What do people mean by feeling “outnumbered” with 3+ kids

[Anonymous]

Mother of 3 but I never feel “outnumbered” as in I don’t feel like I’m chasing more children than I could catch. Our age gaps are all four years apart (1, 5, 9) though so maybe it’s referencing younger ages or those more close in age?

When you say you feel “outnumbered” what do you mean exactly?

[Anonymous]

The age gaps make a HUGE difference. I only have 2 kids, but they’re 2 years apart. So when I had a newborn I was still changing the 2 year olds diapers and she couldn’t just get herself out of the car seat. At the ages your kids are your 9 year old is independent and probably helpful. I’m
Glad you’re not feeling outnumbered—sounds like the age gaps are working well for you.

[Anonymous]

3 is more than 2. So 2 parents are outnumbered by 3 children. That’s what it means.

[Anonymous]

Your 9 year-old I'm sure can do simple tasks, as well as your 5 year-old. Heck, I bet the 9 year old could even change a diaper. So the burden isn't as bad as say someone who has 3 that are 1-2 years apart.

[Anonymous]

I have 2 who are 19 months apart and am expecting another who will be 3.5 years younger than kid 2. I totally feel out numbered lol. I will have 3 kids 5 and under.

[Anonymous]

I only have 2, but am smart enough to know what parents of 3+ mean when they say they feel outnumbered.

You're not really asking, you're bragging about what a good mom you are because 3 kids is a breeze and la dee da.

Here's your medal, OP. Thread over.

[Anonymous]

There are more kids than adults. Idk why you’re acting like this is hard to figure out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I only have 2, but am smart enough to know what parents of 3+ mean when they say they feel outnumbered.

You're not really asking, you're bragging about what a good mom you are because 3 kids is a breeze and la dee da.

Here's your medal, OP. Thread over.

We are done here, this said it all.

[Anonymous]

I assume it means that when they are little - like 2, 4 and 6 - you can’t take them out by yourself and have them hold your hands in parking lots. If a stomach bug goes around, you and your partner can only comfort 2 kids at a time and someone is left puking alone and calling for help. If your kids all have activities on the same night, parents are only driving to 2 of them and one kid has to car pool or doesn’t have a parent watch his game.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are more kids than adults. Idk why you’re acting like this is hard to figure out.

This. I have three tweens. Say they have three activities scheduled at the and time. We only have two parents in our family. So we can’t take all three to their activities. That’s when we carpool.

[Anonymous]

Your kids are young, that's why you aren't relating yet. Once they are older and start having parties and school concerts and sports practice and dance recitals to attend, you'll see - you want a parent at everything or to take them where they need to go, but you'd need a third adult to do so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I only have 2, but am smart enough to know what parents of 3+ mean when they say they feel outnumbered.

You're not really asking, you're bragging about what a good mom you are because 3 kids is a breeze and la dee da.

Here's your medal, OP. Thread over.

But it’s a stupid brag. She had her third baby when her oldest was 8 and middle child was 4! At those ages kids can get themselves buckled and in/out of the car, nobody’s going to be running off in a parking lot. The oldest can even help with many tasks.

This is a stone deaf as someone with a college age kid and a toddler saying they never experienced sibling rivalry because they’re such amazing parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:3 is more than 2. So 2 parents are outnumbered by 3 children. That’s what it means.

This is what people mean.

Apparently these people work exactly the same hours as their spouse and neither of them have any hobbies, so they are always home together.

[Anonymous]

Zone coverage rather than man to man. Duh.

[Anonymous]

It means that when there's two parents and two kids, each parent takes responsibility for a kid.

With three, you can't do that.