What do people mean by feeling “outnumbered” with 3+ kids

[Anonymous]

If you had 1, 3 and 4 year olds you would know what people mean. What is with people constantly trying to prove they are superior at parenting and bring down other parents? It could also be at any age, and with any number of kids. Imagine a parent with 3 teens, that still don's drive and throw a fit if you can't drive them left and right? "I am not overwhelmed by my kids, so parents who are are losers." Why OP? What is truly bothering you that you feel the need to tear other parents down?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:3 is more than 2. So 2 parents are outnumbered by 3 children. That’s what it means.

This. OP, you are either trying to brag about how good a parent you are, or as dumb as a box of rocks. Either way, not a great look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:3 is more than 2. So 2 parents are outnumbered by 3 children. That’s what it means.

This. OP, you are either trying to brag about how good a parent you are, or as dumb as a box of rocks. Either way, not a great look.

It's a brag, come on. She only feels good about herself if she tears other parents down. Not a good look, and a sing of some insane insecurity.

[Anonymous]

OP, sorry people are ripping on you. I get your question.

I have friends who felt "outnumbered" once thy had 3 because when they had 2 they were in a situation where they almost always had 2 parents with 2 kids. Both parents work, both parents come home at the same time each night, leave at the same time in the morning, rarely travel unless grandma comes in to help, etc. So they never got used to being one adult with 2 kids --- until the third came along.

For us, the adjustment from 1 kid to 2 was much harder than from 2 to 3, because I was often alone with my 2 kids (DH works long hours) and when DH was home, I'd be more likely to say "see ya!" and let him put both to bed, feed both dinner, etc. So we both learned how to handle kids in a situation in which we were not one-on-one early on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I only have 2, but am smart enough to know what parents of 3+ mean when they say they feel outnumbered.

You're not really asking, you're bragging about what a good mom you are because 3 kids is a breeze and la dee da.

Here's your medal, OP. Thread over.

+1,000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are more kids than adults. Idk why you’re acting like this is hard to figure out.

+1,000,000 OP is either an idiot or a braggart, or both.

[Anonymous]

Op here. I ask because I’ve been involved in many peer groups this year due to addiction within our home environment and in doing so I’ve come across this many times and just don’t feel outnumbered as in it’s expected to be that way. I’m trying to gain a better understanding so I know what is being referenced for instance are people saying they feel overwhelmed but using the term outnumbered? So when I share that I don’t understand they just stare or don’t understand what I don’t understand. I’m not sure if I’m not taking into consideration that it’s gender differences, personalities or age differences.

I’ve always struggled with some social nuances so I figured writing on here could help me better communicate.

I have struggles of my own with day to day issues and try my best to build a network of friends and acquaintances but there are certain terms or phrases that still throw me off or that I don’t understand how to best share how I relate.

For instance in conversation it can be referenced 9/10 in new therapy settings but when I respond that I don’t feel that way, I would say overwhelmed at times but not necessarily feeling outnumbered? Does that make sense? Even if I am I don’t have an emotional or feeling associated with the term outnumbered whereas for me I associate an emotion or feeling with overwhelmed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Zone coverage rather than man to man. Duh.

[Anonymous]

Duh, OP. Really?

3 kids is more than 2 parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I ask because I’ve been involved in many peer groups this year due to addiction within our home environment and in doing so I’ve come across this many times and just don’t feel outnumbered as in it’s expected to be that way. I’m trying to gain a better understanding so I know what is being referenced for instance are people saying they feel overwhelmed but using the term outnumbered? So when I share that I don’t understand they just stare or don’t understand what I don’t understand. I’m not sure if I’m not taking into consideration that it’s gender differences, personalities or age differences.

I’ve always struggled with some social nuances so I figured writing on here could help me better communicate.

I have struggles of my own with day to day issues and try my best to build a network of friends and acquaintances but there are certain terms or phrases that still throw me off or that I don’t understand how to best share how I relate.

For instance in conversation it can be referenced 9/10 in new therapy settings but when I respond that I don’t feel that way, I would say overwhelmed at times but not necessarily feeling outnumbered? Does that make sense? Even if I am I don’t have an emotional or feeling associated with the term outnumbered whereas for me I associate an emotion or feeling with overwhelmed?

Jesus Christ. OP, three is more than two. That's all you really need to know here.

[Anonymous]

Maybe try Prozac?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I only have 2, but am smart enough to know what parents of 3+ mean when they say they feel outnumbered.

You're not really asking, you're bragging about what a good mom you are because 3 kids is a breeze and la dee da.

Here's your medal, OP. Thread over.

I don’t know I rather prefer to read the slight bragging vs the misery olympics dcum parents like to compete over. Omg you just have one baby try having 3 under 3 Im totally overwhelmed!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I ask because I’ve been involved in many peer groups this year due to addiction within our home environment and in doing so I’ve come across this many times and just don’t feel outnumbered as in it’s expected to be that way. I’m trying to gain a better understanding so I know what is being referenced for instance are people saying they feel overwhelmed but using the term outnumbered? So when I share that I don’t understand they just stare or don’t understand what I don’t understand. I’m not sure if I’m not taking into consideration that it’s gender differences, personalities or age differences.

I’ve always struggled with some social nuances so I figured writing on here could help me better communicate.

I have struggles of my own with day to day issues and try my best to build a network of friends and acquaintances but there are certain terms or phrases that still throw me off or that I don’t understand how to best share how I relate.

For instance in conversation it can be referenced 9/10 in new therapy settings but when I respond that I don’t feel that way, I would say overwhelmed at times but not necessarily feeling outnumbered? Does that make sense? Even if I am I don’t have an emotional or feeling associated with the term outnumbered whereas for me I associate an emotion or feeling with overwhelmed?

Wtf????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I ask because I’ve been involved in many peer groups this year due to addiction within our home environment and in doing so I’ve come across this many times and just don’t feel outnumbered as in it’s expected to be that way. I’m trying to gain a better understanding so I know what is being referenced for instance are people saying they feel overwhelmed but using the term outnumbered? So when I share that I don’t understand they just stare or don’t understand what I don’t understand. I’m not sure if I’m not taking into consideration that it’s gender differences, personalities or age differences.

I’ve always struggled with some social nuances so I figured writing on here could help me better communicate.

I have struggles of my own with day to day issues and try my best to build a network of friends and acquaintances but there are certain terms or phrases that still throw me off or that I don’t understand how to best share how I relate.

For instance in conversation it can be referenced 9/10 in new therapy settings but when I respond that I don’t feel that way, I would say overwhelmed at times but not necessarily feeling outnumbered? Does that make sense? Even if I am I don’t have an emotional or feeling associated with the term outnumbered whereas for me I associate an emotion or feeling with overwhelmed?

Wtf????

+1 Right?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I ask because I’ve been involved in many peer groups this year due to addiction within our home environment and in doing so I’ve come across this many times and just don’t feel outnumbered as in it’s expected to be that way. I’m trying to gain a better understanding so I know what is being referenced for instance are people saying they feel overwhelmed but using the term outnumbered? So when I share that I don’t understand they just stare or don’t understand what I don’t understand. I’m not sure if I’m not taking into consideration that it’s gender differences, personalities or age differences.

I’ve always struggled with some social nuances so I figured writing on here could help me better communicate.

I have struggles of my own with day to day issues and try my best to build a network of friends and acquaintances but there are certain terms or phrases that still throw me off or that I don’t understand how to best share how I relate.

For instance in conversation it can be referenced 9/10 in new therapy settings but when I respond that I don’t feel that way, I would say overwhelmed at times but not necessarily feeling outnumbered? Does that make sense? Even if I am I don’t have an emotional or feeling associated with the term outnumbered whereas for me I associate an emotion or feeling with overwhelmed?


So, basically an idiot. We got it.