Should mothers inform older teen sons if they’re “friend zoned”?

[Anonymous]

Or maybe it won’t make a difference. But I really think my son needs to move on.

[Anonymous]

Don’t interfere. At all.

[Anonymous]

Like mother of the girl or the boy? If the latter, has your son asked you for help getting a date?

[Anonymous]

Butt way out.

[Anonymous]

No. Not your business, especially if he hasn’t asked.

[Anonymous]

You act like you know for sure exactly what's going on in their heads. You have no idea.

I know plenty of girls who seemed to "friend zone" guys in high school and college, and ended up marrying them after dating a series of jerks.

And for all you know they're having sex at her house twice a week.

[Anonymous]

As a mom of a 14 yr old, yes butt out. Sheesh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Or maybe it won’t make a difference. But I really think my son needs to move on.

Why are you so invested in your older teenage son's dating life? He's not so young where you have to worry about a 13 year old getting in over his head and knocking up some girl, nor so old where you have to worry about him possibly marrying someone terrible (not that you have any right to interfere then either). He is in the sweet spot of being old enough to manage it himself, and young enough to where 9/10 times it isn't going to last more than a year. Rejoice, and ignore!

[Anonymous]

One of the reasons that girls put boys in the friend zone (or just dump them) is because the boy's mother is too involved. No girl wants a mamma's boy so butt out.

[Anonymous]

Of course not. Respect some boundaries, please.

[Anonymous]

Your wording ("inform" him he's "friend-zoned'') makes you sound like you're too involved in his social life, OP. I'd butt out unless he specifically asks for your opinion, and even then I'd offer it only tentatively. He's got to learn to sort this stuff out on his own.

[Anonymous]

No...but adults need to tell other adults to get their own life.

Get a life OP!

[Anonymous]

Why can’t they just be friends.

Does he only friend girls that will screw him?

[Anonymous]

No! A mother should have no involvement at all in her son's dating life. Unless he asks for your advice. Boundaries woman, boundaries. Learn them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your wording ("inform" him he's "friend-zoned'') makes you sound like you're too involved in his social life, OP. I'd butt out unless he specifically asks for your opinion, and even then I'd offer it only tentatively. He's got to learn to sort this stuff out on his own.

Not to mention who knows if OP is even correct???