7th grade DD does not like lid that sits at her table

[Anonymous]

there are 4 kids at her table. the one next to her and across from her have behavior issues and are constantly talking. the one next to her always bumps her during class and distracts her. my dd has anxiety and this is stressing her out since the 2 kids are "tough". She wants to ask the teacher to move her but is also worried these 2 kids will retaliate against her. there was an incident last year when the one kid was making fun of my child hair. my kid is very quiet and non confrontational so she doesnt know what to do. for any other kid, I would say suck it up. but this time, I really do want her moved. any advice?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:there are 4 kids at her table. the one next to her and across from her have behavior issues and are constantly talking. the one next to her always bumps her during class and distracts her. my dd has anxiety and this is stressing her out since the 2 kids are "tough". She wants to ask the teacher to move her but is also worried these 2 kids will retaliate against her. there was an incident last year when the one kid was making fun of my child hair. my kid is very quiet and non confrontational so she doesnt know what to do. for any other kid, I would say suck it up. but this time, I really do want her moved. any advice?

But not for yours?

Suck it up, she needs to learn to deal with life around people she doesn't like or who she's not comfortable around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:there are 4 kids at her table. the one next to her and across from her have behavior issues and are constantly talking. the one next to her always bumps her during class and distracts her. my dd has anxiety and this is stressing her out since the 2 kids are "tough". She wants to ask the teacher to move her but is also worried these 2 kids will retaliate against her. there was an incident last year when the one kid was making fun of my child hair. my kid is very quiet and non confrontational so she doesnt know what to do. for any other kid, I would say suck it up. but this time, I really do want her moved. any advice?

Maybe the other kids don't like her! Your dd can ask but, don't you ask and don"t expect the teacher to change for her. Good lesson on how to deal with all types of people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:there are 4 kids at her table. the one next to her and across from her have behavior issues and are constantly talking. the one next to her always bumps her during class and distracts her. my dd has anxiety and this is stressing her out since the 2 kids are "tough". She wants to ask the teacher to move her but is also worried these 2 kids will retaliate against her. there was an incident last year when the one kid was making fun of my child hair. my kid is very quiet and non confrontational so she doesnt know what to do. for any other kid, I would say suck it up. but this time, I really do want her moved. any advice?

Maybe the other kids don't like her! Your dd can ask but, don't you ask and don"t expect the teacher to change for her. Good lesson on how to deal with all types of people.

Ok, so you as an adult would NEVER tolerate this in your workplace but kids just need to deal for multiple years? Just suck it up and take it. I would contact the teacher and the counselor to get this resolved. Your child has as much right as any other to have a place to learn that is free of reasonable distractions and harassment.

[Anonymous]

It is pathetic that adults are micro-managing kids to such a degree that they can't sit with whoever they want.

When I taught I let the kids sit wherever they chose and told them I'd only move them if they were disturbing people they sat near.

[Anonymous]

OP, your child is in 7th GRADE. Let her deal with it. She's a big girl now.

[Anonymous]

OP you've not had helpful advice. My DC was in a class last year (6th grade) with a highly disruptive boy who had serious behavior issues and distracted everyone from the lesson (foreign language).

My DC was put next to this kid because my DC is quiet and never disruptive. I think the teachers do it because they hope the quiet kid will influence the rowdy one and set a great example.

However, my DC like yours just could not tolerate this. I emailed the teacher and asked that they move the disruptive kid who was then put on a table solo - because NO ONE wanted to sit with them and for good reason.

You can email the teacher, that is totally fine.

[Anonymous]

op here. my dd does not need to learn to learn to deal with kids that have behavioral issues in class. what they do is beyond what other kids do in terms of interruptions. they talk back to the teacher, talk when the teacher is teaching, and constantly interrupt my dd when she is trying to work. if the teacher cant get them to stop, why should my daughter have to manage them. I appreciate the poster who gets it. I did tell my daughter to discuss with the teacher and hope she does something. if the 2 other kids have the right to be educated, so does my daughter.

[Anonymous]

Email the teacher. My kid couldn’t see the board but she’s not ready to self advocate. I emailed the teacher and her seat was moved.

And yes kids need to suck it up and deal with things but as parents we need to give them the tools. When those tools aren’t yet developed we need to help them, not abandon them.

[Anonymous]

I hate when quiet kids are used to try to calm or counterbalance rowdy kids. It’s so unfair to the quiet kids!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:op here. my dd does not need to learn to learn to deal with kids that have behavioral issues in class. what they do is beyond what other kids do in terms of interruptions. they talk back to the teacher, talk when the teacher is teaching, and constantly interrupt my dd when she is trying to work. if the teacher cant get them to stop, why should my daughter have to manage them. I appreciate the poster who gets it. I did tell my daughter to discuss with the teacher and hope she does something. if the 2 other kids have the right to be educated, so does my daughter.

NP. I get it. First your DD needs to advocate for herself, then if that fails, you could email the teacher. Let her have a chance to solve the problem before you are in and do it for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:there are 4 kids at her table. the one next to her and across from her have behavior issues and are constantly talking. the one next to her always bumps her during class and distracts her. my dd has anxiety and this is stressing her out since the 2 kids are "tough". She wants to ask the teacher to move her but is also worried these 2 kids will retaliate against her. there was an incident last year when the one kid was making fun of my child hair. my kid is very quiet and non confrontational so she doesnt know what to do. for any other kid, I would say suck it up. but this time, I really do want her moved. any advice?

Maybe the other kids don't like her! Your dd can ask but, don't you ask and don"t expect the teacher to change for her. Good lesson on how to deal with all types of people.

Ok, so you as an adult would NEVER tolerate this in your workplace but kids just need to deal for multiple years? Just suck it up and take it. I would contact the teacher and the counselor to get this resolved. Your child has as much right as any other to have a place to learn that is free of reasonable distractions and harassment.

Are you kidding me? Yes as an adult I've had to deal with all sorts of annoying bosses and co-workers. I don't know why you would think that everyone has a nice easy work place.

[Anonymous]

Give it two weeks and if a rotation has not happened already by then, request one.

[Anonymous]

Who cares if the kids are "tough"? Does that mean that they have the right to misbehave with no consequences? I am tough. Unapproachable. I look like a dangerous person, and I can be. But I do not harass other people without cause. You advocate for your daughter in this situation. Learning how to deal with other people is necessary, but if she has no one who will show her how to stand up and be heard, how will she learn to advocate for herself? Show her. Request a private meeting with the teacher. Tell the teacher exactly what is happening. Good luck to you and to your daughter, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:there are 4 kids at her table. the one next to her and across from her have behavior issues and are constantly talking. the one next to her always bumps her during class and distracts her. my dd has anxiety and this is stressing her out since the 2 kids are "tough". She wants to ask the teacher to move her but is also worried these 2 kids will retaliate against her. there was an incident last year when the one kid was making fun of my child hair. my kid is very quiet and non confrontational so she doesnt know what to do. for any other kid, I would say suck it up. but this time, I really do want her moved. any advice?

Maybe the other kids don't like her! Your dd can ask but, don't you ask and don"t expect the teacher to change for her. Good lesson on how to deal with all types of people.

Ok, so you as an adult would NEVER tolerate this in your workplace but kids just need to deal for multiple years? Just suck it up and take it. I would contact the teacher and the counselor to get this resolved. Your child has as much right as any other to have a place to learn that is free of reasonable distractions and harassment.

Huh? I work with all kinds of people. Some of them are pretty obnoxious, but that's how it goes. I can't call HR and demand they be fired or demand to ne moved to another unit, it doesn't really work that way. You don't have to like everyone.