DD wants her friend who is a guy to sleepover

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are all crazy thinking a boy that you haven’t met I’d staying at my house. Grooming- you must be thick in the head to not know the definition. Everyone tries to be cool parent and sophomore versus senior boy is not the same as heading off to college. Maybe I’m uptight but I will look out for my child. Or maybe I watch too much Investigation ID to feel comfortable allowing a STRANGER stay in my home

How is this "grooming?" I think you're the one who doesn't understand grooming.

If what you're saying is maybe the boy is attracted to the girl, and would like to date her or have a physical relationship with her, that's not "grooming."

Hopefully you're teaching your kids the difference between crushes/dating/getting to know someone and grooming. Yikes.

[Anonymous]

Sounds fine to me!

[Anonymous]

I would, but i would be sure to let the parents of the girlfriend staying over what is happening. I wouldn't mind if i was her parent and trusted you/knew about it before hand but would be furious to not be told beforehand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he’s gay. My friend like this in HS came out as gay 2 years later. We all knew earlier but it was the 80s.

My thoughts too. A lot of platonic guys in later HS that were really into just hanging out with girls and discussing fashion, gossip and celebs were gay.

[Anonymous]

Guy here. Giving your DD the benefit of the doubt, that friend of hers is 99.99% gay. Back when I was a HS schooler, no way would I have developed a tight friendship with a girl only through a summer. The only reason I would want to be tight with a girl that I would interact with over a summer is to sleep with her (not in the platonic way). Guys at that age, gay or straight, think with their bottom brains and not top. But you know...if he's not gay, chances are that they already hooked up over the summer.

[Anonymous]

We had a very similar situation two summers ago and let the guy friend come at the same time a mutual girl friend was here with DD. He stayed in the basement. Nothing happened but they all had a great time hanging out.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

If he was gay, then sure. If not, then Hell no!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are all crazy thinking a boy that you haven’t met I’d staying at my house. Grooming- you must be thick in the head to not know the definition. Everyone tries to be cool parent and sophomore versus senior boy is not the same as heading off to college. Maybe I’m uptight but I will look out for my child. Or maybe I watch too much Investigation ID to feel comfortable allowing a STRANGER stay in my home

How is this "grooming?" I think you're the one who doesn't understand grooming.

If what you're saying is maybe the boy is attracted to the girl, and would like to date her or have a physical relationship with her, that's not "grooming."

Hopefully you're teaching your kids the difference between crushes/dating/getting to know someone and grooming. Yikes.

+1
If they are 2 or fewer years apart it's not called grooming FFS.

[Anonymous]

^and you’re an expert on the age difference qualifications for grooming? Lol. Dumb parents on this thread and their need to let a strange boy from out of state stay over. Thats the FFS attitude. I’d trust my kid to not even ask for such a dumb thing being a sophomore.

[Anonymous]

When I was 17 my boyfriend slept over in my brothers room. Not okay in the same room.

[Anonymous]

In this day and age. What is the difference?? Girls hook up with girls all the time. Who cares if it is a guy or a girl???