
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Why are you assuming the worst? Take action, don't sit and get worked up in online conversation.
Send a text and say something like, "We missed you yesterday! Hope everything is ok." See what you get. It is really not that hard. |
Anonymous
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I'm a stickler about RSVPing and showing up to what I said I would.
The only time I skipped out on a child's birthday party was when my child (then around 4-5) had a massive meltdown and we could not calm her for over an hour (she is a bit on the spectrum). The party had already started. So, we did not go. I emailed the mother, but I did not know the her at all so did not divulge the truth. So I just said sorry we couldn't make it. She didn't write back, which I understand. We were never invited again, which I also understand. Maybe I could have handled it better in hindsight, but I was frazzled and was doing the best I could at that time. Years later, I still feel bad about missing that party and how it probably made the mother and her child feel. |
Anonymous
Yeah, this. If she doesn’t send an -Omg, I’m so sorry I forgot, I’m on my way with Larla to drop off her gift’ text by the end of today, then this. |
Anonymous
+1. Sick is always a likely one, and if it's the parent(s) that was sick, that might explain the delay in reaching out to you as of yet. I think if you don't receive any news within a few days, the mom flaked. |
Anonymous
| I've gotten the time mixed up. I was juggling various things that day, got the times mixed up, felt so embarassed and just kinda flew under the radar about it. |
Anonymous
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I once showed up to a party the Saturday before.
I was flaky at the time, actually in the midst of a nervous breakdown. You never know what is going on in other people’s lives. |
Anonymous
| Once when the kids were little a pet escaped, we were searching frantically, found the pet, and in the panic and relief afterward, forgot about the party completely. Stuff happens. |
Anonymous
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I flat out forgot about a kid party once. Just plain forgot.
I apologized to the mom as soon as I realized, and gave the kid her gift. Only time it ever happened (three DC). |