DD wants her friend who is a guy to sleepover

[Anonymous]

My rising sophomore DD went to sleep away camp for four weeks this summer and became really close friends with this guy. They are not romantically attached at all and are just really close friends - they facetime and text almost every day. However, he is a rising senior, but young for his grade, and lives a few states away. Today, my DD asked if he could come stay at our house for labor day weekend to visit. He would sleep in the basement, and my DD would sleep in her room with a mutila friend who is a girl. What are your thoughts? I’m giving it some consideration because my DD really appreciates his friendship and because he is a senior, they may never see each other again.

[Anonymous]

Sure.

[Anonymous]

I trust my daughter to have good instincts about her friends, so yes. I don't trust my son quite yet, he tends to go with the most brash-talking boys right now, so for him I'd need some additional info about his friend.

[Anonymous]

Please explain your last sentence. I have no idea why you’re saying they may never see each other again.

[Anonymous]

He is sleeping in another room. No problem for me.

[Anonymous]

Do you know this boy or his family? Are you sure he’s not grooming her? I wouldn’t allow it because he’s basically a stranger to my family except my DD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know this boy or his family? Are you sure he’s not grooming her? I wouldn’t allow it because he’s basically a stranger to my family except my DD.

Do you actually have a 16 yr old? Do you plan on following them to college and moving into the dorm?

[Anonymous]

Sure.

[Anonymous]

what's a mutila friend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know this boy or his family? Are you sure he’s not grooming her? I wouldn’t allow it because he’s basically a stranger to my family except my DD.

You really have to unclench at some point, PP. Teenagers should form friendships outside of their family circles. It’s what they will do in college and beyond.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please explain your last sentence. I have no idea why you’re saying they may never see each other again.

I’m guessing she means he’ll be going away to college and they might lose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know this boy or his family? Are you sure he’s not grooming her? I wouldn’t allow it because he’s basically a stranger to my family except my DD.

Grooming her for what?

[Anonymous]

My mom, who was practically scandalized by any appearances of impropriety, allowed this when I was a teenager. We truly were platonic friends, and I had no interest in changing that. Allow it, op.
Your daughter will have a blast with her friend. Also, I'm not sure why they wouldn't see each other again once he's off to college.)

[Anonymous]

Is sex between them ok with you, OP?
....in your house?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you know this boy or his family? Are you sure he’s not grooming her? I wouldn’t allow it because he’s basically a stranger to my family except my DD.

You really have to unclench at some point, PP. Teenagers should form friendships outside of their family circles. It’s what they will do in college and beyond.

There's a difference between a friendship and can-this-senior-boy-come-spend-the-weekend-with-me. I wouldn't allow my DD (or my DS, if reversed) to do this.